<p>^ Lol, me too!</p>
<p>I’m saying ‘unfortunately’ cuz he’s out of my league. I would prefer it if I was out of HIS league. It’d make me feel better…</p>
<p>LOL. that’s too bad?</p>
<p>Wow, that was an unexpected development. :P</p>
<p>^ Haha, tell me about it. All that fretting and worrying about getting beaten up in the middle of the night with a baseball bat was for nothing.</p>
<p>So, I’m looking at his pics and he is totally ripped. Bah. I want my old roommate back 
Haha. If I go to the gym for two weeks straight…</p>
<p>Don’t do it over the Internet.</p>
<p>Oh Jesus…</p>
<p>=( @ this thread</p>
<p>this thread makes me LOL.</p>
<p>i still dont know my roomie yet, but chances are he’s gay, asian, or gay&asian (gaysian?)</p>
<p>that sucks!!!</p>
<p>Wait for April Fools then tell him, “I’m straight.”</p>
<p>Lmao @ this thread now. xD</p>
<p>My roommate is… Christian. Evangelical, conservative. Still not looking forward to that conversation.</p>
<p>Jesus hates this thread!</p>
<p>I know it might sound uncool, but that’s the way I think about the question. There’s a reason by which dorms are coed (mostly) but girls and guys do not share a room (usually), and I guess that it is to avoid living in the same closed space with someone for which, hypotheticaly, you’d have sexual interest.</p>
<p>I’d sincerely feel uncomfortable being roommate with a girl, regardless of his cuteness/coolness, except if she was kind of a long time friend and friend only (that would bring other problems, too).</p>
<p>In addition, I’d feel far more uncomfortable with a gay roommate. The merely idea that a man who is attracted to other man (regardless of whether he would be attracted to me specifically) is sharing a room in so close proximity is awkward. I would refuse the arrangement, claim that it would seriously affect my ability to have a decent dorm-quality of life, and would do everything reasonable to have my roommate changed.</p>
<p>It has nothing to do with prejudice, but living with someone in a room is different than sharing a office, an assignment or so on.</p>
<p>If I had no other choice, I’d make sure that our roommate contract were srict, at expense of my own ability to bring friends, girls, because if I want him to bring no sexual/dating partner to the room, so would I have to abide to the same rule. And if I were * ever * sexiled by a gay roommate, I’d be nuts with him and have a very serious conversation.</p>
<p>Colleges should match gays with lesbians and vice-versa, or put both with member of the opposite sex who are willing to take them as rommates. Even better, they’d be offerred singles, problem solved. If they don’t want to be “open”, then do as the US military, don’t ask, don’t tell.</p>
<p>I hope you are going to a progressive school, because you should not have to tell him you are gay.</p>
<p>Europegrad’s post just reminded me of a bizarre conversation I had with a (not any more) close friend. I had invited her to room with me since she wasn’t going to get on-campus housing otherwise and my roommate status was iffy. She then went on to tell me the problem was that I’m gay. She said she’s totally, 100% pro-gay rights, an ally, has only gay friends, yadda yadda yadda, but she’d think it was disgusting to have a “pervert leering at me” every time she went to went, and she feared “having one of them try to rape me at night.” Needless to say, I’m glad she won’t be living on campus because I wouldn’t want to share a hall with one of THEM, meaning heartless hypocrites.</p>
<p>(Oh, Europegrad – that doesn’t mean I’m attacking you. Sorry. You just sort of reminded me. Thanks for being civil.)</p>
<p>I’ll never understand that line of thought, but then again, I grew up in a pretty liberal “gay” environment all my life. I disagree with GLBT people having to room with GLBT people since there are TONS of people who are fine rooming with a gay person. My current roommate is totally okay; we’ve both made it clear that neither of us have intentions to date freshman year, neither of us will sexile the other, and if either of us get the urge to kissy-kissy with either gender, just head out, find a nice tree, and go to town. :)</p>
<p>Quick advice to Europegrad: a number of dorms have anti-discrimination policies, meaning you can’t change roommates based on their sexuality. My best advice would be to make it clear as soon as you meet him (hopefully, in your case, before he comes out if he’s gay) that NEITHER of you will be bringing dates back, NEITHER of you will express your sexualities openly, and NEITHER of you will discuss it again. Yes, this means no nekkid lady posters on your side of the room, no girlfriends, no talking about hot chicks; if he couldn’t comfortably live in the dorm expressing who he loves, neither should you. If he is gay, maybe you’ll get lucky and he’ll move because he doesn’t like the rules. Best way to avoid problems.</p>
<p>That’s a fair compromise you suggested. But I guess that anti-discrimination policies would note operate exactly this way. It would be discrimination to ban someone from a social activity, or for living in a given floor/hall, because of one’s sexual option.</p>
<p>By analogy, however, I can contemplate that if an heterossexual male student feels in any way harassed by a gay male student (or hetero female x lesbian whatsoever) who share a room, Residence and Dining Services would take prompt action as they would do if some heterossexual was harassed by a floor-mate of the opposite sex. Because sharing a room is an even more delicate situation than sharing a floow, squad or wing, action should be even stiffer.</p>
<p>I really think that don’t ask/don’t tell is the best approach for most environments (workplace, assignments, classwork, military etc.) If sexual option is not an issue (and it rarely should be), there’s no need to start inquiring ppl about it, and there’s no need to publicizing it loudly everytime.</p>
<p>However, I have little to no pattience with any dating-style approach from gay ppl. It’s not that it happens frequently to me (I know some straight guys appreciate gays having crush on them, it’s not my case). Little pattience applies in a clubbing situation. No pattience applies to a classmate who surely have reason to know I’m straight and would dare do try any approach that cross the friendship or courtesy line.</p>
<p>Oh, yes, I completely agree about moving students if there’s real sexual tension. Just noting that, if the only problem is feeling a little uncomfortable, most dorms won’t move you. That’s just a usual reaction to living with almost anyone in close quarters. </p>
<p>I’m not at all a fan of don’t ask, don’t tell, but I think each person has a choice whether to let their sexuality be known. I personally think all people should be equally able to express their sexualities without any fear, which sadly isn’t too possible. I don’t hide the fact – in most environments – that I’ve dated girls. I also don’t hide the fact that I would never have a crush on a straight girl, or at least I would never express it to her. If I were to room with her, I’d just take myself out of any situation in which anyone could happen. Most of us have more sense than to hit on a straight person – I think you’re too used to hearing about the bar scene. :)</p>
<p>too. many. words.</p>
<p>How is it possible to dorm with a girl? … guys are dirty. Now I sound gay (not that there’s anything wrong with that).</p>
<p>He might be gay too. Don’t make assumptions.</p>