<p>LOLz. </p>
<p>“I find…”</p>
<p>Personal opinion. </p>
<p>You may not, he might not, etc…I wasn’t making a generalization, just an observation based on my experiences. </p>
<p>“Like all gay men have to be naturally flamboyant”</p>
<p>Not at all, but when pyles_m starts saying that he’s a man and behaves like a “man” I LOLed b/c I didn’t know there was a standard conduct for men~</p>
<p>Jesus Christ is the “guy” you need, not a gay, nor this discussion.</p>
<p>I didnt say that I behaved as a man, I said that I act like myself, which is a man. I do not try to conform to what other’s people image of a “man” is and I don’t have one myself.
All people are different and no, I never said nor implied that there was any rule of conduct for how men or women behaved. I posted to this thread to give advice to the OP since we are in the same situation. I did not come here to be nit-picked about my statements, have them be overly exaggerated, added to in unnecessary ways, nor defend myself.</p>
<p>and thank you stellanova, that was my point. I’m not telling anyone to behave in anyway that isn’t natural for them. I’m just trying to be myself and I think that other people should do the same thing.</p>
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<p>Everybody needs Jesus Christ, not specifically gays…</p>
<p>you could say i’m “gay” for jesus. :smug:</p>
<p>So… let’s turn this thread the opposite way… do you guys think it’s different to tell your roommate that you’re a lesbian than to tell your roommate you’re gay? Are girls less or more weirded out by that?</p>
<p>In my experience (and I have a little) straight females are a whole lot more accepting of gay females than their male counterparts are of gay men. Straight women can usually accept sexuality as just that. Straight men, on the other hand, often assume that every gay guy who crosses their path is looking to get into their pants.</p>
<p>Speaking as someone who has had all but a few of her friends come out to her at some point, it’s better to be up front.
The first gay girl (or so I thought) who I was friends with, actually came to sit with us at lunch because her table didn’t approve of her having a girlfriend. So I knew right off the bat with her, and it was fine.
The second one, I met the next year, and found out shortly later she was dating the first girl. She is now my best friend.
The third, I met at the same time as the first, but believed she was straight. She never came out to me, but we weren’t close at the time she came out.
The fourth, came out to me online. I was supportive. A few months later, her mom and dad made her call me (and my 11 year old sister) to tell us she had been wrong and she wasn’t gay.
The fifth, and the hardest by far, was my neighbor from about age one to now (18), we were best friends for thirteen years, and still talk a lot. I found out through someone else, then called her to see if it was true. Her not telling me did not damage our relationship because we were not close at the time, but I understand why it might be harder to tell me than others.
The sixth, is the only one I did not fully support, for the simple reason that I don’t believe her. We (all our friends) believe she is at the most bi-curious, but we doubt she’s even that much. It’s hard to explain this one.</p>
<p>But anyway, tell him straight away, the worst way for him to find out is him walking on you. Facebook is fine. You’re not coming out to your parents. You’re letting your roommate know. Don’t ask him if he’s okay with it, just tell him.</p>
<p>^Really, thank you you guys for all the advice. I wholeheartedly appreciate it. I’ll let you know how it goes: sunday’s the day.</p>
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<p>Lol.</p>
<p>Roommate: <em>pushes cdover to ground</em> <em>walks on top of him.</em>
“yess…you do feel gay, underneath my feet”</p>
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<p>Well I imagine it would be pretty awkward as a dude to have to tell your roommate that you’re a lesbian. I would just keep that to myself if at all possible.</p>
<p>as a guy from a conservative family i guess knowing sooner rather than later would be cool. but then its not like i would move out if i had a gay roommate, though if my parents found out they would probably want me to…changing roommates is too much effort to go through when one can simply accept it and move on</p>
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They assume this because that’s their first thought when crossing paths with a woman (i.e., getting into her pants). When you think about it, it’s not such an unreasonable assumption.</p>
<p>Honestly, I think it’s pretty insensitive for people to say “hey, it’s none of their business, don’t tell them.” You’re basically assuming that if someone hasn’t been exposed to a lot of gay people, they’re going to be bigots and deserve all of the negative consequences of their insecurity.</p>
<p>Last summer, I ended up rooming with a girl from a 600-person town in South Dakota for six weeks. I think she was sort of afraid of me at first (she claimed never to have met a lesbian before–I told her she just didn’t know it ;)), but because I was sensitive to that, she ended up being one of my best friends–not a homophobe in any way. :D</p>
<p>Now, coming out to my Jordanian host family… that’s going to be tricky. XD</p>
<p>you could say i’m “gay” for jesus. :smug: </p>
<p>Careful LogicWarrior. We’re talking God and eternity here. Take care, Dude.</p>
<p>dplane, you should read this.
<a href=“http://www.humanistsofutah.org/2002/WhyCantIOwnACanadian_10-02.html[/url]”>http://www.humanistsofutah.org/2002/WhyCantIOwnACanadian_10-02.html</a></p>
<p>“Most of my male friends get their hair trimmed, including the hair around their temples, even though this is expressly forbidden by Lev. 19:27. How should they die?”</p>
<p>my dinner today was shrimp and i was still in my polyester running shorts</p>
<p>basically i’m doomed for eternity.</p>
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<p>Tim “John 3:16 eyes” Tebow does not wear gloves. o.0</p>
<p>Guys… what if your roommate is gay too?</p>
<p>interesting thought eh?</p>
<p>it would be like rooming a guy(straight) with a girl(straight).</p>
<p>Dont even want to know what goes on in your dorm room Cdover if he’s gay.</p>
<p>Tim Tebow…lmao</p>
<p>Wait hold on, this just in…Tim Tebow discovers cure for cancer, in between helping to feed starving African children and winning the Heisman. puke…</p>
<p>Guys, Jesus is NOT interested in laws. He wants your heart. You are missing out on an amazing man. I promise that you will fall in love with Him as He dearly loves you. How can He not love you when he made you. Don’t worry about the gay stuff. Just ask Him to invade your heart and life, then read how His most beloved disciple, John, leaned up against his chest while having dinner. The Dude, Jesus, is sooo cool, non-judgemental. He did a number on the law abiding pastors of the time, the Pharisees. Don’t get distracted by the legalists today. Just fall in love with Jesus’ grace. You will never regret it. It’s a forever, eternal thing. Enjoy Him!</p>
<p>If my roommate ended up being a Lesbian… I have to be honest… I don’t know how I would handle that. I would probably just deal with it and try to think the best of her, even though I don’t agree with her lifestyle.</p>
<p>However, I wouldn’t want a roommate who didn’t tell me. I like full out honesty.</p>
<p>It’s like this… You can assume the sky is blue, but sometimes it’s grey or purple.
You can assume the grass is green, but sometimes it’s brown.
You can assume that someone likes chocolate, but sometimes some people don’t.
You can assume someone is straight, but sometimes they aren’t.</p>
<p>The reason why you have to say that you’re gay, v them saying they are straight, is because it’s assumed. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.</p>
<p>It’s like in Israel, you could assume someone is Jewish, but they very well could be an Atheist.</p>
<p>Absolutely nothing wrong with that.</p>
<p>Anyways, I’d just say after a few conversations… “I hope this doesn’t bother you, but I feel like you should know that I’m gay.”</p>