<p>russell7, thank you for your reply
it actually helped me a lot</p>
<p>as for everyone else,
this thread isnt to discuss heritage, skin color, or anything else.
so let’s stop.
if i wanted to discuss that id post a new thread about it.</p>
<p>and as for me acting pathetic
to be honest, i dont really think you have the right to say how im acting, but whatever. if thats what you think fine. i also think you are acting pathetic in the sense that you’re arguing skin color on a college forum.</p>
<p>I don’t know, i think “attractivness” has a lot more to do with exuding a certain attitude and behavior then just flat out physical appearance. I know quite a few conventionally “gorgeous” grils who don’t get approached all that often while my sister on the other hand- who, though very cute, gets basically accosted by everything with a Y chromosome when she goes out. i think it has to be that she gives off this attitude of really wanting attention- has crazy hair, dresses really fly etc.
so sometimes, acting like you got it going on could help. i say that while being the complete opposite, i’m defintietly not a shy person, but when it comes to boys- they don’t really notice i exist, or at least not the ones I would actaully like to notice me.</p>
<p>Ah come on… haven’t you at least been hit on by the wingman of a guy trying to bang your sister? </p>
<p>I often find that what girls find attractive in a female is different than what guys find attractive. And also, If your sister just radiates sexuality (or sluttiness, dare say I), than she’ll of course get more attention than other girls who are less radiant.</p>
<p>It’s not hard if you can put yourself out there. I met a pretty shy girl my 2nd week of college when I was out at a dance hall, fell in love with her, and 9 months later we are still going strong.</p>
<p>Just make sure to put yourself out there, do things you may not characteristically do. It helps when meeting people. Just remember, all freshman once first in college are trying to meeting friends and even make bfs/gfs.</p>
<p>Yeah, I just made a comment on how Russian and tan don’t go together, which was proved by a poster that pointed out some Russians. Haven’t seen anything since then.</p>
<p>And not talking to a shy girl because of insecurities? Please, most girls that I find attractive physically usually are far from shy. Generally, pretty people have confidence. Even if a shy girl was attractive, where would the relationship be a month down the road? You’d probably have to go at it for a week jut for a peck on the lips. To each his own, but that’s not my type.</p>
<p>Being shy and being prude aren’t the same thing, although they often occur concurrently in a girl’s personality. Even if you’re dealing with a prude girl, that’s where acting suavamente comes into play, Suavamente. Of course, that’s only when her hotness outweighs her coyness.</p>
<p>just a comment on the whole shyness issue.
being shy isn’t neccesarily a turn-off in a girl. some guys still fall for girls who are quieter and a little more mysterious.
also shy girls don’t neccesarily lack confidence, many of them are just not the in your face type when they go out and party.</p>
<p>as a shyer girl, i always open up when i am comfortable around someone else. its just easier for some than others. i am confident in myself, that isn’t the issue. </p>
<p>and well as for the correlation between shy and prude, well that’s just another story…lol. let’s just say that is too much of a generalization, there are a lot of shy girls who are NOT prude at all.</p>
<p>Honestly, where did you get the shy girl = prude thing? I’m probably concurrently one of the most prudish and outspoken girls I know. Besides, not that I’m any expert on this, but isn’t there a shyness gene?</p>
<p>Malika is right though. There are many. It’s more that many people tend to get a bit more loose in college than in hs. You can seem shy but that doesn’t mean you’re like that 100% of the time. </p>
<p>Either way, certain situations lend to even shy people to being much more open… regardless of how they might be outside of that situation.</p>
<p>well that’s my point. the girl after me posted that she was prudish, but very outgoing. so the generalization can be misleading. </p>
<p>i think it comes down to the fact that sometimes people are shy before they know someone well. but once you get to know them, it kind of just disappears. i think i make sense?</p>
<p>i can say this as a girl, i’m attracted to both outgoing and shy guys, but not prude guys. if prude guys even exist?</p>
<p>It’s true. Most people tend to open up around those they’re comfortable around. But, the thing is that it’s a tad harder if you’re shy. But, as long as you can figure out a way/situation that helps you overcome that, you’re golden. I figured out mine a while back..and since, I’ve become incredibly outgoing. :)</p>
<p>“just a comment on the whole shyness issue.
being shy isn’t neccesarily a turn-off in a girl. some guys still fall for girls who are quieter and a little more mysterious.
also shy girls don’t neccesarily lack confidence, many of them are just not the in your face type when they go out and party.”</p>
<p>this is exactly how i see myself in a way
im not neccessarily shy, im just not one to walk up to someone first and start a conversation
im not really, prude either
once you speak to me, ill talk and converse
im just not, in peoples faces</p>
<p>but still confident.</p>
<p>id love to hear some stories about how people met their significant others =]</p>