<p>I'm sort of a shy girl [by sort of i mean im not usually one to start conversation, but once its initiated ill gladly converse] and im about to start my freshman year in college this fall.
I dont know why but I'm concerned that while in college ill have trouble meeting someone. i dont really like being lonely, but im afraid my shy nature will get in the way of this.
please don't tell me to just get over it and walk up to someone and start conversation, because no matter how hard i would love to be able to do that, i know it will more than likely never happen.</p>
<p>Id really love to hear some of your stories about how you all met a significant other in college, even if it didn't end up working out in the end.</p>
<p>I have to imagine that college is the easiest time there will ever be for meeting people. Especially early on (but even after that) most everybody is in the same boat and most people are pretty open to meeting new people. </p>
<p>As for stories, I’ve had two girls that I’d actually call a significant other (one that I’m still with) and several other flings that just didn’t turn into anything long term. I met the first girl at a football game. The guys I was sitting with ended up going back early since the weather was terrible but I stayed. There was a girl sitting next to our group that we’d gone back and forth with high fives and what not with during the game (not so many since the game wasn’t going so well…) but her friends left her also, so it was just the two of us. We started talking about bs things (the game was going terribly by this point so it was easy to not pay attention to it and just pay attention to her) and after it was over we just walked around campus for about an hour, talking some more. I got her number, we hung out, started dating, both figured out that we’re not really right for eachother at the same time and had a good break-up. </p>
<p>The second girl, who I’m still with, I met in class. We had english together which ended around 11, and about halfway through the semester I started walking back from class with her, since we were going in the same direction. We talked a lot and then started getting lunch after class. I started inviting her out on dates other than after class and then we started dating. We’ve been going out for a few months over a year now.</p>
<p>Other girls that I didn’t end up dating I met through friends mostly. My roommate had a lot of friends from highschool on campus and his female friends would try to set me up with their friends. Those just never happened to work out though. I’ve never met a girl at a party that I’ve come anywhere close to dating.</p>
<p>You’re a girl so things are a bit different for you, but hopefully at least some guys will start trying to talk to you. I know it’s hard to start a conversation but trust me, the more you do it the better and more comfortable you’ll be with it.</p>
<p>It’s very easy to meet people in college. I was (still am) heavily involved in extracurricular actives. Joining clubs, organizations, sports, etc. is the best way to meet people, especially others with interests similar to yours. Getting to know classmates is also advantageous. A large part of college is the socialization.</p>
<p>I met the love of my life in college, during my freshman orientation, actually. He was a junior who was part of the orientation staff. I wasn’t looking for anyone, but we found each other, and there was an instant connection. We’ve been together nearly 6 year now.</p>
<p>I was also shy in high school. I found that college really helped me find myself and gain confidence. In high school, I was quiet and reserved. Now, I’m outgoing and social. College can really change some people.</p>
<p>ive been thinking of joining the equestrian team at my school
and im in their honors college which hosts a lot of special activities
so i hope this helps me gain some confidence</p>
<p>If you’re a good-looking girl, you’ll be constantly needing to use Max Repels just to prevent from getting hit on all the time at college. </p>
<p>My girlfriend and I had class together. Flirted a few times. Asked her out to dinner. She found an excuse to come down to my room a few days later. Started hooking-up. Continued hooking-up. Relationship ensued–voila, the prestige of the trick!</p>
<p>well, i guess giving people a clue to what i look like might actually help with answers.
but easy, you make an excellent point.
hope there are confident guys out there then ha.</p>
<p>anyways, im about 5’3"
naturally black, wavy hair
about average weight [probably about 125-127]
tan skin [russian heritage]</p>
<p>You already know what you have to do, so do it. Refusing to do something and then complaining about it is so counterproductive. I think it’s pretty pathetic to look for confidence in other people when you don’t even have it yourself.</p>
<p>Tan skin and Russian don’t really go together IMO.</p>
<p>“Tan skin and Russian don’t really go together IMO.”</p>
<p>Anna Kournikova, Maria Sharapova, Maria Kirilenko… just female tennis players off the top of my head.</p>
<p>Tan, Russian, and hot–err I mean they should be celebrated for their athletic feats and not for their looks, because accomplishments are all that matter.</p>
<p>well, for all of you
believe it or not
russians are very tan
not like, black
not like, a hawiian
but we’re tan
i would know…trust me.
it depends on the area where you’re from too
so dont question my heritage because im pretty sure i know myself and ancestry…</p>
<p>anyways, off topic.
i posted this thread to hear some stories
not to have people argue over my skin…</p>
<p>oh and by the way, suavemente
if you’re going to threads just to post a bad comment
you really should find a new hobby.</p>
<p>i dont rely on others confidence
but what exactly would you like me to do?
im shy, i dont like going up to people
its not going to prohibit me from ever meeting someone.
as for calling me pathetic, i think its pathetic you have to put you’re two cents in at the bottom about tan-ness, since its completely off topic and you’re obviously trying to look like a smart a**</p>
<p>Russians are pretty tan when you compare them to western europeans and scandinavians. Although maybe not to the extent of Romanians, Italians, Greeks, etc.</p>
<p>Shelby, you have the perfect height for a girl and I LOVE wavy black hair. </p>
<p>Anyway, back on topic. Meeting someone as a girl boils down to your appearance, for the most part. Unless you have the guts to approach a guy (not many do), you’ll have to let the guys do the approaching; all you can really do is drop hints. Also whether you go out to social events and whatnot; if you’re a complete recluse, you won’t have much luck.</p>
<p>I’ve met people (as a guy) in all sorts of situations. One time a chick just chased me after class to give me her number, one time I asked when homework was due to the chick next to me in class and we kind of went from there, I’ve met chicks at parties, through friends, many other ways.</p>
<p>He didn’t say it in the most tactful way but what he said was largely true. It is a bit wrong to expect everyone else to come up to you when you won’t go up to anyone. It CAN work that way, but you’ll overall be better off if you build up your confidence now, so that when you need it you’ll have it. You have to build confidence over time and it’s hard, but it’s something that it REALLY helps to have. Being shy won’t prohibit you from meeting SOMEONE but it’ll prohibit you from meeting a lot of people.</p>
<p>I didn’t call you pathetic; I called the way you are acting pathetic. :)</p>
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<p>I save all my tact for “in real life” things; it’s nice to be able to just say things straight online.</p>
<p>And just a little side note: if you’re attractive, you shouldn’t have trouble with not having any guys trying to talk to you unless your shyness somehow translates into a “F-ck off” sign on your forehead.</p>
<p>Since when does an attractive girl’s shyness dissuade guys from making advances? </p>
<p>Have any of you guys here ever not approached a girl because you thought “hm, this girl seems shy” and it wasn’t a cop out for your own insecurities and lack of confidence in approaching girls? </p>
<p>If you’re an attractive girl, even if it’s known that you have vaginal walls lined with acid and that you have spikes projecting from your cervix, you’ll still have guys actively trying to hit that.</p>
<p>As an attractive girl, the problem is not getting guys. The problem is getting guys that meet your certain standard for awesomeness. And those guys are harder to get because they have greater selective powers and have options other than you.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t date a shy girl but that’s just me. I’d still go up and talk to one (although I wouldn’t know she was shy until I did that so I don’t really see how that’s relevant.)</p>