<p>ok how many sons or daughters that went away to college broke up with their bf or gf during the break? My daughter is involved with someone that is a first year student away at college and things seemed to have changed with the bf. I feel its only a matter of time. Initailly their was all that typical"nothing will come between us... I love you sooo much...." etc.(I know lol)now break comes and bf is distant, acting wierd. My guess is he's having second thoughts about the making it work stuff but is too cowardly to fess up. Will it just linger on a slow dying death or will it be swift. I am hoping swift.</p>
<p>A breakup? Oh, make my dreams come true!!! No news yet.</p>
<p>No breakup. If anything, they seem to be more serious about the relationship. We even had Thanksgiving dinner with GF's family. S and GF are both in college, about 4. 5 hrs away from each other by bus. We actually like GF a lot, if they break up, it will be painful for us too.</p>
<p>As far as I know the relationship is intact, but my son could not come home for Thanksgiving due to athletic commitments. His gf is still in high school and my son is 8 hours away, but it seems as if the relationship has survived. They have dated for over 3 years and we do really like her, so I have kind of adopted the attitude that what will be, will be. If they can survive a long distance romance more power to them.</p>
<p>The dreaded "Turkey Drop" as one adcom member called it.</p>
<p>It was this forum that had some very funny posts about the frequency of breakups on the Thanksgiving holiday. One wag even dubbed it "the Turkey dump" and indicated it was a very common phenomenon. So far on this thread, it looks like romance is alive and well. </p>
<p>I did get a real laugh out of Baseballmom's post. Sometimes, even though the gf or bf is a great person, the parent can't help wondering how much of campus fun and adventure and life is being passed by glued to the phone (how things have changed with the advent of unlimited long distance calling plans from when I went to college)</p>
<p>I do think the long distance relationships survive a little easier today than back in "our" day. We couldn't afford to make long distance calls and how long could letter writing really last? Today with IM, webcams, and cell phones--it's almost like being there. But Charm is so right--how many stay glued to the phone?</p>
<p>Son's roommate last year called his gf every time he did something different--going to shower now, going to library now, doing laundry now, going to eat now, on and on. Drove son crazy. Of course son had gf at beginning of year that called him so much that he stomped on his phone in frustration and had to ante up the money to replace that ;).</p>
<p>D & bf are about 2.5 hours away from each other. He's visited her monthly, but she's been unable to visit him (he took his car to school, she's taking hers after Christmas.) They've dated for a little over 3 years and seem close as ever. That's ok with us, he's a nice young man.</p>
<p>DD and boyfriend broke up just before she left for college, but he seemed to think they would get back together when she came back. Took most of the first term to convince him that wasn't going to happen. So he came by last week to pick up his "stuff", permanently ending the relationship. Maybe that's the turkey leftovers dump?</p>
<p>Of my closest friends (9 counting me) who went away to school the same year I did, only one was in a relationship and yes, he broke up over Thanksgiving. (The other guy I knew who was ended his in August before he left for school...the other 7 of us were all single).</p>
<p>"A breakup? Oh, make my dreams come true!!! No news yet."</p>
<p>LoL. Well, just a few weeks till winter break!<br>
Anybody expect a lump of coal in their stocking?</p>
<p>I'm a year older than Mrs. WashDad. We dated my senior year in high school, and when I went to college I lasted longer than Turkey Dump Day. She waited to cut me loose at Christmas (Merry Christmas!). I'm pretty persistent, so we dated for a while the following summer and then she dumped me again. Two years later we were at the same party, and we went for a walk together. The next year we were married. Some lessons:</p>
<ol>
<li><p>Some guys just never give up (even if they aren't stalkers, and date other girls along the way).</p></li>
<li><p>Just because she cuts the loser bf loose on Turkey Day, he might bob back to the surface again.</p></li>
<li><p>Sometimes young women just don't recognize their True Love on the first try. Or the second. As Harris Telemacher said, "There's someone out there for everyone - even if you need a pickaxe, a compass, and night goggles to find them."</p></li>
</ol>
<p>Good luck to those of you suffering/enjoying young love.</p>
<p>My boyfriend, who was a year ahead of me in college, came home every weekend to see me the first year he was away at school, except for the weekends I visited him. We were in school together after that first year. We never broke up, were married six months after graduation (it took him an extra year due to a major change so we graduated the same year), and have been together over 20 years. Looking back, he missed out on a lot of the college experience, and I wouldn't want to see my freshman son follow that course, but it worked out very well for us.</p>
<p>WashDad--what a story!</p>
<p>DD knew BF in HS, he was a year ahead and they were friends. He then went to university about an hour or so awway, they began as BF-GF with plans to break up when she left for uni freshman fall year. They did not, they had a long distance relationship the entire time, now this past weekend, BF joined our family and engaged little sis in all the fun planning of a two year anniversary celebration. TWO YEARS, all some distance (right now 12 or so hours apart) and still going strong.</p>
<p>Stay tuned for further developments.</p>
<p>Your story sounds like what my daughter and her bf are planning. My older daughter says constantly that bf is being robbed of the college experience by coming home most weekends. He insists that the experience she speaks of is not what he feels is most important. Personally I feel he would fit in great with that weekend party scene and think it is only a matter of time. Just have to wait and see how xmas break goes.</p>
<p>S reports 4 "turkey dumps" amongst his freshman friends after the Thanksgiving break,but his long distance relationship seems to be holding up.She even visited us during the break,as even when they are "home" they are 5 hours apart.
We'll see what happens over the longer Christmas break.S's original plans to go see her before Christmas have been scuttled due to wisdom teeth surgery schedule.</p>
<p>DID they break up? Our s. is already talking marriage, and he's a BFA with a lot of moving around ahead of him. They will be six hours apart by car. Right now, he plans to come home at least eight times the first year -- which we know is almost impossible.....We sympathize and even empathize, since both of us were sure we'd marry our first loves...but so much changes! I guess the old sa is true: If it's real, it will last. BUT will our s. truly experience life at college when he's living six hours from his own heart?</p>
<p>Yes, they broke up in April. His mom stopped letting him come home every weekend and when he did he was expected to cater to his mom more than my D. He claimed there was nothing he could do about it. It was a dragged out situatation and he didnt take it very well. My D told him she didn't want to go to college having a bf. She found he was getting annoying and that was it. I thought it would never end but it did. He still texts and ims her when hes been out drinking but she is done with him. It is much easier to go to college without someone at home waiting for you. But when you are young you have to learn on your own, not from someone just telling you. Good Luck</p>
<p>I have really been miserable over this. My S is a freshman, and a 6 hour drive from his GF of only 3 months. In my mind, the relationship has moved too fast too quickly. Neither has a car and an easy way to see each other...but I'm sure there are lots of calls, texts, etc.. He came to visit her this weekend, and now said he is "thinking" about transferring next year because he misses her. They are both adjusting and doing well in their respective schools. I feel very strongly that the only way to acclimate to being at college and living away is being there...(making friends, becoming part of the school's social fabric.) I said he could visit once every 2-3 months. Her parents do not want her visiting him. Any thoughts out there?</p>