<p>absolutely the worst thing to do is to gnash your teeth & wait. you know it's time to just ask her to the prom--it's now or never & if you don't you'll always kick yourself with what "might have been." i'm sure she'll be flattered & you can see how things develop. good luck!</p>
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<p>yes!! im ready!! thx for the knock in the face, im awake, I can see :-D gonna do it! pumped yes!! lol thx spongebob</p>
<p>lol thx hi mom, everyones right im ready w00t haha nom de plume good analogy sort of lol</p>
<p>I just spend I don't know how much time reading this ENTIRE thread. I'm actually interested in what happened to the posters that were originally posting in this thread. What happened with the "Superman" guy? BTW there has been some real funny stuff here and a lot of the advice is helpful but of course not everything applies to everyone. To each their own, you just have to find what works for you. I'm a HS senior myself and I dedicated so much time my studying and I've never left the house that now I'm finding it really hard to just get out there. But I'm willing to make the changes I need. And when there's a will there's a way. Later on I might share my story because like most here I have that problem I'm worrying about but that will be for another time because it's too late (or too early, depending on how you look at it, time wise) to write it out.</p>
<p>Y'know...I have the opposite question. I don't particularly want a boyfriend, and I certainly don't want to make a boyfriend out of any of the single guys that I know at school thus far. However, I'm all for making friends...guy friends, girl friends, doesn't make a difference to me. So if some guy's talking to me, I'm thinking to myself, "potential friend here".</p>
<p>But stupid me, it's taken me far too long to realize that the guy's definately not thinking that. The guy's interested in either dating me if I already like him or making me like him if I don't, apparently. These aren't random people I met at a party and will never see again, either. That would be easier because then I could just be blunt and say no and be done with it. These are people that are in lots of my classes, or at work, or in other places where I'll pretty much see them several times a week for months. And they keep doing things like casually suggesting we hang out or grab dinner somewhere since class ended at dinner-ish time and everyone's hungry. Things that friends would do that aren't obvious "date" activities that are also extremely hard to say 'no' to without having everyone in the major think you said 'no' because you're a prissy ***** that doesn't want to have anything to do with anyone. </p>
<p>So I say sure whatever as long as it's something cheap and I end up being drug to a fancyass expensive restaurant with wine and candles, having my dinner paid for. I do not like being sneak-dated. And I do not know how to get rid of sneak-daters. Having boring conversations with them does not work. Always having something else to do when they ask you to do something with them does not work. Saying "I don't like you don't talk to me ever again please" would probably work but it would make classes a bit awkward. The hell am I supposed to do?</p>
<p>Why not be assertive & say, "Great idea, let's eat at the great new coffee house near campus, ____<strong><em>, or we can try the new pizza place, _</em></strong>_____, otherwise it'll just blow my budget."</p>
<p>This establishes the tenor of where you're interested in going somewhere casual, inexpensive & paying for yourself! I always set the tone & kept my buddies as my good buddies. I invited handy folks to come along with me & my buddies so it didn't become a romantic event--hard to get romantic ideas in more casual settings with lots of friends/companions along.</p>
<p>Never been "sneak dated" myself.</p>
<p>Blah,</p>
<p>I would suggest being honest with these guys. It may seem awkward, but try and be honest about your feelings with them and, whatever you do, DON'T begin with something along the lines of "we need to talk", bring your friends with you (no, not even for "moral support"), tell his friends, or have someone else do it for you. Just be honest and let him know you like being his friend but don't desire any more than that.</p>
<p>Well I can't bring along my friends in this case because most of them are 50+ miles away, hence trying to make more local friends. The problem is that a lot of times they're not being real obvious/open about their intentions or they're just plain clueless. I don't want to blurt out something about not being interested in anything more than being friends right off the bat when they haven't really done'/said anything yet because it's sort of presumptuous. And the one main person that I'm thinking of, we've already had one if not several conversations about 'yeah I don't really want a boyfriend' and 'yeah I hate it when my guy friends try to hit on me' and the damn idiot still keeps trying to get me to go out with him or kiss him. I have half a mind to ask guys if they're gay or taken and only talk to them if they say 'yes' to either. x_X</p>
<p>Blah, consider yourself to be kinda lucky because I know alot of girls that would love to be in your position.</p>
<p>You can still bring along others in the area when the invitation is issued--folks in the class or wherever you are & say, "Yeah, let's all go to Subway or McDonalds or the dorm dining hall or wherever." Doing things in groups is a good way to meet more folks & discourage romance.</p>
<p>I dont know, I dont want to jump the gun but I think that Blah you might be really picky, I mean, unless you have your heart set against not having boy friends, and not wanting to be intimate with anyone, its quite possible you might want to but you dont know what you want yourself, and all the people you have been meeting arent what you look for in a guy. And when you meet a friend who is really cool and gets your heart beating faster, you mihgt actually ask him out for a date. </p>
<p>I have this theory that most girls do and dont know what they want. When it comes to knowing what to do with a particular guy they know what to do and what not to do, but when it comes to knowing what they like in a guy it really doesnt stand much weight.</p>
<p>The reason I can say this is because Ive seen your situation in real life places soooo many times, girl has friends who hit on her and try to get intimate and girl just wants to be friends.</p>
<p>I think if you want those guys to stop asking you out, you need to ask yourself what do you want from a guy. When you know that then you can decide whole heartedly whether you want a guy or not right now. </p>
<p>Then when you meet the right guy, you can make your move.</p>
<p>I persoanlly believe women secretly want guys who have a hard exterior but also can have a soft moment or two, its that alure of a bad boy. You might not like thses types of guys blah, but alot of girls I know that are young and in college are usually attracted to these kind of men and its there dirty little secret, its not something they tell their friends or think about too often. I also believe that women dont get attracted to nice men, or those who are not aggresive enough to take what they want, that even though you might say we all want nice men, that you guys really want a man to take charge and control of the situation in the proper way.</p>
<p>I have a question. Does anyone have a boy/girlfriend who isn't your ethncity [I don't mean like your Chinese and your b/gfriend is Japanese or something to that extent]? In other words, any inter-racial couples out there? =]</p>
<p>bookfreak,</p>
<p>For many the difference between Chinese and Japanese is as big as white and black. </p>
<p>That said, many many people do. My girlfriend now of 7 years is of Chinese heritage.</p>
<p>let me guess...you met her at hizen-cho Japan?</p>
<p>I didn't mean to offend anyone or anything, but I mean different race i suppose. Asian, African-American, Caucasian, and Latino. UCLAri, what's your ethnicity?</p>
<p>BestMiler,</p>
<p>Japan? There aren't many Chinese people in Japan...Besides, I've only lived in Hizen for 6 months. How in the world could I have a girlfriend of 7 years from a place I've been in for 6 months?</p>
<p>I met her in Woodland Hills, CA.</p>
<p>bookfreak,</p>
<p>I'm technically "caucasian."</p>
<p>Uclair, i thought you were in Japan for a long time, example for work purposes...
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<p>How could I have been in Japan working for 7 years when I'm 22?</p>
<p>UCLAri, lol. are you supposedly european? If you are, that's pretty cool, I've always thought Europeans were cool. lol. If not then...</p>