<p>playing games is dumb. be yourself but with a little bit of extra confidence, fake it if you have to, and make sure you have the basic attractive qualities (dress well, be well groomed and have good hygene). be friendly, be happy, and girls will be happy to be around you.</p>
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<p>so true, curiouskatie</p>
<p>reviving and old thread. so what other tips do you guys or girls have for guys that have trouble with girls</p>
<p>I remember taking one night to reading everything here. Damn. You could just have created a new thread you know. Talk about bringing the past back.</p>
<p>Ha. I wasn't on CC yet when this thread was around the first time, so it is new to me.</p>
<p>Sombody earlier said that more girls should ask guys out. I'm a shy girl and agree. After months of having a crush on one of my good friends and unsuccessfully trying to flirt, I finally got up the nerve to ask him out. He was impressed that I had the nerve to do it. Girls, if I can do it you can too. :)</p>
<p>How did you go about asking him out? And are you still going out with him?</p>
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As a rule of thumb, if you can't talk to your crush it usually means that the two of you aren't compatible. If you find yourself struggling to make conversation, cut your losses short and get out of there.
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<p>Hmm.. I must advice I think this little bit of advice sounds very very helpful, blunt and straight to the point, ubt helpful none the less.</p>
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How did you go about asking him out?
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<p>My school has an instant messaging protocol called zephyr. It was late at night, I was in my dorm room unwinding after my daily studying for finals, he was at his house (a couple of miles away) getting ready to go to bed, and we were chatting. I was hoping to "casually" bring the conversation around to some topic where we could get onto the issue of relationships, and I was failing badly, so finally I just blurted out that I "liked" him and was interested in him, and asked him if he wanted to get dinner in the next few days.</p>
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<p>He was having some personal issues, and I was about to go abroad for the summer (girls and guys, try to have better timing than I did! :)). We decided to look at the question again in the fall, when he will have recovered and I will be back on campus, and not stressing about finals, rather than start anything right then.</p>
<p>I will also use my story as a springboard to say...girls, not only should you ask the guys out if you want them, but even if a guy is older and/or much more experienced than you, you can still do it! I've noticed that some girls seem more intimidated by the idea if there is a big experience gap, and I bet the same is true for guys. Don't let that be the factor that stops you! If I did, I would never get anywhere, because pretty much everyone is more experienced than me. ;)</p>
<p>yea, i have a couple questions maybe u guys can help me out...</p>
<p>I don't really get the "subtle hints" that girls send when they are interested
if a couple girls i met a few weeks offer to give me rides or ask me to go out to eat with them durin lunch break, what does htat mean? are they just bein polite...? i just don't get how they really feel...</p>
<p>Im not the type of person who is good at reading between the lines</p>
<p>haha idk, i think if a guy liked me and didn't ask me out himself he wouldn't be right for me bc i like outgoing more aggressive types</p>
<p>taekwondo- well i know most girls wouldnt be asking someone who they have no interest in so they prob werent just being polite but it kind of depends on the situation</p>
<p>Yea subtle hints are the worse man. Hear my two stories.</p>
<p>First one: There was this girl I met one day in the science dept. in my school. I was just there minding my own business and these two girls walk in talking about crazy sexual stuff. I couldn't help but laugh at some of it and next thing you know I'm in the conversation. So all three of us exchanged names but that was it. I figured I wouldn't see them around, specifically the girl named Mary, around anyways cuz I've been in the school 4 years and that was the first time I even saw her. A couple of days later, I'm selling candy and I see a classroom open. There is this crazy kid acting up in the class (literally the kid is a nut case) and I just had to see what was going on to get a few good laughs and see if I could sell candy. So I'm standing by the door and I see her sitting and say hi. I pick up my box and showcase it from the doorway. Next thing you know she's walking up to me. I think she thought I was telling her to come over and I wasn't I just wanted to sell candy. Well I don't know what to say to her and just say the first thing that comes to my mind, "soo you have this class this period?" and she's like yea and I'm like ohh that's cool. and then i had nothin else to say so i figured might as well see if she wanted some candy. she didn't and that was that. i told her i had to go back to the science dept. to work and she was like ohh you're leaving? and i said yea yea. alright so after that encounter i see her in the hallway a couple of other times. most of the times i saw her she was goin to that same class and I would always ask the same stupid question "ohh so you got this class again?" only to get the same answer everytime. yea the girl was hot but i mean i didn't know what to say to her. what else could i say? well here is where it gets a bit interesting. at this point i noticed everytime i saw her in the hallway and she was alone she would run down to me and hug me. when i saw her in the hallway but she was with other ppl she either wouldn't hear me or would give me a simple wave for a hi. in fact i noticed a couple of times she was with this guy at lunch. i think they were goin out or something. i would say hi to her and she wouldn't show much emotion. so who knows what the deal was with all that. eventually i did get her number. i called her and when i did she said she was busy. ehh i never called again after that.</p>
<p>second story:
there was this girl in my physics class who did service for my teacher. we always talked a bit about different things. real cool girl and pretty too. and one thing she was good at was changing conversations, randomly. i mean we would go from talkin about celebrities and somehow she would quickly change the conversation to something about sex or relationships. weird stuff. and my friends told me that i wasn't the only one to encounter this. they too had conversations with her where she just randomly changed the conversation, and it didn't always have to be about sex or relationships it could have been just about anything. well one day she started telling me about all this stuff with tellin the girl i like that i like her and all this and that. i mean i'm usually slow with this kind of stuff but i know she was definitely flirting with me on many ocassions. in fact once she told some of my friends that she likes x, y, and z in guys and then she mentions my name as someone who has those qualities. weird enough she had a boyfriend thru all this. i ended up getting her number one day. called her a couple of times. and she had my numbers number too. i kept in contact here and there. i told her a couple of times to just give me a call back whenever she wanted. she never did. haven't called her back since. it was too weird. i don't know what was up with her. i mean the couple of times i did call her she even said 'oh let me just hang up on my other friends.' and i can't begin to count the times she praised me making me out to be some kind of superior being. and all this while she had a bf and they have been together for a while too. i just don't get it. she never calls.</p>
<p>sometimes you try to get it but it's weird. you think the signs are there and then all of a sudden you get these signs telling you otherwise.</p>
<p>i remember when i first asked a girl out in 8th grade. that ain't work out too well. she said yea. it was her bday too. next thing u kno she asks me for a cd the week of her bday (she didn't ask for the cd as a present). so i got her the cd and when her bday comes and i tell her about goin out she's like ohhh i thought the cd was gonna substitute goin out. i didn't know wat to say. she just walked on. so did i. but i haven't been able to have the guts to ask a girl out anywhere. the couple of times i've tried since then the girl doesn't pick up or just breaks contact. damn luck of mine.</p>
<p>wow who could of thought a cd could subsitute for going out lol.</p>
<p>Hahaha, Balmes, seems like you had some tough luck.</p>
<p>Well, I'm another shy one too. In fact, I took great efforts to not show my crush on the guy...</p>
<p>But yea, sometimes, I'm just being friendly with a guy and he takes it as flirting. :/ Sometimes, I want to drop hints, and a guy takes it just being friendly. Hard topic.</p>
<p>I can say personally that when I like a guy I do a few things to let him know, but I make a point of trying not to be obvious about it. I think a lot of girls are the same way, and the very existence of this forum kind of gives evidence to that lol. So! Here's the lowdown.</p>
<p>First off: If I really like a guy Ill deifnitely light up whenever he shows up at a party or at my lunch table or whereEVER. It's hard to fake that kind of happiness to see someone. So if you're wondering if a girl likes you, see if she takes any notice when you show up somewhere. Also, if you guys normally are on good terms/friendly/talkative etc, and you show up somewhere and she takes NO notice of you (or at least pretends to) she also might like you, but she just doesn't want to come off like she does. Those two things might sound entirely contradictory , but they're really not. They're both deliberate reactions to your being there--- just on the two opposite ends of the extreme. Conversely, a girl does NOT like you if you show up somewhere, and after you do she leaves the room or turns her back to you. If she likes you, she'll want to keep your sexiness in her line of sight even if shes pretending to ignore you lol. </p>
<p>Secondly: A girl does not like a guy who's too overeager or available. This is always the situation: I'll initially think someone's hot or funny and we might hit it off. I'll be giving him all the quoteunquote "signals" and maybe give him my number or something. But once he starts to call too much, or every time I seem him he's way too overeager about "whens the next time we'll hang out!?" ill immediately be turned off. And whatever signals i was putting out will stop. Guys always ask "she was giving me the signals and then it just stopped and i dont know what to think etcetcetc" and in this scenario you've done soemthing to blow it, or shes since asked her friends about you and they've blown it FOR you as she's found out youre a total perv or SOMETHING from them which may or may not even be true. At this point, just cut your losses and move on. And don't get me wrong, it's great to take the initiative with the girl you like, but keep an air of mystery or something about you. Don't make the date seem like the end all/be all of your existence. If anything do the exact opposite. Girls will complain about the guys who keep them geussing, but in the end those are the guys they won't get bored with and screen their phone for calls from.</p>
<p>Some people on here need to take remedial writing classes... :)</p>
<p>i just think that us guys should learn how to take these subtle hints from girls cause thats what i think alot of guys have problems doing.</p>
<p>i'm not the best person for advice, but there really shouldn't be any problem. She either likes you or she doesn't...If she likes u, you can get away with a lot of stuff.</p>
<p>The point is that the guy has to be the alpha male. If u just talk to girls and act interesting and don't give a **** about anything, you'll attract a fair number of girls.</p>
<p>It's weird how they all get turned off when I'm nice to them, but when I start acting really p!ssed off and angry about nothing, they get all awed and stuff.</p>
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<p>You wouldn't get me that way! I'm definitely a sucker for the "nice" guys. :)</p>
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<p>This is so, so true. At least for me. On the other hand, I'll also do that if a friend that I haven't gotten to see lately shows up.</p>
<p>How to ask girls out?</p>
<p>Do not do what a bunch of guys did to me on Friday night in a bar... which was to throw flatware at me, then, when that approach did not yield the desired results, ask the waitress to ask me to join them.</p>
<p>I did not know that, in guy world, hurling a fork at a woman's foot is considered to be an invitation to buy a glass of wine.</p>
<p>they just must have been so intimdated</p>
<p>us poor guys just drool over smart and beautiful girls, all our senses fail! </p>
<p>well almost all</p>