How to show interest, but not come off as clingy?

<p>I like this girl, and I've taken her out to one date. I also text her everyday, but I don't know if that's excessive or not.</p>

<p>Does she text you back when you text her everyday…? Also, are you always the one saying “hey” first? Or does she initiate the conversation sometimes?</p>

<p>She usually texts me back; I’m always the guy initiating the conversation unfortunately. The girl is my prom date, but I don’t think she views me as anything other than a friend. Sucks :(, but there’s always other girls I can look for.</p>

<p>Wow, don’t give up that fast. Ask her out again, and don’t be the first to start conversation all the time.</p>

<p>It’s probably because you’re so short.</p>

<p>^ I guess you’ve read my other posts?</p>

<p>Awww, no. Short guys are the cutiest. Don’t be mean. He could be very nice. </p>

<p>Also, this girl could be the type who prefers the guy to initiate things. I’m like that. Just keep persisting. You never what could happen. Especially if you really like her.</p>

<p>Ah, that’s why I thought this user seemed familiar. Just act like a normal human being and roll with your instincts. Don’t second-guess, it just overcomplicates things. In any case, you’re a senior and you won’t even have to deal with these people to nearly the same extent after a couple months.</p>

<p>Seriously, just go forth and jump! It’s the only way to get anything done in the world, whatever it is. But don’t wait too long, then you’ll end up on reddit making Friend Zone Fiona memes, and no one likes making Friend Zone Fiona memes. Except she’s hot, but other than that, no one likes them!</p>

<p>lol I’m on r/foreveralone right now. It’s probably because I’m 5’7. Anyway though, I text this girl and she responds with a decent amount of enthusiasm, but she never texts me first. I asked her on a second date, and she said sure, but I don’t know if she’s just doing this because she feels bad for me.</p>

<p>Stop over-analyzing this. Just do whatever (you feel like).</p>

<p>Yeah, it’s probably because of your height, and because 5’6" guys like myself haul off of the couch and get things done. Except not now, because I’m procrastinating on the writing I told myself I’d finally do tonight. What I’m doing to my various humanities assignments, you’re doing to your potential relationship. We’ll both end up failing if we keep on doing nothing. See what I did there?</p>

<p>Who cares if she’s just doing it because she feels bad? Stand up and go for it–no one ever ended up in a relationship by worrying whether he (or she) was a pity case. Stop analyzing and get a move on. Otherwise you’ll be stuck making more posts on reddit, man. Don’t be the forever alone guy. He doesn’t have fun.</p>

<p>Pretty sure this is about as long as one of my writing answers has to be. Oh well.</p>

<p>LOL. </p>

<p>Take it from a girl like me. Girls like getting texts, especially from guys she likes . But i’m here just to warn you, don’t text her everyday… o_0. You want to keep her on her toes, and she wants to keep you on your toes. If you text her everyday, it becomes a routine, it isn’t surprising anymore. It’s not as fun if you guys only text and call ALL THE TIME. </p>

<p>A girl actually wants to TALK to you more than TEXT all the time. Texting seems to bore a couple lol. Hang out more than text. The best days to text is when you know you guys are both free. Maybe every few Fridays or so, once to twice a week or every two weeks. That’s the best way. Maybe on the weekends do something fun (: ~</p>

<p>dude, I completely get where you’re coming from. For a while, i felt the same way about this girl who i liked (wasnt sure if i was being clingy, thought i was friend zoned, etc). so many guys feel the way you have. but heres something that I’ve heard from all my female friends–girls think differently and send different signals than guys. so, while i thought i was friend zoned by the girl i liked, most of my female friends told me that she was sending huge “I like you” signals. </p>

<p>point is don’t overanalyze these things. Don’t worry about coming off as too clingy, and remember that everyone worries about that. just go for it when you feel you two are close enough friends. get it in.</p>

<p>Girls usually want you to text them first, so you shouldn’t worry about that. But you need to have confidence and forget your height. </p>

<p>Pay attention to the way she acts around you. Just be really observant and you should be able to tell if she’s spending time with you out of pity.</p>

<p>Text her everyday, but ONLY if she texts you back and you can tell she wants to talk by her texts. I she isn’t responding, then don’t keep on texting her. A guy did that and legit I tried to avoid him as much as I could. He would send one text, I don’t respond, and then 5 minutes later he sends another one. Base how close and engaging you are by the clues that she gives.</p>

<p>Well, this one didn’t turn out well. I rented a limo for her for prom and spent a lot of $ on her to show her I cared about her. During the prom she was dancing with me, and she asked if she could dance with another guy. I was kind of shocked, so I didn’t know how to respond. I said ok fine. So she danced with the other guy, and came back to dancing with me for the rest of the night. At the post prom, she hangs out with me for a bit, and then she says she wants to hang out with her other friends. I said that’s fine. Unfortunately after an hour I see her with the same guy again. My friends told me later that she went to the beach house with that guy (when I texted her she said she might go to the beach or she might not). Ugh this sucks, but it’s all good I’ll get over it. I’m going to get a girl in the next two weeks no matter what and prove all of these guys who are hating on me wrong.</p>

<p>I’m 6’0" so obviously I don’t have girl problems, but if I did I would just ask her straight up how she feels about “us.” If it’s just as a friend then at least you have a friend still, and if it’s more than that then nice job bro.</p>

<p><em>looks at GoodACT</em> You’re 6’0", huh? </p>

<p>Anywho, I’ll turn the creep-meter down. That really sucks how that ended up. Don’t wait on that girl. It’s obvious that he was digging another guy. Ask her how she feels and only go back to her if she says she likes you and only you. If she doesn’t, drop like a bag of hot potatoes. Go find another girl.</p>

<p>I need to get a girl to like me in two weeks, so I feel wanted. Anyone have any suggestions?</p>

<p>If you’re really, really desperate and got the cash you could wait out on the streets at night…but obviously that’s not the best for you. Neither is getting a girl to make you feel better. You need ti make yourself feel better. If you show everyone that you’re doing great, looking great, and feeling great, then you won’t have the need for a girl. You’ll want a girl, but you won’t need a girl. Girls don’t like needy guys, well most of them anyways.</p>