<p>edit: Okay, looks like Easy is gone. That's unfortunate. Let's do a point by point breakdown for old times sake though, without quote tags because I'm lazy. And please, if you could possibly answer my questions it'd either help you realize how things actually work or be hilarious. </p>
<p>"Sassy, yes she has a bf that she supposed "likes". I would easily leave her alone if I'm sure she likes him more than me."
Hmm. Who does she actually like more. The person that she apparently knows well enough to date and says she likes, or the person who she hasn't spoken to in years and who never really talked to her when they did kind of know each other? And if she does like someone who was a jerk to her and hasn't talked to her in years more than a person she's currently dating what does that say about the girl? (Hint: It's not that you're some amazing catch.)</p>
<p>"Why would I hit on a girl that I don't have much chance with only to get my ego hurt."</p>
<p>Interesting that the only two things you seem to be concerned about in this whole situation are getting laid and your ego. Not the girl or anything.</p>
<p>"But people can "like" a lot of people."</p>
<p>Yes, for example their boyfriends.</p>
<p>"Nothing special."</p>
<p>Oh dear.</p>
<p>"I, for one thing, is her first crush, love at first sight, and according to her blog, everything that meant to her at the time, and maybe now."</p>
<p>Rarely is an error in grammar so overshadowed by the general idiocy of a post that it takes a couple of "disbelief reads" before you actually catch it. You're talking about the ramblings of a just out of highschool emotionally unbalanced girl. In her blog. That you're giving that more weight than the fact that she's dating another person right now is nonsensical, and hopefully removed from the situation you'd realize the same thing. It was a highschool crush that she didn't quite get over partially because you're an idiot and partially because she's an idiot but it's in the past. Leave it there.</p>
<p>"Yes I've hurt her, but that doesn't mean she'll not think about me or stopping being attracted to me."</p>
<p>Something about blind squirrels and acorns comes to mind. You've in fact hit the nail on the head, albeit totally accidentally, with this one. Is it beginning to dawn on you yet that she is attracted to guys treating her badly? So the only way you've built up her being attracted to you at all is by being a jerk? And again, what does this say about the stability of the girl?</p>
<p>"So I actually might be doing her a favor by hitting on her."</p>
<p>Oh you knight in shining armor you! Rescuing the poor girl from a lifetime of not having probably drunken sex with you for a night before you get bored and ditch her! Honestly, how could she live otherwise.</p>
<p>"I mean, giving her behavior at that party, it's hard not to think that's the case. "</p>
<p>No. No it isn't.</p>
<p>"I mean come on, she walking up behind me just trying to find a chance to talk to me after hiding when she first sees me because she didn't know how to compose herself?"</p>
<p>While it's cute you've found someone as socially retarded as you are (in a different way) that isn't really a good foundation for hooking up with a girl when she has a boyfriend and your only interest in her is "she's pretty hot now."</p>
<p>"I think I'm no worse than an underdog in a race with her bf, maybe even a favorite."</p>
<p>So she's a race to you? Some sort of game? Well, yeah, but it's nice that you've just admitted that up front. Consider how she would feel if she read the things you are currently posting. If you're following instructions what you just did is called "empathy." Try it more often.</p>
<p>"The question is: how to initialize the conversation with her without losing my dignity."</p>
<p>No, the question is:how can one lose something which one does not have?</p>
<p>So here's the deal. You've got a grossly overinflated ego, poor social abilities, and a general ignorance of how your actions can effect those around you. I honestly think that it isn't that you don't care if you hurt others, you just don't understand the concept. So cool it with this girl and move on. If you're really so great that an emotionally stable (which this girl is not) girl would want you as bad as this girl does in your head (she doesn't) then I'm sure you're beating them off with a stick as opposed to what I just said but without the words "with a."</p>
<p>Editagain:
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And Chuy: People just do not stop become interested in someone that's constantly in their head for years that easily."</p>
<p>The point is they shouldn't have that person constantly in their head anyway. You were in reality absolutely nothing to her because you never did anything but ignore her. Just another guy being a jerk to her that, thanks to probably daddy issues, she latched on to.</p>
<p>"Maybe I striked you as superficial by saying she's hotter now. What I really meant was I was kinda moved by her blog and the fact that her appearance is at least acceptable to me now, I want to give her a try."</p>
<p>So moved that you waited until she got hot to think about contacting her.
"Because I feel it would be hard to find someone that likes me as much as she does."</p>
<p>While I'm sure that's an ego boost (the last thing you need) again, consider WHY she likes you. It isn't because you're a good guy. Exact opposite. And WHY would you want someone that unbalanced around you?</p>
<p>"So I will still cherish her and treat her well. Don't think I'm trying to take advantage of her."</p>
<p>Here's the punchline. Guess what happens if you actually do that? She loses interest. Either because she only liked you for treating her badly or because even at your best you can't be as good as she's been imagining (going on the wild assumption that shes really been thinking about you this whole time) so she'll be disappointed. </p>
<p>"And maybe I sounded over confident in my post, but I'm just stating the facts that happened. No need to attack me, please."</p>
<p>I'm doing a service here.</p>