<p>Hi everyone.. theres something i don't understand. I don't know if its because i'm homesick, missing my family, or whatever, but i feel so lonely most of the time and i guess kind of depressed?</p>
<p>It doesn't make sense.. because i love my classes. Physics is kind of confusing but thats to be expected (i'm a physics major hoping to become a meteorologist one day), but the rest of my classes are engaging and i sit near people who are nice and talk to them and stuff. </p>
<p>My problem is when i'm OUTSIDE of class. When class is over, ill most likely go to the union to get something to eat, then take it back to my room, then just lay there (or sit there) until my next class. Theres usually some homework i can be doing (and should be doing right now), but i feel so crappy that i can't concentrate or muster the energy to work on it. </p>
<p>When im in my classes i don't really have this feeling at all.. im usually engaged and enjoying what im doing, and usually getting along really well with those around me. </p>
<p>The really cooky thing, is that i only really feel like this during the day. Once night, or evening comes about, i feel fine. I don't usually feel bad about being in my dorm then, and just the usually alone feeling/bla feeling goes away when it gets dark outside. </p>
<p>IDK whats going on with me, does anyone have any suggestions? Thanks.</p>
<p>If you didn't read the previous thread, im a freshmen in second semester. I'm a guy. </p>
<p>I recommend trying to engage in more activities. I was feeling very depressed and homesick for a long time before I started taking advantage of the events going on both on campus and in the area surrounding the college.</p>
<p>You may have a combination of the winter blues, homesickness and second semester let-down. After all the excitement and newness iof the first term of college, the day to day humdrum may not offer as much excitement. </p>
<p>The grey and cold of an Ohio winter could be giving you SAD, Seasonal Affective Disorder- which occurs due to a lack of UV rays from the sun. Try to get outside to exercise in the day, walking, jogging, xc skiing. Bundle up to stay warm but stop to absorb the sun if it is out. </p>
<p>You might try going to the main library, or student union to study, instead of your dorm room in the daytime. Do not self-isolate in your room- eat in the union, make small talk to others, smile at the girls. Someone, or more will smile back and be happy to meet a new person. Everyone likes talking about themselves. If you can stay enthused and interested, you may make some great new friends, or even pave the way to some dates. Good luck.</p>
<p>Is there a Psych Student Services office at your college or something similar? It might help a lot to talk to someone about this and get a professional opinion. The lack of energy seems a lot like a symptom of depression to me, and it’s never a bad idea for anyone to talk to a counselor.</p>
<p>Maybe, but Vitamin B12 also exists in meat, fish, eggs, and dairy and the supplements are generally meant for people who do not consume said food items. SAD has been linked with low levels of Vitamin D, so I would start with Vitamin D supplements.</p>
<p>Yes, vitamin D and fish oil suplements are very helpful. Mostly, though, go to the student health center and see a counselor. You are not the first student to feel this way and there are lots of ways to get you more involved. It won’t be nearly as difficult as you think.</p>
<p>Thanks for the advice guys. If this does continue I will see a counselor. I started taking a multivitamin last week, but I’ve been taking fish oil for the last month. I’m not sure what effect it has had, but I heard it’s good for health anyway, so I’m gonna keep taking it</p>
<p>Dan, just go see a counselor. Here is why: there is probably a very simple solution to the way you are feeling and it is probably very uncomplicated but you just can’t “see” it. They can help.</p>
<p>I will go to see a counselor at the first sign of me feeling like this again next week. Heck, I’d go now but I have class soon (which always makes me feel better) and then I’m going home…</p>
<p>I’m feeling that way right now actually… I woke up and realized that there was an arts event last night that several of my friends on facebook went to, but I didnt know about it plus the fact that 200 some people were invited and I wasnt… Pretty much kick off the whole thing for the day.</p>
<p>I dont understand it, because I am a nice guy. I don’t judge anyone and i give anyone a chance unless I find out they aren’t worth it. I feel like people judge me all the time and that’s why I don’t have a great social life when in reality I think it’s because of my initial introvert personality… To them I appear to not care, when in reality I do.</p>
<p>Obviously I don’t know about your school in particular, but at my college events that get a facebook page (and most other events as well) are open to the entire campus. I’m not personally invited to most things, but I find the event on facebook and RSVP.</p>
<p>I looked at the multivitamin and it says something like 300 IU for vit D which is supposedly 100% daily value. </p>
<p>Is this not enough? Since you mentioned between 1000-3000 IU. </p>
<p>I’m home now, and while its nice to relax, really i feel kind of crummy here too. Im starting to think it might be weather related, or maybe because i fear going back. IDK why i would though, because i already planned a movie night Friday with a couple girls down the hall and then Saturday tech starts up for a show i’m working on (LaBoheme at Baldwin-Wallace College in Berea, its running in rep with RENT, and is looking to be awesome!), which is probably gonna take up all of my time. I find that as long as im busy, i can go back to my room and feel good about what i just did.</p>
<p>Really this doesn’t make sense. Because while i don’t have any great friends, there are still several people that i talk to on a regular basis, and the people i do socialize with like me otherwise they wouldn’t try and socialize. </p>
<p>I’m thinking some of it might be social anxiety disorder. But only for specific situations. If i go to a restaurant, i don’t have an issue talking to the waiter/waitress. It’s the idea of getting into a big social situation with people around my age. I guess im always afraid of being judged. </p>
<p>One example is when there was a dorm event going on right across from my room. I was so nervous to just go over there that i would actually try and look under the door to see how many people were in there. I was just afraid of going over there. I think that if i could go now, i would. But whose to say the same “anxiety” wouldn’t take over? </p>
<p>I think a trip to the counselor is a good idea. According to my schools website, they can help in a wide array of things.</p>
<p>my best friend got a free t-shirt when he went to the counseling and psychological services center. he wears it around alllllll the time and me and all of my friends were jealous of him because he even GOT a free shirt hahaha so it’s definitely nothing to be embarassed about. and depending on where you’re coming from, the lack of sunlight can make a hugeee difference. i’m from southern california (70 and sunny year round, then 85 in the summer, not exaggerating) and going to university of michigan - this whole winter business really gets you down. so my doctor back home and my friends who’ve experienced this told me to take vitamin D supplements and i did. not that i had a problem with how i was feeling or anything, just as a preventative. so i can’t speak for whether it’s effective at making you feel less crummy, but i certainly haven’t felt down at all despite the temperature not being above freezing since december 1st, aside from our one outdoor hockey game and one day last week. that’s like 58 days of ****ty weather haha. looking forward to spring break for sure</p>
<p>Try a happy light! It’s like a sun lamp you can put in your room. They might even have ones that you can stick to your computer, like near the screen. Lots of times it’s just a lack of sunlight. You might want to go to a doctor first though to make sure because I’ve heard they can sometimes be expensive.</p>