I’m curious does people feel the way I do? I feel like a loser and I couldn’t make friend in college and it made me feel bad, I was dealing with a lot of stuff during college and felt depressed. One thing that was on my mind is that this one student called me a loser for not having friends. I’m a really sweet person and didn’t have much support. I was a struggling student and still kind of struggling after college. I fell into depression because I’m stuck and don’t know where to go next. I keep comparing my life to other people; like haven’t I got or feel like them. I know you’re not suppose to compare yourself to others.
Do you attend church ? If so, speak with the pastor/minister/priest/rabbi about your thoughts & your need for counseling and a support group.
Anyone who made such a rude & insensitive comment to you has serious self-esteem issues. Try to forget about those mean comments.
Now that you have earned a college degree,you need to secure a job. Working should direct your thoughts to more positive & productive areas.
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Thats the problem I don’t know what to go into for a job. I have my Associate Degree of Arts and I have a Bachelor Degree of Arts for Liberal Studies. I want to enjoy my hobbies but its like I lost touch with everything.
Then consider counseling as depression is a state of mind that needs to be treated.
All that I can suggest is to take any job for which you are qualified during this period of “labor shortage”.
While it may seem difficult to get motivated for any job, it can help psychologically as well as financially.
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I agree with @Publisher that you should take any job you can find right now. I recommend restaurant work at a fun, lively establishment. You can meet good people and will have lots of interaction with other people. Any job right now is better than none. Even if you end up hating it, it will at least show you what you don’t want to do. There are jobs for the taking right now.
Meanwhile, use the career center at your college. Typically, you can still utilize the services of the college career center even a year of two after you graduate. Call and ask what they offer. Make an appointment and go.
Seek the help of a therapist or counselor. Getting your mind out of its depressive state will help you in life. Start thinking of options going forward. What interests do you have? Start small. Look at jobs through Linked In. Contact everyone you know and ask if they know of an opening. Being proactive, rather than standing by watching others, will keep you busy and hopefully will motivate you.
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Congrats on your degrees. Remember to take time to relax, have fun. Consider volunteering. Your community will benefit from your involvement and your gift of time and talent. Unpaid work counts as experience.
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You are not a loser.
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Do you have family or anyone else that you can rely on for support? I agree with the advice above to get any job to get yourself out there. Things will get better.
You are not a loser. 
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You are not a loser! 
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