I have a roommate dilemma--already

<p>My roommate information was mailed out in early August. I don't go to school until early September. Well, my roommate called me shortly after we got our room assignments and we talked, said what we were gonna bring, whatnot. The next night I started getting bizarre phone calls. Most of the time, they were just hang-ups, but once when I didn't answer the phone, they left a really weird message, that was making fun of the fact that I was a music major, I guess, I'm really not sure. </p>

<p>I was sure it wasn't my own friends, and knew that the only person from the college I'm going to who has my phone number is my roommate. Well, I continued to get a weird phone call about once a week. Then, I discovered my roommate's Myspace. There are several, what I would call, disparaging remarks about me on there. Also, he mocks me, and the fact that I'm going to be a music major.</p>

<p>I have only talked to him twice over the phone and that was just to introduce myself and ask what we each were bringing. Maybe the phone calls were just his kind of humor, but his Myspace definitely left a bad taste in my mouth. It's sort of a bad way to start off. This guy doesn't even know me. I'm kind of confused and don't know what's going to happen when we actually start living together...</p>

<p>Any suggestions or advice?</p>

<p>Talk to him about it. It's all you can do.</p>

<p>Ask for a roommate change right away, and if your college wants to know the reason, tell them your suspicions (be clear that they are only suspicions!).</p>

<p>Make your own MySpace page dedicated soley towards making disparaging remarks at his mother. </p>

<p>But in all seriousness, anyone with a MySpace that is not trying to make a quick buck or under the age of 16 is probably a loser.</p>

<p>he sounds horrible.
get to college & on the first day , just start a fist fight w/ him.</p>

<p>Start doing the phone call thing to him, that'd be a good way to let him know you figured out what's going on.</p>

<p>I think you should pursue getting a new roommate as soon as you can. Print out a couple of pages of the guy's MySpace as evidence as to why you need a new roommate since colleges usually try to not switch roommates. Not only is this guy rude, but you'd end up living with someone with a 12 year-old's mentality (most 12 y/o are mature enough to not actually do this though).</p>

<p>he probably has your # in recent calls and when he puts his cellphone in his pocket, random buttons get pressed and it dials your #. Does this sound like it could be it?</p>

<p>that sounds so middle school</p>

<p>^ That wouldn't explain the myspace messages though.</p>

<p>Honestly anyone who writes 'teehee my future roommate has a dumb major' comments on his myspace isn't really in the position to be making fun of other people. They probably will not want to let you switch roommates until you actually get there, just because they like to avoid that whenever possible. And usually the process is started through the RA, and you don't know who that is yet. You could try talking to housing but you will probably have to wait to do anything until you actually get there.</p>

<p>What's his major, out of curiosity?</p>

<p>I'd imagine it's easier to change roommates before you actually move in than afterwards.</p>

<p>PRINT THE MYSPACE OUT AND GIVE IT TO THE HOUSING DIRECTOR ASAP.</p>

<p>School admins, be it HS or college, often will look at MySpaces. At my alma mater, the head tech guy found the MySpace of almost every student there and turned in the ones with provocative or drinking pictures (obviously the drinking is underage for a HS student). He actually saved one of my friends from going down the wrong path in the process, so it does work.</p>

<p>Also, if the messages are still on your phone, you can play them back as well.</p>

<p>This guy sounds like a jerk. Request a roommate change immediately. Print out his Myspace page and cite his phonecalls.</p>

<p>This might just be his idea of a joke, but it sounds...uh...weird. LOL.</p>

<p>I would call the housing people, and say, this is going on, I do not feel safe, and need a roommate change</p>

<p>Cause with a person who doesn't even know you to start a kind of bullyig in cyberspace, imagine what he might do 3 feet from you</p>

<p>This is not the kind of student the school wants, and I would be you they wil
will take care of this because they have been warned, and safety on campus and a schools reputation is everything to them</p>

<p>So, print out the stuff, call them up, offer to fax the myspace pages or link them to it, and take care of yourself</p>

<p>Imagine spending a year with someone this childish who is also a bully</p>

<p>yes its true my old head of schools on myspace i found her a few months ago...</p>

<p>My future roommate is going to be a business major I believe. Also, I don't like to stereotype but he's going to play basketball so all my friends just think he's some dumb jock...but a lot of my friends in high school were "jocks." </p>

<p>I don't know if he's trying to make me feel as uncomfortable as possible so I will change roommates. I know from talking on the phone, we don't really have a lot in common, but that doesn't really matter; I'm not looking for a best friend, I just want somebody who will give me a little bit of respect as a roommate. </p>

<p>Well thanks for your advice and keep it coming. I still don't know what I'm going to do. It seems like if I do something about it, I've automatically made an instant enemy of this guy. I don't know if maybe I should wait it out and see how things are when I get there...?</p>

<p>You have no respect frm him anyway.</p>

<p>Get a roomate change...shouldn't be hard when your roomate is harassing you over the phone.</p>

<p>I agree that you should immediately and urgently request a room change. Take evidence.</p>

<p>Call him out on it and see what he has to say....if you still feel uncomfortable, request a new roommate.</p>