I’m a freshmen at a pretty prestigious school. I started the year in my triple with two roommates who became my best friends. After we all rushed sororities the group of friends we shared dropped me and my roommates soon followed. I know essentially live in silence. My roommates come and go with the group that no longer likes me. I have a few guy friends and girls I see from my sorority but I really have no one at school. I feel really lonely. I don’t know what to do. Any advice would really be appreciated.
You should talk at the counseling services at your school. They will have seen multiple students in the same situation and should be able to help. They also will be familiar with clubs and activities at your school.
You might want to join a club or activity. If it doesn’t work out, try another one.
Are you in a sorority?
It sounds like maybe sorority life isn’t quite right for you. Volunteer, get involved with the campus ministry, or get a job. Those are all places where you should find welcoming and non judgemental people.
Have you made plans for housing next year? I’m thinking you might perhaps consider leaving the sorority. In your shoes, I would defintitely go to the counseling center. Also go see to the Res Life office, and see if there are any other living situstions that will work. I get the sense that these aren’t your preopel, and being part of,the sorority is going to make it very difficult for you to find your people.
Your school year will be finished soon. Go back and make a fresh start, and find YOUR people. Join clubs that are of interest to you. Join study groups. I mentioned other things you should consider. You will be okay if you do the things that interest you, not the girls in the sorority.
So did the roommates both join the same sorority (and you joined a different one?). If you like your sorority, you might make plans to room with some of those girls next year. Students often start out being fast friends with roommates in the first month or so and then branch out to make new friends. I’m not sure quitting your sorority will improve your current situation.
Ditto. Give the sorority some time.
Just know, you are not alone even if it feels that way. There are probably many kids on your dorm floor that probably feel the same way. Triples can be really tough because it often feels like two against one. Just be super brave and ask someone from class if they’d like to grab a coffee/tea/whatever after class. It’s hard, but it works. Also, remember that what you see on social media is only the highlights of people’s lives - not reality.
It looks like you go to a school and having a very similar environment as my freshman daughter’s. School is only less than three weeks left (including finals). Concentration on classes and finals and not to worry too much. When the sophomore starts, it will be a new playing field again — new classes, new friend groups, new study hall and dorms.
Did they actually ‘drop’ you - as in, they no longer want to hang out with you even if you ask them - or did they simply become preoccupied with their sorority and/or social groups they made other ways?
Do you like any of the sisters in your sorority? What about in other houses? Greek life is a great way to meet new people; many schools have quite a few mixers and socials between different houses, plus the socialization time within your own chapter. Try inviting a small group (or just one) of your sisters to lunch or dinner or just to chill in a common area sometime to build connections.
If you were really close with your roommates, you can try reconnecting with them too - see if they’re open to hanging out again.
In a sorority but cliques and stuff have already formed, clubs are not really prevalent here in order to make friends
they dropped me, i have no chance to reconnect with them @jullet