I need help very quickly.

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<p>Okay, so my ex-boyfriend went down to visit his new friend who is a girl (not girlfriend, but interested) at her dorm because she just moved into college. It's about 45 minutes away from my community. So, he just texted me about 15 minutes ago saying "I am nearly drunk. And it is awesome." Now, I still really care about him, probably a little too much. But I know he's coming home tonight. It's just three of them: him, his one friend who drove him (let's call her Thelma), and his other friend whose dorm it is (let's call her Louise).</p>

<p>Anyway, I went about asking him who is driving him home and the such. He said Thelma had nothing to drink, but for some reason, I don't believe him. I'm usually right in my instincts like this. Why don't I believe this?</p>

<p>1) Thelma is not a very trustworthy person. In fact, the way Thelma and him became "friends" is because she told him she was single and had a relationship with him for 2 months while neither him, nor her boyfriend, knew anything about it.</p>

<p>2) If three people are in the room, two are drinking, and you drink very often (as Thelma does) chances are, you are going to drink.</p>

<p>But what can I do? It's 1 am. Tomorrow is my first day of my senior year. I care about his safety; I want him to get home safely. I know he really had no commitment to me to relieve me of my anxiety because of this. Should I even have anxiety? I'm scared he won't make it home in one piece. And, yes, I should be waking up in about 4 hours to go to school.</p>

<p>I asked him to please relay a courtesy text to me when he gets home letting me know he's alright, but his response "I'll say something tomorrow afternoon, I plan on being passed out when I get home."</p>

<p>Okay. So, what can I do?</p>

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<p>Oh yeah, and these girls would be the type to take advantage of him or something of the sort (hence what Thelma did before).</p>

<p>I don't want him getting hurt.</p>

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<p>There is nothing you can do. Go to sleep.</p>

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<p>^I know there's nothing I can really do for him. But, it's going on 1:30 and the problem is that I CAN'T fall asleep. I can't take sleeping pills (considering I will only be able to sleep for about 4 hours). What CAN I do in the meantime? Ugh, why do I even care?</p>

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<p>well first of all...he's your ex....</p>

<p>second, he has already gotten jiggy with thelma and louise. sorry but it's probably the truth.</p>

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well first of all...he's your ex....</p>

<p>second, he has already gotten jiggy with thelma and louise. sorry but it's probably the truth.

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<p>Even if he is an ex, she can still care about him and worry about his safety.</p>

<p>I think you're jumping to conclusions. Could this have happened? sure. Did it? who knows. Right now I think the issue is whether or not he'll get home safely.</p>

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<p>^^ I asked for advice.</p>

<p>I know he's my ex. Does that mean I'm not allowed to care about people who I'm not dating? I care. Sorry.</p>

<p>He got his jiggy on with thelma 2 years ago and he wants to get his jiggy on with Louise sometime soon. I don't honestly care. Yes, I still have some feelings for him. I can't help those. But I don't think it matters what they are doing while getting drunk. What matters is how I am going to get to bed and how I am going to go to school tomorrow without worrying.</p>

<p>Laura beat me to it =) Yes, the issue right now is whether or not he will get home safely. Tomorrow we can deal with any sort of, wth-ness. I don't have a problem so much with him drinking. After all, he will be at Ohio State in less than a month and should get used to the drinking. And now, I'm not going to explain what I do have a problem with, as that can be saved for my own rants at my own times. But what can I do right now? I care.</p>

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<p>Well if there's nothing you can do worrying probably won't help either.</p>

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<p>Yes, worrying won't help. I understand that. But not worrying is easier said than done. He's now one of my very good friends. Imagine your best friend telling you (s)he was getting drunk and then driving home with someone who you have a feeling is drunk too. Yes, worrying won't help, but worrying is inevitable.</p>

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<p>just text him and tell him to stay over there... i mean that's all you really can do. he's not your boyfriend anymore so you shouldn't care who he gets his "jiggy on" but you should care about his safety. If he sleeps on campus he should be safe.</p>

<p>today i heard that my friend was driven home sunday night by someone who was high and drunk. i blew up on him but was mostly thankful that he was ok (they drove like 50 miles incredibly impared).</p>

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<p>wow, well, he has some nerve for one thing, i would worry too if i thought the girl was driving drunk, if they hit a tree, that's one thing, but if she is driving drunk, she can hurt someone else</p>

<p>Soory your ex is such a jerk, let us see, he is probablly hooking up with girls, and getting smashed and calling and sharing is behavior with you...yeah...</p>

<p>Anyway, call him up and tell him he better not be in a car with someone driving drunk, or you will smack him upside the head</p>

<p>If you are such good friends, it is worth any anger he may show if you yell at him for being stupid</p>

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just text him and tell him to stay over there... i mean that's all you really can do. he's not your boyfriend anymore so you shouldn't care who he gets his "jiggy on" but you should care about his safety. If he sleeps on campus he should be safe.</p>

<p>today i heard that my friend was driven home sunday night by someone who was high and drunk. i blew up on him but was mostly thankful that he was ok (they drove like 50 miles incredibly impared).

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<p>I'm sorry about your friend, but very glad everything turned out to be alright. Staying over there is not an option. His parents want him home by 3 and he's also his brother's ride to school tomorrow (I would offer, but his brother goes to a private school that starts at 8, while mine starts at 7:20). I offered to drive to the college and pick him up (probably the best option) but he says they will make it home fine and I should stop worrying. Again, that's one of the hardest things to do.</p>

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wow, well, he has some nerve for one thing, i would worry two if i though the girl was driving drunk, if they hit a tree, that's one thing, but if she is driving drunk, she can hurt someone else</p>

<p>Soory your ex is such a jerk

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<p>Yes, I'm sure you can only guess how bad I would feel if something happened to him or anyone else due to them driving home drunk. Just knowing that I could have done something to stop it, but didn't. My ex really is a jerk. He didn't used to be like this. After he dumped me, he decided he needed to change for college (or maybe this was before he dumped me). No more commitments, no more being a nerdy-science guy, no more being normal. He had to be the buff of college. Now he's so damn stuck up that he thinks nothing can phase him.</p>

<p>Ha, and he always seems to get me like this on the worst days. Guess when he broke up with me. The day before I took the ACT. Stayed up til 4 AM crying my eyes out then went to the test and luckily got a 36.</p>

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<p>you could always tell his parents... worst option but possibly the only one that'll work.</p>

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<p>^ That has actually crossed my mind. Calling over there and letting them know what is going on. But then, I would sound like the prude one. Especially if he does make it home safely. Our friendship has been on rocky terms the past few... well ever since we broke up and it really can't take anymore strain. </p>

<p>I almost wish that they get into some sort of minor car crash and they both get busted for underage consumption of alcohol. I don't want either of them getting hurt, but I want him to get some sort of reality check.</p>

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<p>call thelma and talk to her? if she sounds ok then maybe she's ok?? has she driven drunk before? i know my friends who'll drive after a beer or two and my friends who throw away the keys after a drink. if she is the type to never drive drunk then your ex might be safe...</p>

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<p>I don't really know Thelma that well. While we were dating he didn't talk to her (not on my doing, but on his own). I know of her, but not anything more than her name, college, etc. The basics. And I, myself, have never even had a sip of alcohol so I would not even be able to comment on my own friends' drinking habits.</p>

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<p>... is he okay? I just read this entire thread, and now I am worried about him. I have a friend who would so pull this crap too. Keep us updated.</p>

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<p>I would say stop worrying about him if it was anything else (since he's ur ex) but since his life is on the line I think you totally did the right thing. Yes, please keep us posted, and I hope he got homeok.</p>

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<p>I'd like to point out that texting you while drunk with other women was a lousy thing to do- it was mean, plus it made you worry. Very manipulative on his part. Tell him not to do it again, or better yet, block him.</p>

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<p>so your ex IS in college right now? if so, i doubt you'll be able to keep him since you're still in high school. was he your first "love"? people feel like the first will be the only but it's simply not true. i would advise you to be upfront with your caring admonitions but besides that you should allow him the independence to make his own decisions. </p>

<p>oh. and do NOT apply to his college. you'll want to go there if you get in. but it's likely that you will make a great mistake by doing that.</p>