<p>In my practice, when kids become physically or verbally threatening when parents try to come between them and their gaming, they have definitely crossed a line. This might be late in the game for the "CC" population, but everybody seems to agree when it happens.</p>
<p>The truth is you will never be 100% certain if he is playing the video games or not. Unless you are monitoring him 24/7, you will never know the complete truth.</p>
<p>I would not give him a penny. If he really wants the system, he will save up his allowance.</p>
<p>How much are you paying for your son's education?</p>
<p>An update my son did go to the appt. today and reported back to me without my having to call him. Said it went very well, that he felt comfortable with the counselor and is scheduled again on Monday....so we will take it one day at a time. He went running last night and made a plan with a girl for Friday night! He said his sleep pattern is off, likely because of the long hours he spent playing the game, but is trying to "regulate" himself by not sleeping at all during the day/between classes.
Many of you offered good sound advice, and you are right unless I am physically there, there is no way of knowing for sure if he is playing or what ever else he might be doing for that matter; I can only hope that he is ready to help himself and only then will things start getting better.
I am learning to take it one day at a time but think the most important thing I am learning (went to therapist two days in a row myself) is to stand back, let go, let him stumble and even fall if he has to, to learn and to be accountable. I cannot go on "being there" and "babysitting" him forever. She empowered me for now but I know there will be plenty of times where I will want to give in and go back to me old ways of being there for everything, this will be a big test for me too...........so together we will march forward.</p>
<p>You are doing a great job, 4boyz. I know how you feel. And credit to your son too for being able to wrest himself away from the temptation.</p>
<p>Glad things are going better - my thoughts are with you. As far as the sleeping goes, my D was having trouble when she first got to college - then discovered it was because she was getting up at such a wide variety of trimes, depending on when her first class was or if a weekend. Suggest he try getting up every am at approximately the same time (within an hour). It made a difference for my D. Good luck!</p>
<p>Thank you for the update. I'm glad to hear that you're taking care of yourself. I wish the best to you and your family.</p>