<p>I really hated my first semester at college(last semester). Besides a couple friends I made(who i didn't even like THAT much), it was miserable and I had nothing common with anyone. It was also crazy expensive and really didn't give me many opportunities education-wise. I left winter break with intentions on coming back, thinking my parents wouldn't let me transfer. However, they ended up wanting me to because it was so expensive. So I decided to go to a college in my hometown. I didn't tell anyone until they were all moved back at school and they were wondering where I was. Now my friends there are mad at me, and even defriended me on facebook. I don't really want to call them or anything, fearing any type of confrontation. I gave them my reasons and they don't really care. I just wish I didn't get so attached to people. People transfer all the time. Does this ever happen to anyone else? How should I deal with it?</p>
<p>you said you didnt like them that much so it shouldnt be a big deal.</p>
<p>If you valued their friendship at all, not bothering to tell them you weren't coming back until they'd figured it out themselves was pretty stupid. A friend of mine left school mid-semester junior year, without bothering to tell anyone but me that they were leaving. The people who had thought of her as a close friend were very hurt, assuming that the lack of information was a sign that they weren't important to her and she didn't care about them. In my friend's case, she eventually acknowledged she'd made a mistake, apologized profusely, and mostly repaired the relationships that had been damaged. In your case it seems you really don't give a crap, so why do you care now?</p>
<p>tell them to **** off</p>
<p>You'll make new friends. It doesn't matter, especially since you said you didn't like them THAT much.</p>
<p>You were only there for one semester. Let it go and start fresh somewhere else.</p>
<p>Pretty dickish move not to tell them.</p>
<p>i didn't tell anyone i was transferring until after i got in to where i wanted. although that was in early may, and we still had a month of school left.</p>
<p>all of my friends were happy for me, but also sad i was leaving. i just feel horrible that i can't see them often as i'd like to. what sucks even more is that i have very few friends at my new school b/c i live in an apartment and spend a lot of my time studying.</p>
<p>I transferred so I could come closer to home to academically, a way worse school. I want to transfer to a better school that's also in my home town soon. I just don't really like being away from home and I wasn't too happy with the type of people who went to the college I was going to. (CHRISTIAN CHRISTIAN CHRISTIAN) I swear I was the only atheist there. I did make a few friends that I spent ALL my time with, but it was more because they were there and we didn't actually have very much in common and their personalities weren't really my cup of tea. It's just that when you're with the same people for that long, you can't help but get a little attached. I didn't want to announce my plans to transfer because a) I didn't know if my parents would be okay with it and b) I didn't want my friends to not hang out with me knowing that they wouldn't see me the next semester(I know that they wouldn't want to hang out if they knew I was "ditching" them). I sort of feel bad now because I possibly could've made more friends there and had a little more fun, MAYBE if I stayed. But I don't know. The tuition was SO MUCH and I didn't like the town it was in, I didn't like the majority of the people. I see many people there I could've been friends with, but really what's the point? When the majority of everyone around is nothing like you, no matter how many friends you have, it's not going to feel right. I'm sad that I'm home and I realized how few friends I actually have here, but at the same time, I don't think I would've been happy staying at school either. A semester is short in the span in your life, but it was sort of a long time and you get really used to things after it, even if you don't particularly like it. I'm kind of torn right now but...there's no going back so I guess I should think positively...</p>
<p>Um, if you didn't tell your friends until they saw for themselves, I understand why they're mad. Kind of a ****ty thing to do, IMO. Obviously they considered themselves your friends even though you didn't really like them and if you didn't really like them you shouldn't be upset that they're mad.</p>