<p>I wonder if admissions offices ever hook up transfer students with volunteers who would like to show them the ropes. That would be a good way to meet people and be helpfuul at the same time.</p>
<p>Congratulations on your academic success!! And thanks for the update. We worry about kids we don't hear from.</p>
<p>Hey Generic,</p>
<p>I have to tell you your story sounded very familiar to mine. And I have to tell you that you arent alone, there are more in your situation than you can realize, I guarantee it!</p>
<p>I was extremely shy as well, and I spend many of my university years quite alone (I'd have to say around 98% of the time). But there is definitely an up side. As you progress through your studies you will notice that those that are more into "clubbing" or partying will begin to disappear as the years go by. All that will be left in the end will be those that take school seriously.</p>
<p>A few of those partiers will wisen up and realize school is meant for learning and will change as well.</p>
<p>As everyone gets older they will realize that they will need to be more open and interact with everyone in class (because in the working world, you'll have to learn to get along with your co-workers) so eventually, in time, you'll see others mature around you, and they will in turn, begin speaking to you! (I know because I speak from experience).</p>
<p>It may seem terrible now, but everyone is still stuck in "high school" mode and this will change into the "real world" mode.</p>
<p>There is only one thing......dont let this discourage you. Sadness and loneliness will hurt your motivation, and it will reflect on your grades (again, I speak from experience). You have to stick it in your mind that you're there to learn, and if along the way you make a friend, then hey, thats a bonus.</p>
<p>If I had to do it all over again, I honestly would not care if I was alone.....because frankly, you'll get more done, and you'll learn a lot easier without someone their to distract you. Plus with all the drama's I saw as the years went by with freindships breaking apart, and friends back-stabbing each other, I really wouldnt want those headaches interfereing with my studies.</p>
<p>You have the luxury of the internet and with being able to connect with people that are most like you, so definitely take advantage of that as well. And if you definitely need someone one on one, join some clubs that really interest you (some arent very advertised so take a deeper look). But have that same mind-set (I'm here for the club/hobby, and if I meet a friend, its a bonus) and just be yourself! If you do something pompous, or embarassing, then laugh it off.........because honestly who cares (one way I learned to rid myself of extreme shyness).......and trust me people will gravitate towards you because of that.</p>
I see this post was posted in 2007. I hope you’ve found the solution to your problem. Please let me know what helped you solved your problem because I am going through the same difficulty. Although I have both my parents working, It is very difficult for them to support my college funds and therefore I am bound to attend school in Japan because that was where I found a full scholarship. Like you, I am really close with my family and I am completely lonely not finding myself fitting in well and adapting well to life here. I am miles away from home and I know my parents cannot afford a visit here. I also find myself crying over the tiniest matters and I am not my old self anymore. Every detail of your situation, I find myself relating completely to. Please help me solve this problem of mine, I have been here for four months and I don’t think anyone here understands me. I dont wanna give up though. Please do help me
Use old threads for reference only. The original poster hasn’t been on CC since 2007! Start a new thread for new questions. I am closing the thread.