<p>If a guy physically hits a girl out of anger in the midst of heated argument or any messed up reason, what do you think is the smartest thing for the girl to do? If she were to be unforgiving and retaliative? It's not like the girl could hit him back, because usually guys are much stronger and bigger.. Do you like take this to the campus security? What do you do?</p>
<p>I would get the **** out of there and call the campus police</p>
<p>but what would the campus police do? arrest him? </p>
<p>then what if the boy backs out and denies like a ******bag he is "..oooh, i never laid a hand on herrr" </p>
<p>has that happened to anyone? like be in an abusive relationship or does htat like exist only on TV .. oops if this is completely irrelevant to college life.</p>
<p>..don't hit people, problem solved. If you get hit, don't hit back. Talk to others about it. Problem solved.</p>
<p>If it's a serious beating situation - something very physically threatening - then I'd recommend fighting back in whatever manner possible - grab a desk lamp, sharp object, pens, and go for the eyes and balls.</p>
<p>If it's less serious, meaning a guy just slugged you in the face or something like that - which is still pretty serious - I would do the following.</p>
<p>Tell your girlfriends and guy friends about what just happened. Your girlfriends might probably tell other guys about the situation. I'm not certain who you're friends with, but most guys get very f'ing enraged when they hear about a guy slugging a girl. One or more of them will probably jump said offender.</p>
<p>And yeah, tell campus police and whoever else cares to listen. The guys reputation will be pretty f'ed after word gets out that he hits girls.</p>
<p><em>I wouldn't hit the guy back if he hit you once. It might provoke him/ allow him to try to justify/ lie about his actions. Also, I hope the guy hitting you didn't do so because you were furiously beating/ kicking the s</em>** out of him, thinking he wouldn't possibly hit back. As a guy, I think we reluctantly have to take a certain thrashing by a girl without retaliating, but once a line is crossed, and we are physically in danger or at risk of serious harm, all bets are off and you'll be treated like a man.</p>
<p>Rule number one to avoid abusive relationships: leave the first time the person hits you, no matter how insignificant it might feel.</p>
<p>^ Since verbal/emotional abuse tends to predate violence, I'd say leave when that happens.</p>
<p>Of course, it's easier said then done since abusers tend to pick those who have self-esteem issues, etc. - making it more difficult for the abusee to leave.</p>
<p>All incidents that involve significant malacious momentum transfer among adults should be reported to the authorities. These matters should become a part of the public record to discourage recurrence.</p>
<p>Of course if you prefer a less formal approach, this is an instance where malicious gossip about someone could serve a good purpose. </p>
<p>Do not keep it private.</p>
<p>sever immediately. and like everyone else said, don't keep it private.</p>
<p>Report it to campus security or the police. Even if they can't prove anything "that time", it's laying down a paper trail that the police will look at when he slugs some other girl.</p>
<p>I would get out of there as soon as possible. Do not do anything to further provoke him. If there is any injury, take a picture of it right away. Tell your parents and report it to the campus security and police. If anyone should witness a situation like that, take out your cell phone to video tape it. Keep every IM, text message or FB communication from this person. Never, never take any apology from this person hoping he'll change. If it happens once it will happen again.</p>
<p>i think the best thing to do in a situation like this is not to go and do anything drastic or psycho, but instead you should probably call me, so i can come and do it for you</p>
<p>Oldfort is spot-on. Do not engage with this person. Get yourself to safety. The only thing I would add is that if you are in campus housing, notify your RA/RH. That person can go with you and be supportive when you talk to Campus Security, and if the house folks know, they can be alert if he shows up at your dorm.</p>
<p>Absolutely agree with keeping every scrap of FB, email, written or e-communication. That what creates the basis for a restraining order, if needed.</p>
<p>"If a guy physically hits a girl out of anger in the midst of heated argument or any messed up reason, what do you think is the smartest thing for the girl to do?"</p>
<p>Get away from the person as fast as you can. Don't argue. Just get away. End any relationship that you have with him. Not doing so could put you at risk of being hit again -- or even worse. Do not make or accept excuses for his behavior. No matter what you did, it wasn't your fault. His being drunk, angry, stressed, etc. is no excuse for what he did. </p>
<p>This resources may be helpful: National teen dating abuse helpline: Love</a> is respect - National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline</p>
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<p>LOL. </p>
<p>PS. guys i don't think OP is actually in this abused situation, seems like she's just wondering if it happens at all</p>
<p>What Counting Down and NSM said plus She should be unforgiving but not retailiative in the hitting back way. Instead she needs to document any bruising or other injuries with time dated pictures and tell someone. If it was a beating she needs to go to the campus police with the evidence. Regardless she should get the guy out of her life. She shouldn't respond to texts or calls at all. She should ignore calls but keep a record of the numbers and the frequency of calls to report the harassment and if continued attempts at contact continue longer than a week start working on a TRO.</p>
<p>OP if you could let us know if this was a real or a hypothetical it would be helpful. Specifics go a long way in helping others to help you.</p>
<p>Hmm you should leave and NEVER EVER SPEAK TO THAT PERSON AGAIN. If a man hits you once, he will do it again and no woman should ever be touched in that way. I litterally gawked when I saw the title. </p>
<p>Better yet she should delete and block the number.</p>
<p>What if a girl hits a boy?</p>
<p>States vary widely in their laws on assault but in our state, one person just touching another person would fall under simple assault. One person would only need to file a report that could result in another getting charged. If you live in a large city and there's a police blotter, you can probably find a lot of amusement in what people file complaints over. There are lots of girlfriends, boyfriends, husbands and wives that call the police to report something not understanding that their actions can result in the other person getting thrown in jail and incurring a criminal record and legal expenses.</p>
<p>So a lot depends on the situation. Sometimes it's proper to get law enforcement involved. If you're doing some sparring for boxing and both understand the risks, then maybe getting law enforcement isn't appropriate. It's hard to tell in this case as the description was vague.</p>
<p>ouch... i'm sorry you were in that situation =/
usually when i get hit by guys (& i have before) it's all in good fun and they don't hit hard....so I just hit back and it's all good</p>
<p>I think you should stay away from that guy and if you run into him more, tell security as well as your friends so they know to keep an eye out for you. Not sure how true this is in general, but I think a guy would be less likely to hit you if they know you have guy friends that'd be willing to avenge you.</p>