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<p>@CloudyCloud - So true haha.</p>
<p>@ CloudyCloud - I think your the guy I was agreeing with on the other “girls” thread.</p>
<p>imo, Basically, girls don’t mind being with friends, even best friends, 98% of the time.</p>
<p>If you get the “Let’s Just be Friends,” about 98/100 times it’s bull. Scratch that, 100/100 bull.</p>
<p>It was me. I seem to be patrolling every single “dating” themed thread. Its fun stuff lol.</p>
<p>To address your point, I can agree and disagree with that. There are defiantly some girls who use the “we’re too good of friends to date” card often and don’t really mean it. It is a nicer way to let boys down.</p>
<p>But I believe that most girls legitimately don’t want to date their best friends. Many of us guys believe that in order to get with our crush, all we need to do is talk to her, call her, be super nice, yada yada yada, and simply act like we want to be friends when in all reality we want to date them. </p>
<p>Girls seem to fall for this disguise and think that all that boy wants is friendship, so they think they finally befriended some guy who doesn’t want to sleep with them (being honest here). When guys finally feel like they have waited long enough and start their approach, girl’s simply like them too much and can’t imagine dating their “teddy bear”. They don’t want to risk their friendship and all that stuff.</p>
<p>Whether the “friend zone” is some great myth or not will never be known lol. </p>
<p>On a personal note, I was friend zoned once and I learned then and there, that if I wanted to date a girl, I certainly can’t act like her “friend”. It gets you no where. So maybe it is true or maybe it isn’t, but I certainly changed my game up and have received better results since.</p>
<p>I definitely know what you mean, but me personally I only believe that in maybe your legitimate BEST or maybe top 2 friends who are girls.</p>
<p>Other than that, I consider it an excuse.</p>
<p>Not sure if it’s the right play here or not, but I heard that a lot of guys fall for their best friends…</p>
<p>She has a boyfriend right now but one day I would like to go out with her haha.</p>
<p>As much as I enjoy her as a best friend, i wanna make it more than that sometime.</p>
<p>I try to keep us in a flirtatious tone, calling her wife, girlfriend, and we always say we’re gonna get married / have kids.</p>
<p>I dunno, doing my best… any better strategies? It’s definitely not worth risking the friendship anytime soon with this soon.</p>
<p>he wants to go out with you…he wasnt kidding.
just go on a date with him</p>
<p>Or maybe he wants to go out with you, but his motivation is more “I desperately need a girlfriend” more than “I desperately need to be with this girl”. Possible interpretation based on the facts (previously pursued a friend, keeps on fudging and going “well, I was kind of joking but not really and obviously the best way to accomplish my goals is to send 10,000 mixed signals for no good reason”).</p>
<p>Don’t do it!</p>
<p>^omg, dont think too deeply into it right now.
if he’s your good friend, go on a date with him.
during that date, have a discussion about a possible relationship or whatever. dont just run away from him…</p>
<p>@cloudycloud i agree. personally, if you go into something “friendly” you come off that way. more often than not a relationship like that can’t progress beyond just being friends. true though that there are SOME friendships that go into dating relationships–usually those relationships had flirtations to begin with. i think if you WANT to go beyond friend-zone… you need to act like you want to BUT not jump into it like what this girl went through. lol. just awkward and random.</p>
<p>as for @waterboy654 if she’s responsive to flirtations and you kinda get hints (esp from her friends) that it’s a possibility… keep going with it. if she has a boyfriend let it die down on its own-- it’s just better that way for so many reasons. if and when she’s free (lol) just make a move. ALSO, just to note… make sure you really like her and don’t just want her because she’s unavail—i know a friend that right when she broke up with her boyfriend he didn’t really want her anymore for some reason…</p>