<p>Situation: A guy, who is one of your good friends, asks you out during the day and tells you to just think about it when you don't really respond. Later that evening he messages you about that 'date' and asks if you're free. You say you are. Then he says "I was just kidding, unless you want to go out."</p>
<p>Is he really kidding? Is he afraid of rejection after the first non-response? Or was he just playing with you the first time?</p>
<p>C) Insufficient information given</p>
<p>He is just afraid of rejection, he wants to go out or he would not have asked.</p>
<p>Probably afraid of rejection.</p>
<p>“I was just kidding, unless you want to go out”? He just admitted that he was seriously asking but doesn’t want you to know if you don’t want to go out. So yeah, he’s afraid you’ll say no.</p>
<p>He doesn’t sound very confident and is acting kinda wussy. But I agree with the above, he meant it and was afraid of rejection.</p>
<p>Yeah. It was literally “I’m just kidding about the date, unless you want to go.”</p>
<p>And it really annoys me that he was like “I was just kidding”. Makes me feel like an idiot. =(</p>
<p>A lesson for the guys: Don’t ask a girl out unless you actually want to go out with her. And if you ask her, don’t back out of it. Just accept that she might say no. And if she says yes, don’t back out either.</p>
<p>He was testing to see if you wanted to go and thought you might say no.</p>
<p>Definitely scared. He wants to go out, but he’s just trying to laugh it off even before you say no. I mean, if you say no, he can laugh it off. And if you say yes, he’s happy. He just makes himself look like a wuss in the process.</p>
<p>AUGirl, he definitely wants to go out with you, I wouldn’t worry about that. What I would worry about is how timidly he seems to approach that desire.</p>
<p>Well to be fair… He told my friend a few months ago that he liked her. Of course, she has a boyfriend (which I don’t think he realized). So he has been rejected before by someone a lot like me.</p>
<p>Which is another element that makes it more complicated. Do you say ‘yes’ to a guy who told your best friend a few months ago that he liked her? I assume that he’s moved on… but it’s still …weird. You know? Even though they never even dated or anything…</p>
<p>^I wouldn’t consider that a problem. However, what I would consider a problem is that he lacks… male genitalia.</p>
<p>Do you like him? Then say yes.</p>
<p>Although the lack of “male genitalia” as hahalolk refers to should be noted when making your decision.</p>
<p>That’s the thing… I did say yes.</p>
<p>And then he was like “That’s nice, but jk unless you want to.”</p>
<p>…Which is where it really confused me. I said yes, then he said jk, unless you want to.</p>
<p>He’s a sweet guy though.</p>
<p>He’s a bit timid and not very self confident.</p>
<p>When he said “jk unless you want to”, he’s saying that you shouldn’t say yes just so he doesn’t feel bad. He really does like you, he just doesn’t want to force you to go if you don’t want to. He sounds like a nice guy though.</p>
<p>OMG–i’ve had the EXACT same experience. This kid at my school in my eng. class was a good friend. then randomly he started acting weird (randomly texting really awkward things…) i never implied i liked him in anyway just as a good person to talk to during class btw. </p>
<p>He ended up telling me that he liked me and wanted to go out. I politely (as politely as possible) said no, because I really really did think of him as a good friend. He quickly spazzed and replied telling me he never liked me anyway.</p>
<p>I think that’s the same thing you’re going through. Especially since he asked you during the day and you replied at night-- he felt doubtful about the whole situation. And when you finally replied to him, he probably reacted by saying what he was already preparing himself to say. </p>
<p>lol… does that make sense? He was basically prepping up for the rejection… and when you said yes and he realized he added that extra “unless you want to!”</p>
<p>So he doesn’t realize that when you say yes you are, well, saying yes?</p>
<p>I guess not? haha.</p>
<p>Well thanks for all the replies. XD</p>
<p>I am actually quite surprised you said yes to his invitation. I thought a girl being best friends with a guy was an instant kill for any relationship to spring of that. Go you.</p>
<p>Pass it along to other girls. Maybe then guys wont have to engage in mental manipulation in order to get the girl they want.</p>
<p>uhh what is wrong with this guy?</p>