<p>asdfj said to try it once. There's nothing wrong with trying it to see if you enjoy it. In fact, that's very good advice, especially for college students.</p>
<p>I disagree that doing homework on a Friday or Saturday night makes you a loser. It really depends on whether Friday or Saturday night is the only night on which you have an opportunity to hang out, which I know for me isn't the case. I tend to spend at least a couple hours a night socializing with friends unless I have a tremendous paper to do. Plus Sunday is for some reason a really social day on my floor, when we tend to plan to do things together (like checking out a local festival, for example.) My basic point here is that this is a case by case thing.</p>
<p>Either way, my college experience so far has been that partying definitely isn't the be all and end all of a college social life. I choose not to party at all, and instead I get involved in clubs and go to as many campus-sponsored events as I can. I guess it's mostly a matter of finding like minded friends who are interested in doing things that don't involve drinking. I have tons of friends now and I'm being more social than I ever have been before, namely because the social scene seems to have changed between high school and college where before it was focused mostly on drinking and now I have more options.</p>
<p>I am doing homework right now (a Saturday evening) and I'm pretty darn sure I'm not a complete loser (albeit, this homeworking is in-between watching a football game and going to a party). You definitely don't have to drink, and you definitely don't have to party (although it does make one's nights less monotonous. Stories are what make up college, you aren't necessarily going to remember the moments where you studied on Friday and Saturday nights, but more like the moments where you went to parties and did incredibly stupid things-or watched others doing incredibly stupid things). You don't have to be a partier whatsoever to just go to one and see what one is like. </p>
<p>But really, just don't stay in and do homework by yourself being a recluse all the time. Study with a group, study while watching tv, do homework while drinking with friends, etc. If you are finally done with studying, then get involved with loads of clubs, sports, and other organizations. Join something random like salsa dancing or fencing club</p>
<p>You gotta drop the high school mentality about what's considered popular and what's not. I don't post much on CC, but a lot of posters seem like preachers (I can tell who actually has done some thinking in their responses). You have to cut through all the unnecessary jibber jabber and get the real advice, which of course is dependent on you. </p>
<p>What do you mean by parting? Do you mean going to a party and drinking to get drunk, or going to a party and not drinking? If you have homework and/or studying to do then no, you're being responsible. . .a word that is foreign to the typical college student. If you are not a "partier" then keep yourself active and surrounded with like minded people i.e. join clubs that interest you, go to school sponsored events. If you do decide to drink, don't let it control your social life -- you may want to remember some events that you'll tell, not the other way around.</p>
<p>Well I have clubs and stuff of course. And a part-time job. On some weekends, we travel to different schools along the APDA circuit (Swarthmore, NYU, Columbia, etc.) for tournaments.</p>
<p>Right now I'm hanging out with hallmates playing on our new PS3's and Wii's in our common rooms. :D Our laughter is so loud it echoes through the halls ...</p>
<p>It's just that for some reason, I feel really inhibited and don't get that "wild fervor" mentality at a party. I went to like one party the other night (at the end of the first day of an APDA tournament). I don't think I'm into the taste of vodka. And well, is alcohol a prerequisite for dancing wildly? I suppose another question is -- just how the hell do I get rid of a dancing inhibition?</p>
<p>Actually I wouldn't mind dancing with some finesse. I'm not into ballroom dancing, but for some reason I'm usually quite hesitant to hip-gyrate with random strangers on the dance floor.</p>
<p>Just be your self. Find friends that are like you, don't hang out with people who you don't feel comfortable with.</p>
<p>I'll get yelled at for saying this, but alcohol will help the whole 'inhibition at parties' thing. It's not a 'prerequisite for dancing wildly', but it helps.</p>
<p>Oh and about the taste of vodka--its not supposed to taste good. Mix it with something or just chase it.</p>
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<p>It's not supposed to taste like anything - it's vodka.</p>
<p>Cool and loser are just socially constructed labels anyway. They shouldn't have any bearing on your self esteem. I actually find it amazing that so many people think that just because it's a friday or saturday night they have to party or go to the bar and get drunk. Why can't you just hang out?</p>
<p>I hear you man, everyone here is obsessed with finding a good party. I don't understand how sometimes even intelligent people can act so desperate.</p>
<p>galoisien, to enjoy dancing you really need to enjoy club music (that is the stuff that you hear on the radio). once you knows tons of songs and every hit/lyric, it gets to be fun. </p>
<p>if you dont like dance/club/hip-hop music, then yea, you will never enjoy dancing, unfortunately.</p>
<p>I love artful hip-hop .... and I would like to take up salsa, etc. </p>
<p>I just don't get club rap?</p>
<p>On the other hand, at work today I was bartending for my school's catering service for a pre-footfall-game party we were doing. It's so funny to be checking ID when I myself am not legally old enough to drink the stuff!</p>
<p>Easy, tell them you party on CC.</p>
<p>Haha you're not anti-social, you just are not into the stereotypical frat parties. You still party, but you just do it differently. Be sincere and true to yourself, people appreciate honesty; feeling lame because you don't like getting wasted doesn't make you uncool.</p>
<p>Perhaps it is because you have a tougher curriculum and are a better student. The time/study demands of different majors can be really disparate. S was an M&T at Penn, a 5 year dual degree Engineering and Wharton program. No easy electives (virtually no electives), he and the rest of them did not party much. On the other hand, the senior project was the race for the sun, he was on the team and drove the car in the race that started from Disney World -- not exactly a party but fun he said.</p>
<p>really depends on what kind of party it is.
For me, those socializing+networking parties are the most stressful but also ones that I will force myself to go regardless (getting to know "relevant" ppl etc)</p>
<p>As to those pure fun, I try to be sociable as I can but really, I enjoy spending time alone or with 3-4 very close friends.</p>
<p>Well i think that people are judged because the people who critizice them, are just bored. Nothing to talk about, so they just they think their some kind of superior, which i think is pathetic.</p>
<p>its ok if you dont go to parites, because you just have to be yourself, you have to do what you like, and you shouldnt care about what other peoeple think of you, dont try to be frind of pople that doesnt ike you at all just because you want to be cool, in fact trying to be someone else will just hurt you even more. You are cool in your own way.</p>
<p>im hearing a lot of use of the word antisocial, a psychopath is antisocial, not a college student who likes to spend his time differently, i always find it amusing how antisocial became a word that its not, anti social has nothing to do with being unsocial it is a mental health disorder that has to do with disregard for authority, peoples feeling,and a lack of control. sorry about this rant im a psych major, i tend to take things that have to do with it literally lol i guess im a dork. </p>
<p>i think a cool person is some one who grasps there own individuality, some one that makes you think, who challenges you, and who is not ashamed of admitting if there a dork, i know i am. i rather hang out with some one who is sarcastic, strange, cant spell, or is a ditz then some one who dose things just to fit a standered. i think you should grasp your partying habits and embrace them, there yours. it dos not make you a dork. some girls think im strange because i can spend hours at bookstores but hate shopping for cloths and stuff, but its who i am and if that strange then im proud to be strange.</p>
<p>sorry i go on weird rants lol hope its no to off topic</p>
<p>true...lol..anti-social is misused a lot by ppl.</p>
<p>one day some one is going to tell a school counselor that there friend is antisocial not knowing what it realy means then oops the kid will be a suspect in every bad event at school lol. they will be put on the red list. its funny how this disorder that shows up in almost every serial killer has taken on a new meaning in school cliques.</p>