In Undergrad: No Dating Experience What to do in college?

College Life
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<p>Hi! I have absolutely no dating experience; I haven't even been in a relationship. I've flirted and talked to girls, but never actually went out with them. I am a junior in undergrad (elec eng.) right now, assuming I will not gain any experience senior year, will this inexperience hinder my social life in grad school?</p>

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<p>What he said ^</p>

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<p>To be honest, yes. It will hurt you later on. It is probably hurting you socially right now. The worst thing you can do at this point is become discouraged or show feelings of insecurity. You could potentially have a girlfriend before summer break, you just need to make a plan and execute it.</p>

<p>Lion59’s advice is horrible. I think that if this hasn’t happened for you yet then you are probably just shy. So before you try randomly approaching drunk bar girls, you should try this this instead.</p>

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<li> Find a girl that you know likes you, or are at least one you are pretty sure about. If you can’t tell ask one of your friends who has seen you interact. She doesn’t need to be hot, just cute enough for you to be interested in her. If you don’t know any girls like this, then you need to expand your group of friends to meet more women.</li>
<li> Invite her to have drinks with you and make sure you both get drunk.</li>
<li> Make out with her, but don’t push it.<br></li>
<li> Repeat steps 2-3, going a little farther each time until you have sex with her or start a relationship or whatever you want out of this.</li>
<li> Do what you want.</li>
</ol>

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<p>oh but i don’t drink.</p>

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<p>Thermo1 why is your thread almost identical in wording to xRooRoox’s further down the page? Did you copy her/his post word for word? Are you the same person?</p>

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Pretty solid advice.</p>

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<p>I don’t think thermo1 mentioned anything about getting laid in his question.</p>

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<p>Drinking –> socializing –> talking to girls –> flirty with girls –> relationship and or hooking up with girls.</p>

<p>Done and Done.</p>

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<p>liquid confidence is the answer</p>

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<p>yeah start drinking</p>

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<p>so if i don’t drink I’ll never get a girlfriend? That is…not good.</p>

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<p>at Euler,</p>

<p>no I’m not the same person as xRooRoox. I thought her thread was funny and applied to me. I used to be like her, worrying about not getting a girlfriend or in her case boyfriend coming out of high school. Except for me, its 4 years later and I’m still stuck in the same place.</p>

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<p>How funny. I’m in the same boat as you, though female :p. I’d recommend getting involved in more college activities but that might be hard with such a time consuming major. There’s still life after college though, so no worries.</p>

<p>Maybe it’s because I’m too old-fashioned, but the drinking/bar scene sounds…tacky. Then again, what do I know? </p>

<p>Good luck.</p>

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A lot of people do. House/apartment parties are where it’s at. The bar scene is usually for jocks and sororstitutes; you’ll encounter far more interesting people at house parties, ime.</p>

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<p>lol @ people who don’t have real confidence and need to drink to talk to people.</p>

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<p>It’s not for confidence it’s to bear your inane babbling and lack of social skills long enough until it gets to the bedroom.</p>

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<p>lol @ having no social skills</p>

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<p>Thermo, you don’t need to drink to get a girlfriend. Alcohol just makes it easier for people to open up if they are shy, it extends one’s personality.</p>

<p>Just realize that many people are inexperienced in relationships in college, and even they are it doesn’t mean they are good at relationships. If you are having feeling insecure for some reason, you shouldn’t. If you do, it may be easier to find a girl who also hasn’t been in a relationship (could remove this feeling).</p>

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<p>yeah, I mean, everyone telling you to start drinking was kind of a joke. You don’t need to be intoxicated to talk to girls, you just need confidence and social skills.</p>

<p>In my experience, a lot of people (not everyone, obviously) who like to party and drink already have social skills and confidence. That’s how they made a good group of friends to party with in the first place, by being friendly. Not by being drunk. Just because someone drinks doesn’t mean they NEED alcohol to be confident/have social skills. That’s BS made up by someone who doesn’t drink.</p>

<p>But, the fact is that alcohol takes away social inhibitions, which makes it easier to meet people and be yourself. At parties, since a lot of people are drinking, everyone is more social and it’s really easy to talk to people/make friends. Putting yourself in these kinds of environments allows you to make new friends and gain social skills/confidence. You don’t even need to drink, no one will notice or care.</p>

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<p>you know…why don’t you just ask some girl out…forget about drinking/etc… just go up to someone you like, maybe you know her from a club and ask her out… the worst that happens is she says no. but don’t let that prevent you from trying again… just don’t worry… </p>

<p>anyways… if your indian, you still have your parents+arranged marriage :slight_smile: jk.</p>