<p>I personally wouldn't send that to him. There are all sorts of weirdos out there and he may get some sort of pleasure out of your response, as if it proves that he is in a position of strength. </p>
<p>If you are to send it, do not say "I would prefer it", say DO NOT contact me further. Don't leave any room for him to keep going.</p>
<p>The "maybe you have a different way of expressing yourself" seems to legitimize his behavior. It is not acceptable under any terms.</p>
<p>I wouldn't mention that you keep in contact with professors because that also might encourage him to continue with you or someone else as a target.</p>
<p>He has obviously not shown you any courtesy, so this is not a time to be polite. </p>
<p>I would definitely consult with an attorney before responding to this man in anyway.</p>
<p>And finally, save EVERY message he has sent you. It is entirely possible that someone might bring a case against him or something of the sort and it will be very important that you have access to all of this information.</p>
<p>I'm sorry you have to deal with this. </p>
<p>That's my two cents on the matter, but I think it is a huge mistake to assume that this is a rational human being. Your safety is what is most important.</p>
<p>SaveOnUndergrad. Those are some very valid points. I don't know if I should treat him as a wacky old professor or someone who is a potential threat to me. I'm leaning toward the latter.
It's funny, I told my mom about this and she just seemed sort of annoyed with me and seemed to think he was some harmless, deranged old man. My Dad was like, "I'll get you a lawyer!"</p>
<p>I will echo what everyone else has said: Before you do anything else, you need to tell him to stop. Otherwise, he hasn't done anything wrong yet. </p>
<p>If I read your post correctly, the incidents started after he was no longer your Prof, and after he left your college. If that is so, there is no impropriety concerning him being in a position of power over you. Rather, this is an issue between two adults, and I'm not sure why the college should be involved with this. It may be better to send this to the police, if you are truly concerned about your safety.</p>
<p>Tell him to stop, if he doesn't then show copies of the messages to his current school.
I can't believe some people have the nerve to do these type of things.</p>
<p>Though I agree with asking him to stop, and then reporting him if he doesn't, I definitely have to say many of you have been exacerbating the issue here.</p>
<p>you need to say "please stop contacting me. If you contact me again, I will report your actions to the department chair at my college, and the one you are currently at, as well as the police."</p>
<p>hopefully you have a record of what's happened. Otherwise, you have no proof.</p>
<p>I do not suggest you send the message you wrote. It basically says "I keep in contact with some people, but not you, b/c you're weird." That is NOT what you want. I would recommend sending the above, if you send anything at all.</p>
<p>Tell him to stop in un-vague terms. Don't use "prefer." Use direct commands.</p>
<p>Save all messages from him ASAP. Get a restraining order. M's Mom also made a good point. You should contact your school and his school because he could be harassing someone else, as well. The long letter he sent you once you left his classes sounds extremely predatory.</p>
<p>DO NOT TAKE THIS SITUATION LIGHTLY. It sounds like your safety is at risk.</p>
<p>I agree that you need to tell him in no uncertain terms never to contact you again. But I also want to reiterate that I think you have a responsibility to notify someone in authority at your school of the situation. Let them decide if this is 'no big deal.' Show them the emails and the letter. It also protects you should he continue to make approaches and claims that you 'encouraged him' by friending him.</p>