International Student: 4 days, no real "friends"

<p>So I missed the orientation at my school because I got here 3 days late. I've been on campus for about 4 days now. The first night was cool because I went to this party with my neighbour and everyone was drunk and social, but after that it hasn't been that great. I can't say I've really got any actual friends yet in my dorm, just people who say hi and ask a couple of questions and run off. I left my dorm room open for a couple of days and tried approaching people but they always seemed to just answer quickly and run off to their own groups. I only have one good friend at the moment but he's in another dorm so we don't hang out that much. Luckily classes start tomorrow so I'm hoping the routine will help this situation a bit. People say hey and stuff to me when walking around and know my name, but that's about all I've got. Everyone's already formed their own circles and idk where I fit in :S</p>

<p>Is this ok and should I just give it some time or what. It's pretty annoying coz I always end up going alone to the cafeteria and stuff for meals.</p>

<p>wait until classes start trust me, this is when u start meeting friends. Also those circles will change.</p>

<p>4 days is hardly time to start worrying. Try to get people's phone numbers or Facebook them. That way you can still contact them later with a casual "Wanna grab lunch" or something.</p>

<p>Hmm ok, I guess I should give it some time. Everyone else just seems to have fit in so fast. I mean, I keep hearing people walking around in my dorm all day laughing and talking like they've been friends for years.</p>

<p>You are probably Asian male?</p>

<p>You can look around for study groups in your classes where these form.</p>

<p>Don't worry. 4 days is never enough to assess anything about college / college life. You have four years to change things around. Those who belong to certain groups probably have friends from high school or actually made aquaintances through orientation.</p>

<p>Since you are a international student, you can join your ethnic association and find some friends there. You can join other clubs of your interests as well. Be active everytime and everywhere and friends will easily be made.</p>

<p>Also keep in mind you are not the only one to have that concern. Important thing is trying not to constantly assess your popularity to your peers. It's just going to eat you alive.</p>

<p>The instant gratification expectations of students today is just amazing. It might take an entire semester to find some real friends that will last four years. Right now it's just meet and greet time. People will come and go rapidly.</p>