Is this rude of my roommates, or am I overreacting?

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<p>I live in a 4 person dorm suite. One of my roommates practically lives with her boyfriend and is never around, and the other 2 have become best friends and they exclude me from a lot of things. They're never outright rude to me, but just really distant. </p>

<p>Today I came home from class an found that they'd redecorated the whole shared living room area without telling me. They put up new posters and hung decorations and lined up stuff on the windowsill, moved the couch, moved my humidifier and dumped all my books onto the desk in my bedroom, etc. </p>

<p>I was kind of insulted, and I feel like they're being rude by turning the living room into an extension of their own bedroom with their decorations. So I moved one of my posters from my bedroom to the living room, and put one of my own things on the central windowsill. Now I'm wondering... were they rude, or am I iust overreacting? And was I being passive aggressive by moving my poster and putting something by the window? </p>

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<p>Not overreacting, definately rude. The common space belongs to everyone…it would have been easy enough for them to just say “hey, we want to do a make-over.” Was what you did passive aggressive? Probably. But I would have done the same thing. </p>

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<p>They moved your stuff out. That wasn’t just forgetting to ask you, or getting involved in what they were doing.</p>

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<p>Personally I wouldn’t mind, but you’re definitely not overreacting. They should have asked first if they can move stuff around. </p>

<p>But hey, it’s college, so instead of posting on a forum about it…just go ahead and get them back in some creative prank. For example, if you read the collegefessions twitter page, apparently a lot of people get their roommates back by putting stuff in their shampoo. I’m not going to say what it is because I don’t feel like getting banned…lol</p>

<p>carpe diem!</p>

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<p>That was rude, but you were being passive aggressive as well. And I really wouldn’t start a chain of pranks… You prank them, and they might do it back.
Try to talk to them directly about it.</p>

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<p>That was pretty rude, talk to them about it.</p>

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<p>Are your roommates Freshpersons? They may not be that well adjusted to standard social convention. Perhaps ask your dorm proctor/residential assistant for advice, not necessarily intervention. Sometimes these territorial infringements escalate so it may be better to down-modulate that territoriality early. On the up side, there’s only 10 weeks or so of the semester left (?), and you’ll be rid of those turkeys shortly.</p>