<p>I thought I was the only one with a kid like that. My D was not interested in most of the college visits we went on. She was literally doing apps on New Year’s Eve and only went to one interview. I could never figure out why a brilliant kid with top stats wasn’t excited about this process. I think the poster who said that this was just our kids temperment is right. My D is just a non-type A, humble, practical kid who is low key about this process. She was lucky and got accepted into H and Y and I did see some enthusiasm when she pulled out the blue and white Yale pennant from the acceptance envelope. This process is overwhelming for kids and maybe not being too emotional is just the way they are wired. Also, I think in my D’d case having heard most of her life that she was a genius from peers makes her reluctant to stand out. At 17 fitting in is important, so is getting asked to the prom.</p>
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This. My kid. Totally.
And FWIW he was 100% right about his choice. Thank God!</p>
<p>I should add that the prospect of leaving home, being on his own in another state, being responsible for everything in a highly challenging environment, was very scary too. He wasn’t willing to engage the process at all before he’d made some visits. After that, he could see himself there, so it got easier. But then it got harder again as he settled on a reality, but didn’t know all the details. When the unknown became known, he was more comfortable and more enthusiastic. That’s still true for him with new things today – and based on my conversations with other parents, I think it’s pretty common.</p>