<p>I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years. This fall, I will be going to a college about 2 1/2 hours away. We both want to stay together. I had no fear about it until reading some threads here, and having people constantly tell me that "everyone" breaks up with their HS sweetheart once they make it to college. And now I have realized that I am really, really scared to lose him. This is completely out of character for me - I am an independent and secure person, and I have NEVER been the type of girl who would say she would "die" without her boyfriend, or centers her life around him. But it really, really scares me, because my boyfriend is my BEST friend. He is more my best friend than my boyfriend. I have been with him through so much: the fight with an eating disorder, losing my other best friend of 7 years to the "wrong" crowd, surviving manipulate and abusive parents. We have done so much growing up together, and I feel like losing him would mean losing a big part of myself.
Why is there so much negativity surrounding LDRs? I read that many people still keep their BFF from HS - so why is this different? He plans on visiting me once or twice a month and staying overnight, which really isn't THAT much of a stress because I see him about once a week during the summer, anyway. Yes, I will miss him, but we both are busy people and have learned to manage. He has been working 30+ hours a week during the summer and has been taking 3 classes at the local CC, and I am busy with piano, online classes, and learning guitar. This past year, our relationship has been a juggling act but we have really learned the art of balance. I just can't see him not being a part of my life!</p>
<p>A kid that went to my church went to Westpoint and graduated this past spring and is getting married to his this summer.</p>
<p>It’s possible, just not probable. You may be the exception.</p>
<p>I feel for you. At least you are going to give the LDR a shot which is good. I know of several success stories and it does come to personalities, whether or not both will keep putting in the effort and how much you love eachother currently.</p>
<p>Personally, my character, personality and beliefs are against LDR which is also one of the reasons I broke up with my most serious relationship (been going out with her for 8 months when we broke up) last month a bit before I moved. But I do know of several couples that have gone through or are currently in LDR’s, and they all believe that they can make it work and have the character and personalities that go along with it to be able to work.</p>
<p>It’s gonna be really hard obviously, but you sound mature. Everything works itself out… and just realize that there’s 7 billion people on this planet. Also it’s perfectly capable of staying very good friends with him if you do happen to break up.</p>
<p>Fact is, there’s so many difficulties you’re going to run into whilst you’re in college.
There’ll be the temptation to do something that your loved one wouldn’t approve of since he’s so far away, you won’t see eachother as much and when you do need eachother it won’t be possible to be with them, you might run into another stunning human being who you love being around. You’ll never know exactly what they’re doing and no matter how much they tell you, you can never be completely sure.</p>
<p>Most important thing is trust, good luck.</p>