<p>Given that he lives in a single, it would not be unreasonable to call ResLife. There is a possibility that he could be ill – perhaps with H1N1 – and nobody would know it. If that is the case, he might be in need of some assistance from the ResLife people or his family.</p>
<p>When my son was a sophomore in college living in a single, he disappeared off the communications radar shortly after having a medication for a chronic illness changed. I was concerned that he might be unwell as a result of side effects of the new medication and had ResLife check on him. It turned out that he had pulled an all-nighter to finish a paper and then cut classes and slept most of the day (with his cell phone set on vibrate and sitting on his dresser). But there could have been a problem that needed attention. I don’t think I was wrong to ask.</p>
<p>At orientation at the school my son goes to, the head of campus security told all the parents that if a situation occurs where you can not get in touch with your child and what is occurring is outside the norm for your relationship with your child, that you should contact campus security directly.</p>
<p>They will then check his recent activity (from the records of his scanning his ID card to get into buildings, the dining hall, etc.) to see where he has been and they will go to his dorm or the building where his card indicates he should be and track him down.</p>
<p>I hope we hear soon from limabeans that everything is OK.</p>
<p>Please update us soon - I feel your worry. Maybe this is a good reason to get a cell number for our kid’s friends/roommates in case of emergency. I am always meaning to do that but somehow have not. Do other parents do that? Seems like a reasonable thing to do just in case of emergency.</p>
<p>collegemomof2 - I think that is a great idea. Luckily, I am already covered, as my D at home has befriended two of my S’s friends, so my D can contract them right away (I think they use texts rather than phone), if need be.</p>
<p>OP, I understand your concern and I would find a way to contact the RA and Residential Life, especially since today is Friday and you don’t want to worry all weekend. </p>
<p>I went through a version of this yesterday - D had a drs appt near school and the dr’s office called us to say she hadn’t shown up, very unusual for her. my first guess was that, since it was the first day after classes ended, she was proabably exhausted and was sleeping, which eventually turned out to be the case. but in the meantime, as my calls, texts, emails went unanswered and there was no activity on FB,etc. I started to panic just a little. I realized then that I didn’t have her RA’s number or her roommate’s or best friend’s cell numbers, and it was after hours for Res Life. I will be better prepared next time.</p>
<p>limabeans - can you go online and check his cellphone usage to see if he is using his phone (and with the #s usually used)? I have done this in the past if one of my 2 seem to be MIA, just to check they are still alive.</p>
<p>Yes, this is a wake-up call for me too, that I need to have a backup plan if (when) D drops off my radar for a time. It turns out fine 99.9999% of the time, but it’s good to know who to call so we can avoid those extra gray hairs in the meantime.</p>
<p>I’m worried. Maybe limabeans is not sitting next to her computer, but is on/around campus looking for him? Sending whatever positive energy I can her way…</p>
<p>Came on looking for some good news from limabeans. Hoping and praying this turns out to be a kid whose cell phone ran out of juice and is holed up somewhere studying.</p>
<p>Another mom worrying about limabeans and her son. I, too, have one who is not prone to staying in close touch and he’s 1000 miles from home. Wishing that we hear good news soon.</p>