Missing senior (college student)

<p>Another nervous lurker, here, hoping everything turns out fine!!</p>

<p>I keep checking in, too! Hoping for some good news soon.</p>

<p>I hope we hear some good news soon. My son is 8 hours away and as a rule I insist that he contact me every few days. Even if it is just an e-mail that says “Good” and no other info.</p>

<p>Count me as another anxious lurker.</p>

<p>Hoping to hear some good news from Lima soon</p>

<p>I’ve been checking in all day too. Hope limabeans’ son is fine.</p>

<p>Thank you all for your kind wishes. My son has been located!</p>

<p>It took another visit to his school. Fortunately we live so close. But, he was stressing out because of exams, senior portfolio due, and that’s just his way. He has Asperger’s, and can be non-communicative. He forgets the angst he puts me through.</p>

<p>When I told him he needed to call me to say he got the package I left, he nodded. When I further explained that I went through a lot of trouble getting stuff to him and I expected him to let me know he got it and everything was okay. I waited. “Thanks” he mumbled.</p>

<p>I’m sorry to have put everyone out, but it occured to me as I left messages on his cell phone and emails that I needed a back up system. I didn’t really want to alert security, but short of that, I didn’t have any fall-back. Thanks for your best wishes, support, and ideas.</p>

<p>Woww! Thanks for checking in!</p>

<p>I’m glad he’s OK. Thanks for letting us know.</p>

<p>Glad to hear that everything is OK!</p>

<p>I feel your pain! Once I didn’t hear from my daughter for almost a week, which was unusual, and I knew she’d been sick. She didn’t answer her phone messages (voice or text), or emails and there was no celllphone activity for a couple of days. As I was about to panic, I thought to ask my younger son to “write on her wall” (whatever that actually means) on facebook and ask her to call me. Within a half hour, she did! Apparently, many kids don’t look at their emails frequently, and don’t always check their voicemail, but they’re always on facebook. It was a lesson to me – at least I now know how to reach my daughter!</p>

<p>For my son (who has an apartment) I asked him to give me the cellphone numbers of his roommates. It makes me feel more secure knowing I have someone else to get in touch with if need be.</p>

<p>My son has such trouble relating. He has a cell phone, which he generally uses (except these last 3 days!). But won’t open his school emails, and does not have facebook or Skype. Wouldn’t open them if he did. Not opening his school emails has been particularly problematic, since his teachers often write to him and adminstrators post important notices. He tells me he doesn’t need to open the emails from his teachers since it’s just a repeat of something they said in class. This semester, we’ve even bribed him by paying him $5.00 for every email from his father he opens. Apparently he didn’t need any money this week.</p>

<p>I’m so glad he is okay! Thanks for the update.</p>

<p>So glad to hear it turned out okay limabeans! At my d’s college she called us one day to say a student was missing and there were helicopters overhead. It didn’t turn out well for that student unfortunately and I was panicked for that poor family. Note to self - get roommates cell phone numbers! At least it gives us another option in case of emergency.</p>

<p>I can relate. My son moved into a studio off campus apartment this year. He works some nights at a nightclub until 3am. If I haven’t heard from him in a few days I start to get a bit panicky. I feel like no one would notice if he was missing.<br>
I do have access to his cel phone records but not his bank records. I will confess to checking the cel phone record a couple of times to make sure he was okay. I have the cel of his previous roommate but I would feel funny calling unless I knew there was an emergency.
Mom0f3 once I did ask my D to check to see if he had been on facebook but she told me he rarely uses fb anymore so I lost that option.</p>

<p>Whew. </p>

<p>Yeah, my husband has repeatedly asked my son just to hit reply after a text and just type in “k” – not even ok, or thanks, or anything more elaborate. Just let us know you got the message (and that you’re still breathing!).</p>

<p>I’m having baby lima beans with dinner tonight. And I mean that in a good way. :)</p>

<p>:::collective exhale from CC parents:::</p>

<p>glad to hear all’s well, whew</p>

<p>Glad to hear everything turned out OK. I certainly would have been equally concerned in your position.</p>

<p>I’m thankful you’ll sleep better tonight!</p>

<p>Once I text messaged DD and said if she didn’t text me back, I was going to assume the worst and call security. She called within a few minutes to say she was fine, just busy working on things.</p>

<p>THe Asperger’s piece makes it a different issue to solve, because he’s not getting why he needs to keep open communication lines going.</p>

<p>Is there any advice from folks on the LD forum here at CC, or from another Asperger’s support group on line, to share here?</p>