My dad wanted me to study all the time, but now how do I be more social in college?

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<p>I am a fairly social and likeable person in high school. However, I haven't been able to hang out with many friends on weekends or summer because my damn dad wants me to study all the time. Of the times I have hung out with my friends I had to lie to my dad and say it was a "project" or I was "working". I will never ask him if I can hang out with my friends because he usually says No, because I need to study and blah blah blah. </p>

<p>Now I have come to realize that in college and in life that grades to a test are not everything. Its about making a good impression and being likeable while being able to solve problems efficiently. </p>

<p>But I think I will have a problem in college in going out more, because I have been "sheltered" and somewhat cut off from friends. It took me awhile to adjust to high school and find a good circle of friends, but that was not because of me being awkward, it was because I really didn't know what "crowd" I belonged to. At first I thought I belonged to the "cool/party" crowd but I realized they were a bunch of phoneys and mental retards. </p>

<p>Any suggestions in falling into the "right" crowd in college and how to become more social?</p>

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<p>bump, anyone?</p>

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<p>Just be outgoing and you will sure find people.</p>

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<p>its bump time</p>

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<p>Join some organizations that you have common interests in. You’ll find people, it’s a big world.</p>

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<p>I study often too except I am motivated to do it but I’m also shy. But when I went to orientation I met other shy people but they were very easy and interesting to talk to and learn about and others were very friendly to talk to. Check the “Conversation Killer” topic for some great advice.</p>

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<p>keep your door open
join a club
watch a game with people
go to a party
there are countless ways how to be more sociable. if you want an opportunity it is there</p>

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<p>I doubt your dad is tracing every move you do at college. Get a job or join some clubs to be more socially active.</p>

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<p>Be sociable but remember why you’re there. Just make sure you stay on top of your work. Work hard, play hard.</p>

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<p>Screw crowds. I’m a senior in high school and my best friend and I are what I like to call “drifters”. I don’t stick to one crowd, but I bounce between loads of different groups and fit in well in all of them. It makes for a more interesting and more fulfilling life.</p>

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<p>kill two birds with one stone…if there are people you would like to make friends with in your classes, suggest starting a study group. </p>

<p>Each of my sons have found study groups to be good for their academics. And a lot of times they will meet at someone’s dorm or in a library group room…and then go out after for a bite to eat or to watch a game at a sports bar, etc.</p>