I am a freshman and one of my friends (roommates) did not have many friends in the beginning of the year at all and kept to herself all the time. I always made sure to include her and hang out with her a lot. However, she joined a sorority this semester and has made a lot of new friends and recently I feel like she has been bragging about her new friends to me. Like I am really happy for her she found new friends and what not but she the bragging has been annoying. She keeps saying things like you cant come, i have so many friends, my friends and I are gonna do this, or guess what i just did with all my friends. Like it's fine with me she made friends but its starting to get annoying that she keeps bragging it in my face like "look at all these friends i have" kind of thing. I have a small group of friends I hangout with but I feel like she is always trying to make me feel like I have no friends now. Idk and it makes me upset because I never did that to her. Idk what should I do? Just ignore her? Like it's hard to ignore her when every time I see her that's all she says...please give me advice it's starting to get to me and make me feel bad.
Just say “that’s great, I am so glad that you are happy with your new friendships and that you seem happy.” Just say you hope she has fun at the activities that you can’t attend. (You probably don’t really want to anyway). Accept how your friend feels. That’s all you can do. Feel good that you did what you could to support her when she didn’t seem to have friends, and now that she has friends of her own, accept that. You were being a good friend, and you still are.
She is insecure. Try to shrug it off.
Don’t let her know that it’s getting to you, because that seems to be what she WANTS. Do as NorthernMon61 says and just take the high road. Act like everything is fine and that you’re unfazed by it all!
You’re undoubtedly starting to see how cliques and other high school drama isn’t cool in college, so really, your friend is the one at the disadvantage here.
And also, note that true “friends” definitely shouldn’t be doing things like this.
Good for you for giving her the confidence to reach out and make new connections. As much as you know intellectually why she is behaving like this, it still hurts emotionally. Hopefully she will grow to understand how her behavior is affecting you in the future. And if she doesn’t, then you need to remain true to yourself and appreciate that, as much as you’d like her to be as positive as you were to her, not everyone can achieve that. I’m sorry that you’re going through this now.