^It’s hard to accept this advice at the poster’s age! I remember getting advice like that and thinking, “They don’t understand - we’re different!” But we weren’t.
You know the OP has a bad idea when I agree with everyone here…
What is your back-up plan when you and your boyfriend break-up? Will you continue living with him?
Will you both even receive admission into the same university? Are you both at the same academic level?
What are your intended majors? Are they radically different?
I ask you all of these questions because when (not if, in most cases a relationship does end) you and your boyfriend terminate the relationship, will you be left in a decent or terrible position?
OP, it sounds from your follow-up posts that you are reeling from your parents’ separation/divorce. Go to your guidance counselor and inquire about counseling. You want to arrive at college (wherever, with whomever) healthy and happy, and if you are stressed out about your parents, you may need some help to get past that. (In my very humble opinion. Something traumatic happened to my daughter at the end of junior year and I really regret not pushing her to accept counseling.)
I don’t recommend rooming with your best friend when you go to college. Girl or boy. If you want your relationship to last (with either a male or female friend), then separate dorm rooms or apartments are advisable.
On that rooming with your best friend. My daughter did room with her high school buddy, against my judgement, it did turn out ok in college. But she is no longer best friend with that roommate. All my kids had a de friend phase with the so call best friends, these are the friends my husband and I were not too keen to start out with. Somehow they eventually saw the light.
^^^Good advice Cheddarcheese- Don’t room with your best friend during your freshman year of college no matter if the best friend is a female or a male. I’m sure the advice you got here is not what you wanted to hear. Many of us have been where you are and are speaking from experience. Your freshman year away from home is probably the most important year in terms of making social connections. You will definitely get left out socially if you choose to live off campus with your BF. There is just no other place on campus where you form the lifelong relationships that you do when you are living with a bunch of people who are also away from home the first time. It is a unique experience and something not to be missed. If your relationship with your BF is strong, than this will not hurt it. You can always live with him the second year after you have settled in to campus life. You have many years ahead of you to spend with him if you both choose to do so- don’t be in such a rush!
Okay, I agree with everyone and I would like to add:
So you want to “play” husband and wife. I get that.
Besides knowing who is going to be writing the checks, or paying the online rent, utilities, cell phones, food, furniture, linens, toiletries, prescriptions, dishes, laundry, insurance, you need to deal with the human side of living together:
How will you get an apartment without credit?
Who is going to pay the security deposit with first and last month’s rent in cash?
Who’s going to clean up and maintain the house? Do the shopping? cooking? Clean the bathrooms? When you live in a dorm, you care for yourself. In an apartment you care for everything.
When you need to see the gynecologist, and YOU will, for your birth control and infection needs, how will you deal with having to take time off from your classes? The schools’ clinics may or may not cover your costs for your birth control items and prescription meds.
What about transportation? If you have a car, you need to pay insurance, gas and maintenance, which ain’t cheap if mommy ain’t paying, and needs to be paid immediately. If you bike, you still have expenses and have to deal with bad weather.
My dd is similar in age and lives in an apartment with roommates. She needed me to cosign, pay security deposits, cable for her internet connections etc. We needed to pay her renter’s required insurance and earthquake insurance just to get her into her apartment not including beds, table, linens, drapes, kitchenware, appliances, etc. if you are going to play house, you need to PAY to play.
Don’t expect Mommy to rescue you.
I haven’t even addressed pregnancy, that goes with playing house sometimes.
Another mom in agreement here. I was popping in to say much of what auntbea did. Nothing makes a situation less romantic at your age than being poor, unsupported emotionally from your families, and having to deal with another person’s underwear on the floor/dried cereal bowls/bouncing checks —except doing it with a baby.