<p>alamosa-
I feel for you.
You just want a place to live peacefully on campus for one semester.
You don’t need the aggravation of Jade and icky bf to be waiting for you every time you come home.
That would be the longest 4 months of your life.
Hopefully, they will take pity on you at Housing and give you a better living situation.
Be persistent.</p>
<p>If the BF has no actual place to live other than your roommates room and your shared living space, it will be EASY to get housing involved. While they may turn their head at an occasional overnight, they will NOT put up with the BF moving in to your on-campus apartment. Given that you think he will be using this as his primary residence, start with a casual comment on FB or via text or email. If she says this is the case, then set ground rules about how he cam visit but cannot live there. If she protests, get housing involved. </p>
<p>For that, you can wait until move-in, given that you have broached the subject prior and given her fair warning. A BF with no actual alternative housing has no business moving into a 3 bedroom on campus apartment as a 4th person who did not sign a lease. Or you can call now to discuss with them other housing options after explaining what looks to be planned for fall.</p>
<p>I really hope this works out for you!</p>
<p>Hopefully the roommate will respond in the affirmative that he will be living with you (since you already have heard it, this will at least get it in writing, so it will be easier to deal with housing).</p>
<p>I’d then show all the info to housing and try to switch… this situation seems miserable. </p>
<p>If housing won’t let you switch before the semester starts, just make sure you hold your ground… even if you feel like you have to be a *****.</p>
<p>I actually wouldn’t allow him to sleepover once - get housing involved right away-, since that will only perpetuate it in your case (I’d normally say ‘get over yourself, it’s not in your own room’, but this situation is entirely different).</p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>Yeah…if she doesn’t want to listen to some set rules…calling housing is really your only other option.</p>
<p>Well, I talked to her a few days ago and she said he’ll have his own place. Turns out, I’m moving in with her today so we’ll see how it goes. Guess I have to jump in head first and see whether or not the bf really is there every night.</p>
<p>just smash it down the first time she tries to have extended stays.</p>
<p>I would ask for another roomate if possible from the housing director and express my concerns. If this does not work i would tell her ASAP that I would not tolerate any overnite stays or him hanging around… if you are the sort of person that is not comfortable just leaving it at that you could always make an excuse such as… because of religious or moral reasons, not feeling safe or comfortable… or whatever.</p>