<p>Errrr, this awkward.
This is the 3rd night in a row that my roommie's BF is spending the night.
I'm rather fine with it since he's pretty chill and they are rather quiet overall, but I feel like I'm not that comfortable with having a guy in the room that often, especially since we never discussed it. On the other hand, she and I get along great which is pretty nice considering all these terrible roommate stories, she also let me borrow some of her stuff (extra blanket, ect...). It's a genuinely nice and healthy relationship so I wouldn't want to ruin that. I probably would be a lot more uncomfortable in my room if we discussed it and ended up having a relationship full of awkwardness and unspoken resentment than if he just stayed. School is stressful enough so I try not to add anymore unnecessary problems. </p>
<p>I'm a rather private person and I really value alone time. I realize that they don't really have any other private place to hang out, but neither do I as a result so I'm confused about what to do.I'm not sure whether I should be OK with this or if I should talk to her, and if so, what would be the best way.</p>
<p>Thank!</p>
<p>If you don’t say anything, then the assumption is that you don’t have a problem with what is going on. 3 nights in a row would be 2 nights too many for me.</p>
<p>We had a thread about visiting boyfriend staying over. I guess in your case is the BF lives on campus and he is staying 3 nights in a row in your room. In my opinion it is a bit much. If they want to be together, she could stay over his place just as well as staying at your place, my guess is it wouldn’t really go over that well with his roommate(s). </p>
<p>My older daughter only shared a room with someone sophomore year. Both of them had a boyfriend, and they had an understanding of not bringing their BF back to their room to sleep over. Both of them fel they needed privacy when they got back to their room.</p>
<p>Your roommate sounds like a nice person. She probably doesn’t know it makes you feel uncomfortable. Have a chat with her, let her know that you like her BF, doesn’t mind him hanging out sometimes, but you would like to have some privacy and alone time. If they would like to have some intimate time, they could have the room while you are in class. I think she should be able to understand that.</p>
<p>Simple - tell her exactly what you stated here. If you never say a thing she’ll likely interpret it as approval and that it’s perfectly okay with you. If the two of you actually really do get along decently she’ll understand and respect your position.</p>
<p>The worst thing to do is to say nothing and let the animosity fester inside you until it explodes into a rage… (okay I started going a little overboard there).</p>
<p>Say what you have said here, but start off with the private person who needs alone time thing first.</p>