<p>Hi. I'm a soph at a four year school in PA. I'm not new to dorm life and have already experienced the usual issues that arise when living with another person but something new has come up. My new roommate has a boyfriend (they've been together for a few years) who comes to visit somewhat often. Fine, no problem. My issue is that he often comes during the week, so when my roommate and I are in class or at work he just sits in our room ALONE for hours at a time. I don't have anything against my roommate, she's a very sweet girl and is always very courteous. It's the boyfriend I have issues with. Him sitting around shirtless and deodorant-less (IT STINKS IN HERE) is really starting to get on my nerves. I don't want to call my roommate out on his behavior because while he is her guest, he's also an adult and the one who insists on staying in the room and not going to class with her. So I need some outside opinions... Would it be unreasonable to inform him that I'm not comfortable with him being in the room alone and ask him to leave when my roommate is in class? What about the shirt and b.o. thing? When I say it stinks I mean it, it's him.</p>
<p>honestly, i think it is totally fine to tell him that he shouldn’t be in the room when you or your roommate are in class or work. It is YOUR ROOM as well, and your roommate should respect that. While I don’t think that it is nice to tell him he stinks directly to his face, you could tell your roomie and have her talk to her bf in private about it. Doesn’t the bf have a job or classes to go to? If not suggest he sits in the student center or the library when no one is in your room. It seems like a very uncomfortable situation and you need to tell your roomie how it is making you feel because she might not have a clue how you feel and think you are fine with it. When you confront your roommate you should agree to some rules about guests and such. I would be annoyed if my roomie had her bf there all the time. Just pick a time where your roommate isn’t stressed about finals and can sit down and actually hear what you have to say. Good luck, I hope it all works out. If all goes down the drain you can always contact your RA for help as well.</p>
<p>Thanks for the advice! I’m planning on talking to them after work. I don’t believe he has a job or goes to school, he just plays computer games all day. Like I said I have no problem with him coming to visit, but when he does he is confined to our room for the entire time he is here. We have a bathroom in suite so he NEVER leaves. Literally does not step foot outside, she even brings him food. Thanks again, I really appreciated your response.</p>