<p>One incident is enough to get that guy arrested. Assulting a person is a crime. In fact, where I live, it’s even a felony if someone gets injured beacuse of it. Person in jail = they’re not harming you any more or causing any troubles. As for his/her friends – as long as you don’t mingle in that group, it’s all OK because they aren’t going to retailiate for something like this. They’re just going to forget it and party elsewhere.</p>
<p>As for handling it yourself – that applies to situations where it doesn’t get physical. An untrained 5’10" guy is taking a huge risk by going agains’t a 6’4" guy. Sure, it doesn’t earn that much respect, but when you consider the totality of circumstances, it’s better to lose respect than it is to get your teeth knocked out. I’d rather a couple trained 6’5" police to control the situation than to do it myself.</p>
<p>Yes assault is a crime, yes one instance is enough, yes he could go to jail, yes I could get fined for giving you a bag tag. In REALITY he is not going to jail, period. If under some circumstance he did end up going to jail, like for instance he had a past record of assaults, he will be out of jail in a very short amount of time and there goes your little person not harming you/causing trouble equation. In reality its more like… person goes to jail for some minor assault = you getting even more *<strong><em>ed up at a later date or at the very least being paranoid because person comes out of jail a few days later exponentially more *</em></strong>ed towards person assaulted for causing person to do time in jail and pay fine and get kicked out of school etc.</p>
<p>By taking care of it himself I did not mean in any way physically. I realize the guy is a lot bigger and that is not going to work.</p>
<p>You already told them to change 3x. Call up a law firm, tell them you want to sue (both your roommate and the schooL). You’ll get a couple million from the university, a free lawyer and a new roommate. They are no doubt liable IMO</p>
<p>It’s not minor if it’s multiple times, and in mayn states, if it’s more than one time, the punishments get more and more serious.</p>
<p>By the third time, I’d expect that guy would be in jail until at least the very end of the year.</p>
<p>Safety comes first when it comes to handling situations yourself. In the OP’s situation, the threat of physical harm is far too great for safely handling that aspect just by himself. The police are there to get that guy out of the room so it’s possible to safely use it. Everything else (eg. the parties, alcohol) can be handled by yourself only after the physical threat has been removed.</p>
<p>If the guy had called the police, here’s what would have happend:</p>
<ul>
<li><p>Police comes in and makes all the partiers leave. Since the OP has already asked them to leave, the police now have to arrest anyone who doesn’t comply for trespassing.</p></li>
<li><p>The original partier person will at the very least be booked by the police and will have to wait for someone to bail him out before he’s allowed to leave.</p></li>
</ul>
<p>This basically gets the OP his room back for the night, avoiding the beer cans and puke on bed, while creating very clear doucmentary evidence that he needs a new roommate.</p>
<p>Since the night has already passed, it’s a bit late, but documentary evidence at least helps for next time.</p>
<p>What are you going on about with it being the third time? You think he’s going to jail for the rest of the year? Have another beer buddy.</p>
<p>So in your expertly handled situation, what happens when he gets out on bail? He learns his lesson, apologizes to you, and everybody lives happily ever after? That’ll happen.</p>
<p>you<em>of</em>eh, in ways I agree with you, but this needs to stop and I don’t really see your method really working. OP has clearly tried his best to ignore everything and it hasn’t worked, he is almost certainly going to be beat up again if he goes back in that room. </p>
<p>Definitely talk to university security, maybe not the police, and get the room changed. In the meantime, do you have anywhere to stay while this whole thing is processed?</p>
<p>Okay well I just said ignore it until he moves which given the situation would most likely be inside a week. </p>
<p>How can you say he is almost certainly going to get beat up again when he goes back? Why would he? You can pretty well say the only reason he got beat up in the first place was because the guy was loaded. He won’t be when you go back. What reason does he have to be mad? He’s the one that ****ed up. Luckily OP didn’t call the cops like excel would so I really can’t see him getting beat up again at all. I would say an apology is much more likely than him getting beat up again.</p>
<p>The term “tattle tale” was made up by someone who wanted to continue in his evil ways without being caught, and generations since then have perpetuated the myth that people in situations like yours just have to accept being bullied and injured. Perpetuating the myth is how child molesters and bullies are able to continue for so long in their crimes.</p>
<p>Suppose you are a tourist in another city, and a stranger beats you up, steals your hotel money for the night and trashes your stuff. Would you hesitate to call the police? </p>
<p>If you would get help in that scenario, why would you protect this roommate who beats you up, throws you out of the room you paid for and trashes your stuff?</p>
<p>If you say and do nothing now, what is to stop your roommate from doing this to you over and over again?</p>
<p>Now is your chance to stop him. If the RAs won’t do their jobs, it is time to talk to the appropriate person above the RAs.</p>
<p>Please let us know how you’ve handled this!</p>
<p>Oh my god. Before he wanted it changed because he didn’t like the guy. Now he wants it changed cause the guy beat him up and threw him out of his room. They’ll change it for him asap don’t be so stupid, think about it.</p>
<p>“Oh my god. Before he wanted it changed because he didn’t like the guy. Now he wants it changed cause the guy beat him up and threw him out of his room. They’ll change it for him asap don’t be so stupid, think about it.”</p>
<ol>
<li>That puts him in a dangerous situation in the period between filing and actually switch rooms</li>
<li>It puts the next roommate in a dangerous situation (the dude shouldn’t even be on campus imo from what Ive heard)</li>
<li>The university is probably going to have to call the police anyway for both liability reasons and because it’s probably required by law that they report it.</li>
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<p>I wouldnt call the cops. It will make your school look bad and everyone will hate you. You should go sleep in one of your friends rooms where they dont party. And i would tell your RA and get another roomie cause hes no good.</p>
<p>And guys get in fights all the time. Its just human nature. I wouldnt make it into more of a problem than it needs to be. It does suck that your having roomie issues :(</p>