<p>I'm one of those who never really found their place at my school. I'm kind of a loner and don't really have a group of friends to hang out with, and I don't usually get calls to go do things. I'm not really sure why this is, but I have made some progress I think. I've found a group of guys that I really like, and I know them, but I'm not really part of their group. I'm fairly certain they like me, but I don't want to be like "Hey guys, I don't really have close friends here, can I be a part of your group?" I've considered doing something like that, and I know them well enough that they probably wouldn't mind, but I was wondering what you guys thought. Any advice on maybe making it more subtle? How can I let these guys know I'd like to be a part of their group?</p>
<p>tell them you want to hang out this weekend.</p>
<p>Well, I'm pretty liberal on these things, but IMHO it would be a bit bizarre to be so direct. Joining their group has to happen "organically." I agree with the above poster, just ask them what they are doing this weekend and ask if you can join them. If it goes well, they'll likely invite you next time they're doing something.</p>
<p>^^ what he said</p>
<p>Yeah or like ask them, if you can see their to see when their free during breaks, so you can spend more time with them. That's how I got closer with one group of friends or ask if you want to hang out with them.</p>
<p>Definitely don't force it. You have to understand that you are not going to automatically be "one of the guys". It takes time and if there is good chemistry, you will eventually get closer and closer in their group. Don't ask them to hang out all the time, but it definitely wouldn't hurt to ask them what they're up to this weekend. They will say what they're doing and invite you. If they don't invite you, just maintain your composure and say "is it cool if i come along?". They'll say yes and like another poster said, if it goes well they will start inviting you places.</p>
<p>Seriously dude, don't tell them that you don't have many friends. Because one day if you get into an argument or somethin, they probably will say something to that effect. Being so direct would kind of make you the charity case or somethin. What I would do is act like you got stuff goin on. Don't be so anxious to hang out with them all the time, nobody wants somebody to follow them around everywhere. Play it cool (for lack of better terms). Just remember, you can't force yourself into any group, theres no guarantee that you will be "part of the group" but if this doesn't work out, all you have to do is find something else thats all.</p>