<p>I think what you are describing is a very, very normal 1st semester at college. That first semester or quarter isn't about what they learn in the classroom, but about what they learn about navigating through life. Skills like balancing the social with the academic, figuring out how to make time to do the laundry and write a paper, understanding that they can say 'no' to their new friends and still remain friends, sorting out how they feel about drugs, and alcohol, and sex, learning to negotiate with a roommate, learning how to separate what they want from what they need, and how to recognize the difference - this is what the are learning.</p>
<p>Your daughter may learn the 'hard' way - by failing a few classes, being hauled into a mandatory advising meeting, being on academic probation. But this might be what she needs. On the other hand it is only October, and it may be that by the end of this semester, she will have a better handle on 'work life balance'. </p>
<p>If this were my daughter, I would not give her the 'we are paying for As and Bs' speech, or any kind of guilt or pressure, because if she is struggling, this is just going to make her feel worse (as if she is the only one in this situation, when in reality, probably half of her class is!). Instead, I would let her play out the semester and see where she ends up.</p>
<p>Who knows what her definition of bombing a test in college is? Or what they are worth to her grade. See where her grades this semester end up, and maybe contact the school to see what they do to students who fail their first semester - FERPA says they can't discuss specifics, but they can tell you generally what happens. Nothing that happens is Ruinous and Unfixable - maybe summer school to make up a few classes, but even if she is planning to go on after her undergrad, nobody is going to fault a bad start if she finishes well. I think the only way to cure procrastination is to fall a bit because of it. </p>
<p>I would not let her email you papers though - she needs to find the resources on campus to help her and learn to ask for them. Ask her if her campus has a writing centre, or if she has talked to her advisor about reading papers, or even the professor that the paper is for. Don't enable failure-behavior!</p>
<p>edited to add: one of the reasons I am not a fan of most college orientation programs is that they seem designed to orient freshmen to socializing and partying, but not to academics. I think a lot of freshmen, after having spent a week of doing nothing but socializing struggle once classes start to balance their new college social life with their academics. I don't have a solution for how to change this, mind you, but I do think this is a component in why freshmen struggle so much - because their first week at campus is the opposite of academic. </p>
<p>Remember - half of the parents of all the freshman classes out there have this problem. And the other half are listening to their non-procrastinator children complain about their terrible roommates!</p>