Now Is Not the Time to Worry

<p>This is now the fifth admission season I have observed here on College Confidential, and I have noticed a seasonal pattern: every year after the application deadlines, students make many posts expressing worries about their applications. In January and February and March, when you have submitted applications but are still waiting for admission results, it's psychologically tough to be a senior. But don't let worry consume you. Whatever admission results you see, you have a lot to look forward to. </p>

<p>First of all, you can look forward to being an adult and responsible and accountable for your own actions. If you have already turned eighteen, that is already your legal reality. That can be the reality of your thinking at an even earlier age. </p>

<p>What</a> You'll Wish You'd Known </p>

<p>The world outside of high school is much more challenging, and thus much more interesting, than your high school world, and you can enjoy the experience of responsible action every day of your adult life. </p>

<p>Wherever you are admitted, you can grow and thrive there. Every year during a different season of the year we hear about students who didn't get into their first-choice colleges, and didn't get into their second-choice colleges, but who nonetheless got into a college where they felt a sense of community and benefited from rich learning opportunities. You can do that--I expect you WILL do that--wherever you are admitted. </p>

<p>After they have taken all the SAT or ACT tests they can (for many colleges, January tests are timely for the current admission cycle), students still worry about test scores. Every college in the land admits students who didn't gain perfect scores on the SAT or ACT. </p>

<p><a href="http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-admissions/413821-sat-score-frequencies-freshman-class-sizes.html%5B/url%5D"&gt;http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-admissions/413821-sat-score-frequencies-freshman-class-sizes.html&lt;/a> </p>

<p>Colleges don't order applicants into a strict top-to-bottom ranking by SAT scores. You can get into a good college with the scores you have already. </p>

<p>After they have received mid-year grades, students still worry about any grade lower than an A. Getting grades of A is wonderful and highly recommended, but colleges admit students with lower grades. </p>

<p><a href="http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-admissions/567740-selective-colleges-admitting-students-below-3-75-gpa.html%5B/url%5D"&gt;http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-admissions/567740-selective-colleges-admitting-students-below-3-75-gpa.html&lt;/a> </p>

<p>Keep on working on the classes you are enrolled in now, enjoy your learning, and wait for the admission officers to decide what your grades mean. Grades aren't comparable from one course to another, nor are they comparable from one high school to another. Just do your best, and get yourself ready for a challenging college environment. </p>

<p>After filling out the other parts of college application forms, students still worry about any of the "holistic" admission factors colleges use to select students to admit. Let me repeat something I shout out on various College Confidential posts: DARE TO BE YOURSELF. You don't look like all your high school classmates, you don't have the same interests as all your high school classmates, you don't have the same ethnic origin as all your high school classmates, you don't play the same sports as all your high school classmates, your parents didn't go to the same colleges as the parents of all your high school classmates, and so on. Once you have described your background, interests, and context to a college admission committee by how you fill out your application form, dare to be yourself, and enjoy the last few months of high school. </p>

<p>Have you heard of people who didn't go to [insert name of famous, highly desired college here] and who still were successful adults? I have. Applying to a highly selective college is one way to challenge yourself while you are in high school. I understand the desire to apply to such colleges because many of the most highly desired colleges offer a learning environment that is very enticing, not least because such colleges attract many young people who challenged themselves during high school. But by the pigeonhole principle, not all applicants to the most desired colleges will fit into the small group of colleges that are most desired, and every one of those applicants has at least a theoretical possibility of ending up somewhere else. You can continue to challenge yourself and to meet classmates who challenge themselves wherever you end up. Every highly selective college in the land, as a matter of courtesy, sends out a rejection letter with some kind of polite language noting that you still have a bright future ahead of you. The college does that not just to be polite and sympathetic, but because the statement is true. There are a lot of ways to succeed, and you will find one. </p>

<p>Best wishes to all of you waiting for admission news. Enjoy time with friends and family and whoever you like to be with while you wait. Look forward to having a great school year next year. </p>

<p>Juniors and younger students may be interested in a thread about probability-increasing (NOT deterministic) tips on the college admission process. </p>

<p><a href="http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-admissions/588508-tips-college-admission-process.html%5B/url%5D"&gt;http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-admissions/588508-tips-college-admission-process.html&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p>

<p>This topic is pretty awesome.</p>

<p>yeaaaa this is a really nice post…
I’ve been freaking out over the same things as other seniors too … its just a lot of things i guess. i just can’t stop worrying … but what is done is done, so i might as well be positive about things now and try to enjoy life… enjoy the last bits of my senior year >< </p>

<p>Thank you for posting this =)</p>

<p>Brilliant post. Last year I freaked so badly about college that I ended up stressing myself out so badly, no one could be around me. After taking one year off with NO stress, my apps this year are so much easier. I got an ED rejection and I just laughed because I wasn’t neurotic. Now, I know it doesn’t matter WHERE my coll degree comes from, its what I DO with it that counts. My dad didn’t go to a top uni and he’s the executive director of a company now.</p>

<p>i salute you. this is a noble and wise thread. all we should do now is pray/wish/hope – but more importantly is enjoy the last few months of senior year: the friends and teachers, pointless assignments and cafeteria table debates, talent shows and basketball games, senior pranks and random, awesome moments.</p>

<p>ahhh yessssss, I finally submitted my mid year grades, now its time to sit back, relax, and have a good time</p>

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<p>Exactly my philosophy.</p>

<p>The process has made me more…adult, if you will.</p>

<p>Great thread.</p>

<p>I think more people worry about being considered a failure in the present by themselves and others because of being rejected than about turning into a failure in the future because of not being able to go to a certain school.</p>

<p>These topics are a bit too repetitive. Life advices are plenty throughout CC, and yet get praised over and over as if it’s something new.</p>

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<p>That may be. But not getting into a particular highly desired college should not be considered “failure,” as the math makes certain that many students will not get in.</p>

<p>Thank you for this great post. Recently I was freaking out because I felt I had not “challenged myself” enough with the schools I applied to, that nothing was really a true reach for me. But now I’m starting to realize that it doesn’t matter if it’s the most prestigious school out there - there’s a 95% chance I’ll end up exactly where I’m supposed to be. Which just may end up being my safety that I’m starting to fall in love with!</p>

<p>yea but coconu, who the hell doesn’t love repetition? people see and love movies with the same plots. people love songs with excellent, repeating choruses (sexual healing, shout), and everyone loves them some hallmark cards – which always have the same messages.</p>

<p>this is the truth about today.</p>

<p>i tell others that i’m not worried. but boy am i nervous and anxious…and i can’t help it</p>

<p>S took second semester senior year as a chance to try out some radically different interests. He had a lot of very tough courses, but he drew so much energy from the new things he was doing that he hardly noticed the work. (He now pursues these new interests as a college student.)</p>

<p>This is a good time to turn from the introspection and self-focus of applications and start to look outwards and begin embracing the new life you’ll embark upon in the fall. Applications are done, recommendations and scores are sent. It is out of your hands. A rejection letter does not devalue your efforts and accomplishments any more than an acceptance validates that you took the right path.</p>

<p>Tokenadult, as always, you are a master.</p>

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<p>That sounds like a really constructive way to use the semester after all the college applications have been sent off.</p>

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I’ve been doing something similar with my second semester of senior year. Though not “radically different” interests, I have begun teaching little girls to dance at my studio that I have been at for 12 years which is something I have always wanted to do but never have the time/energy. Now that things are winding down and I am 5 for 5 with colleges, and only waiting on 2 more, I’m taking more time for myself.</p>

<p>i began writing a book and furthering my career as an aspiring rap artist – yea.</p>

<p>let me just clarify that i didn’t mean that as an insult – like there wasn’t any irony, just like the casual “yea” at the end, a laxed mood.</p>

<p>so far, guys, ya’ll probably don’t even care but w.t.f. 2/3 and waiting on ten others. we find out on a fool’s day.</p>

<p>i know everything the OP said is true…but it still doesn’t stop me from worrying…i just try not to think too much about it. but my parents are really the ones who keep making me feel bad about my stuff…especially since their favorite school hasn’t given a final decision…i just want to make the right decision, you know. and its hard when parents pressure you to choose right now.</p>

<p>Tokenadult…!!!
Thank YOu!!</p>

<p>@coconu…um…its not like everyone searches everybit of this website for advice they don’t even recognise that they need.</p>