<p>School: Dartmouth
Result: Deferred ED
School Attended: Dartmouth
Happiness: 9.7? The D would probably say a 10 though. I'm not allowed to say anything mildly negative about the school such as "it must be cold in Hanover!" Her reply, "no it's not!!!" or my reaction to her dorm room "My god, this is tiny!" her response "Are you crazy?, it's great!"</p>
<p>"This is also calming for the parents and kids who are still waiting. . ." Ain't that the truth!! And, I add to the chorus of good wishes for Silver_wavez.</p>
<p>In general, I am thrilled for the kids and families who have received their acceptances. And I am sure that those who were deferred or rejected (surely there has got to be a better word than rejected) can and will find happiness at whatever college they end up choosing. And I apologize for writing that here instead of all the specific threads.</p>
<p>thank u so very much.. it means a lot to me!</p>
<p>School: Yale
Result: Deferred
School Attended: Williams
Happiness: 10</p>
<p>Edit: That was an '03 result, not an '04...But 1-1/2 years into the college experience, it still remains a 10 for her on the happiness index.</p>
<p>my d was just deferred from Brown. My thoughts were she should recalibrate to less selective schools than that as this was her best shot. Apparantly it didn't go that way for you . what did you do differently that turned things around change in essay. apps, recommendations, phone calls from counselors or was it just that "luck" ended up where it should be -- on your side? I need to cousel my daughter and telling her to look at more safety/match schools may sound like a lack of confidence. Any advice anyone</p>
<p>I can't really participate in this thread which I think is great cause my daughter didn't apply to any ED//EA schools and she was accepted to all that she applied to.
But since virtually all of these ED schools are a toss up and all of the schools attended are wonderful schools , it is good to be reminded that when one door closes another opens!</p>
<p>rmom--I think it is best to take a multifaceted approach. Of course send a letter reiterating interest in the ED school, send information about any additional awards and honors, strive for great first semester grades, have the high school make a strong effort to keep your daughter in the forefront of the adcom's minds. But by all means don't decide on the basis of the deferral to apply only to less selective schools; admissions at this level is so chancy in most cases that you just don't know what the outcome will be at other comparable schools. As long as there are some solid matches and safeties on your daughter's list she should certainly also apply to a few additional reaches (Ivys or whatever) if they appeal to her strongly. I have had two children deferred from their ED schools, one several years ago and one last year. Neither was ultimately admitted to the ED school but both were admitted to top 10 LACs (one had applied early to Princeton, the other to an LAC). </p>
<p>Keep a balance between very restrained optimism, do what you can to strengthen the deferred app, and don't think that just because one school didn't work out that another one won't either, especially in the case of a deferral, which implies qualification for Brown, just not acceptance and really cannot be equated with outright rejection. (Though even outright rejection can mean very little at this level of competition!)</p>
<p>Searchingavalon, according to the blog of an MIT adcom, they use the word "deny" instead of "reject." Being denied does sound better than being rejected, but alas, the result is the same. </p>
<p>Two of my son's friends were either denied or deferred (then denied) at their EA/ED schools. Both of them are very happy now. One is on a full ride in the honors program at a state school, the other on a 3/4 scholarship at a slightly less selective private. Slightly off-topic, but last year we had 2 other students who turned down Harvard and Yale for scholarships elsewhere, and they are thrilled with their choices. </p>
<p>There's a school out there that wants you and where you can be very happy.</p>
<p>School: Yale
Result: Denied EA
Attending: Harvard
HQ: 9.5 (misses the bf - otherwise it'd be a 10)</p>
<p>At the risk of repeating myself, let me say: for my d, the world looked very different on April 1 than it did at the end of December. D had a whole bunch of wonderful options by the time the process played itself out. In fact, Yale was the only place D was outright denied. </p>
<p>Perhaps it's helpful to think of the EA decision as just one in a series of events. Just because it is the first decision doesn't mean its the most important one. </p>
<p>Easy for me to say now, of course. The January - March wait was..difficult. (OK, I hear you guys snickering!!!!)</p>
<p>In the name of more info is better, THESE ARE NOT MY KIDS!!!</p>
<ol>
<li><p>relative (niece)
School: Yale
Result: rejected ED (or was it EA?)
Attending: Tufts
HQ: seemed like a 10 when I saw her in Nov</p></li>
<li><p>close friend
School: Penn (wharton)
Result: deferred ED, rejected RD
Attending: Georgetown
HQ: 10, spoke to parents recently, Gtn probably was a better fit to begin with!</p></li>
</ol>
<p>School: Stanford
Result: EA Denied
Attending: Smith
HQ: 9.8 (C'mon, who can't beat the Cali weather?)</p>
<p>It's scary how happy I am at my school that I never once thought that I applied Stanford EA until just recently. Eep. I wonder when we graduate in 2008 if we'd still remember that we applied somewhere early in 2003....</p>
<p>School: Georgetown SFS
Result: Deferred EA
Result: Waitlisted in April
Resut: Called to get off waitlist Third week in April
School Attending: U.C. Berkeley with scholarship</p>
<p>I remember this day last year and how terribly sad my DD was with the deferral. Lots of tears. Funny how things work out. When they called to ask her off of the waitlist, she said NO. She wanted to go to a school where they wanted her. Berkeley is awesome, a much better school all around, and when they sweetened the deal with the Scholarship, she felt like they really wanted her. She is doing great, having a ball and we are thrilled to have her closer to home!!</p>
<p>mattmom thanks so much for your reply it is helpful. however your advice about having her high school keep her name out there for the adcom sticks in my mind. the large puble high school she attends does the minimum-- the guidance couselors see themselves as overworked and harrased by overachieving students and do their best to discourage them. they wouldn;t even send out first semester marking grades for ed applicants stating that they only send out mid-year reports. I have to worry now that they will give my d grief if she adds a few schools as they have a rule that requests need to be in to guidance at lease two weeks before they are due (Today is dec11---they go on winter break on the 24th ---most school's deadlines are Jan 1. And they don;t have to worry about making the school look good ---the incredible accomplishments of their top25% mainly first generation immigrant student body do that on their own (the school does supply a solid foundation and deserves credit in the classroom)</p>
<p>rmom, I think if she does some quick research over the weekend she might be able to get the requests to guidance on Monday which is so close to two weeks in advance that they may well be willing to send the additional material out, especially since in most cases nothing new has to be written (i.e., common app forms just need to be photocopied.) Also, under the circumstances of a deferral even a harried guidance department may be a little flexible; they're human, after all, so if it seems appropriate and comfortable you could even call; being low-key and semi-apologetic but clear about what you would like them to do seems like a good approach--not that you have any need to be apologetic but if they are feeling overwhelmed that approach might be a nice change of pace for the guidance office. I can see that the school may not be in a position to pull out all the stops regarding followup with Brown, but if your daughter is on the cusp there her own efforts may make the difference, and if not, then putting more apps out may indeed be the answer. Anyway, good luck with whatever comes next.</p>
<p>Accepted EA: Stanford
Attending: Columbia
Happiness: 9.8 (he's a born critic, especially of weather)</p>
<p>The point of the post is that he was SO glad he had not locked himself into an ED school, because it took the whole year and another round of applications for him to figure out what was most important to him in selecting a college. Also, like others here, he got into lots of great schools in the RD round but not all. So you cannot assume that just because one place turns you down another will not be thrilled to have you.</p>
<p>School: University of Pennsylvania
Result: Deferred/ Reject
ED 2:
School: Washington Unviersity in St. Louis
Result: Deferred/ Reject
School Attending: University of Michigan
Happiness: I am happier than I ever have been before!!! 10!</p>
<p>thread is really important and deserves to be bumped up</p>
<p>School: Yale EA
Result: deferred EA, rejected RD
Attending: Brown
Happiness: 10</p>
<p>;)</p>
<p>School: Yale
Result: Deferred EA/Accepted RD
School Attended: Yale
Happiness: 9.5 (the .5 is taken off due to current stress resulting from finals, I love Yale and I could not see myself happier anywhere else)</p>
<p>School: Yale EA
Result: Denied
Attending: Haverford
Happiness: 10</p>
<p>:)</p>