<p>When you all start screaming at me, please at least try to be somewhat civil.</p>
<p>On Gordie:
Yes it is horrible that anyone would die at such a young age.
That being said. This was not part of any ritual of the fraternity. No fraternity ritual involves alcohol. This is the brothers of this specific chapter being morons. Clearly hindsight being what it is, what the pladge class should have done if they felt what had been given to them was too much alcohol, is dump out what they did not drink. Yes, the brothers gave it to them. Yes, the brothers told them to drink it all, but they did not stay there and forcefeed them alcohol before or after someone had passed out from consumption. Please do not assume that all fraternities are like this, haze, are complete morons; it's just not true.</p>
<p>Did anyone ever consider why kids who are 17/18 do all the dying from alcohol, and it's very rarely those who are not freshmen?</p>
<p>The kids who have come and gone as freshmen have done their hard-core "my parents aren't here" partying when the first get to college. They know their limits, the don't get as drunk as they can as fast as they can. That's not to say, of course, that freshmen are the only ones who drink, the problem is, that the freshman try to either keep up or out drink people who have been drinking heavily for 2-3 years, and simply do not have the tolerance to do this. My suggestion is (and this is where half of you grab your anxiety medication/shotguns) let your kids drink when they're in high school. Let them do it in a controlled environment. Let your kids have their friends over to your house and let them drink. There's no need for you to supply the booze (trust me, they know where to get it), but make sure they know they have a safe environment in which to consume alcohol. The will get drunk, they will trow up, and when the get to college, they will know their limits and wont drink themselves to death. Plus, my ass wont have to stay up all night watching them puke on my couch/trashcan and missing class they next day.</p>
<p>As for the greek/GDI descision, if nothing else, think of it this way:
Your kids are going to drink when they get to college. Even if they tell you they don't, they are. Which is better for them, drinking with their brothers (active or pledge) when there's a designated driver and a couch to sleep on or with a group of friends trying to suck down more booze than one another and either driving back some where to sleep and/or facing harsh penalties from University Housing.</p>
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Read the book Pledged, even if a third of what she writes about is accurate, its eye opening</p>
<p>I kind of like the idea of frat and sorities that don't have houses, that are truly into service work, bonding, etc
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That book is a crock of *****. It was writen to sell books and make money. DO NOT TAKE IT TO HEART!</p>
<p>My fraternity has a house, it is a dry house (as are 209 of 215 Theta Chi houses, 6 have waivers), there is no alcohol allowed in the house. If we have alcohol in the house we can lose our charter, as we will have violated our national by-laws.</p>
<p>This past year, MY chapter won the Volunteer Hampton Roads "Volunteer Organization of the Year" award. Yes, we drink, but this is far from all we do.</p>
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UCLAri, you display an astounding ignorance of the issue by calling this an ISOLATED incident. Do yourself a favor and research the issue before posting such a naive comment.
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What is the ratio of GDI's who die in drunk driving accidents every year that could have been prevented by a sober brother/sister program compared to those who die with one?</p>
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I can see how someone who is a rational intelligent person could get swept up in a frat initiation and not realize what the consequences could be. Please, everyone read Gordy's site and you will see what a fabulous person he was and if someone like that can get sucked in then anyone can.
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All Fraternities and Soroities have Risk Managment Standards. At all parties we have at least 3 people on a "Risk Team" who remain sober. They are also present at all forms of ritual in case anyone decides to drink before hand.</p>
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My biggest complaint with frats at UCLA was that none of them served even remotely good beer during Rush!</p>
<p>What good is fraternizing if everyone is drinking Dutch pee or American deer spit?
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This is the fairest thing anyone's said about fraternities yet.</p>
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One way to stop the hazing is to require frats to have several older alums present during all initiations.
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"Older Alums" who have jobs? A lot of the rituals happen late at night so as to not interfere with other responsibilities (class, jobs, etc.), and yes, the soon-to-be brothers are required to go to class during initiation week, if they don't they are taken before the standards board.</p>
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jlauer, I went through rush week, along with everyone else (granted, this was 25 years ago), so had no better or worse opportunity to look for people with similar interests. It just wasn't really possible with all those silly little parties.</p>
<p>Really, those are a big crush of polite small talk, mingling with women who you might like or not, (but couldn't tell under those contrived settings), and sizing up...on both sides.</p>
<p>I think I made a bad sororoity choice, in retrospect, but truthfully, in retrospect, there isn't a choice that would have suited me better. I think I was just better as an independent, despite how much of campus life focused on Greek life. I liked it better not being affiliated, and liked the non-Greek people better too.
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For what's it's worth, this does not occur in fraternities, as there is no formal recruitment.</p>
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I'm still have the issue with a formal from a WUSTL's fraternity. They do their parties in another state, and the "brothers" don't have the choice but rooming alone with their dates. Most parents don't care, but having a teenager daughter, I do care.
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The reason a lot of fraternities/sororities have their annual formal far away from campus is to force people to stay in rooms and prevent drunk people from driving back to campus. Also, it costs half as much to split a room with someone else, and put 4 people in a room. With another set of people in the room, certain "activities" are greatly reduced.</p>
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Cornell University freshman (name of student) was found dead Friday morning
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Again, tragic, but a freshman.</p>
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I'm on track to either double or triple major plus get an MEng in 8 semesters,
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1) This is not possible
2) He wanted to do this and never wnated to use Chemistry again?
There was something wrong with this kid other than drinking.</p>
<p>Yes, stupid ***** does happen. However, stupid ***** would be happening with or without fraternities, and with fraternities there is always someone to back you up and the knowlege that you are representing something much larger than yourself.</p>
<p>Also, it's not a "frat," it's a fraternity. You wouldn't call your country a ****, would you?</p>
<p>And finally,</p>
<p>Like I said previously, please try to remain somewhat civil when screaming responses at me. </p>
<p>636</p>
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