<p>^I’m glad, ellemenope. With a continuing eye to the OP, let me also say that I think most of us humans (including our kids) are in some way “hard-wired” to behave the way we do. My wife and I are blessed because our two kids, with seemingly little input from us, did mostly the right things at mostly the right times. Both are safely in or on their way to great colleges, and from my perspective, they both seemed to do it on their own. For example, we both tried like crazy this year to convince our younger to take fewer than seven AP classes (plus leadership class), but he refused to take our advice. He’s doing fine, but sometimes I wonder where he gets his stubborn, goal-oriented point-of-view. At least he got his interest in indie music from me (I think).</p>