<p>OP-
Your parents sound like they are capable financially of making things work. Money being tight vs money being non-existent are 2 different things. If they are able to tighten their belts, not take any more luxury trips, and if they have stable incomes, sound like they can take ownership of the issue and figure it out. Dad doesn’t want you to take out loans. Fine. You offered. That was kind. You offered to stay at B-C. That was kind. Isnt your mom the one who wasnt going to talk to you because you chose to go to Michigan State instead of trying to use a connection to get into Rice? Was that you? If so, sorry for your difficulties. Your dad is supportive. Listen to him. Mom-- well, she needs to revisit her priorities.</p>
<p>I’ve got to agree with alf56 and jym626. You not transferring colleges shouldn’t be the price paid for your mother’s trip. There is a difference between taking out loans when it isn’t clear how they will be paid back and taking out loans when it looks like the future revenue will exist for them to be repaid. Your dad has offered to take out the loans, it sounds like he has enough earning power that he will be able to pay them back. I think you should let him do this for you.</p>
<p>@jym yea that was me. And I found out that one of the reasons she was so adamant about Rice was because, as I said in that thread, she thought the connection could get me a scholarship, and she was against MSU because she knew that the finances weren’t there but my dad just recently found out to what extent. And I think she blames me for it, my sister has been told me that she has been calling me selfish and stupid.</p>
<p>@Pea, I get what you’re saying about the loans, thanks for that insight. New revenue will be earned because the business is doing well and the only reason money isn’t coming in is because they just bought a new building so the revenue is mostly going to pay off that loan.</p>
<p>Thanks for all your advice you guys. I’ve submitted all of my scholarship applications so hopefully towards the end of the summer things will be a bit easier to figure out.</p>
<p>So your mom took your college money for a vacation (without telling dad??), tries to manipulate you into choosing a school you dont want to attend with the belief that some alum can pull strings to get you in <em>and</em> get you scholarshiip $ (to cover the money she blew frivously and selfishly) and she is calling YOU selfish and stupid? Wow. Thats all the more reason to go to Michigan State. Its farther from the Bahamas than B-C or Rice. Sorry to say this, but if she is as you describe, your mom is toxic.</p>
<p>My parents did a similar thing in high school; “Apply whereever you want. The reason we never went on a family vacation farther than 10 hours away by car once a year is so that we could afford to pay for your college.” And then during the application process, “You might want to not bother with those essays, even if you get in there is no way we can afford UMich/NYU/Carleton.”</p>
<p>@jym626, yea my mom is, well, she is who she is. I wish I could change it but I just have to live with it. And yeah, my dad didn’t know where she was getting the money, he thought she had her own money saved up. And boy was he p****d when he found out, but he’s actually gotten used to that side of her.</p>
<p>And the more I think about it, the more I realize I have to get away, MSU is looking really good, lol. I just can’t wait for this summer to end!</p>
<p>Sorry she is putting you through all this, pc. Let your dad deal with her. Should not be your problem.</p>