<p>So, I believe I may actually be in love/extremely like this person and I tried asking if we could date in the beginning of the school year and well he said no because he's 4 years older than me. Is that age difference really that big? 0.0 So, I tried to "forget" I ever had feelings for him, we're just friends etc.. and then he's the one that's all weird because he's very affectionate. He's keeps putting his arm around him, rubbing my back, etc... and then I like him all over again @_@ What should I do? :/ Should I ask him if he wants to hang out? Would he even want to with someone who's 4 years younger than him? How do I make him notice me? Or should I just forget the whole thing and tell him your affectionate gestures make me feel awkward.</p>
<p>In the real world, that's a small age difference. In college, that's the difference between a freshman who just left high school and a senior about to get a professional job.</p>
<p>From your last line -- if he makes you feel uncomfortable, forget about it. You can find someone who won't reject you and who makes you feel good. Personally, I say either forget about it, or hang out with him and see if he's going to be kinder and more willing before taking it any further.</p>
<p>its not that hes 4 years older trust me.</p>
<p>he is just not physically attracted to you.</p>
<p>^</p>
<p>then why “He's keeps putting his arm around him, rubbing my back, etc... ”</p>
<p>lol....</p>
<p>He's sending mixed signals. A lot of people do. His are probably because he's attracted to you, but you're a kid--I didn't see a huge difference either when I was a freshman, but now that I'm on the other end of the 4-year age difference, 18/19 year old freshmen seem completely inappropriate as dating material. Even if I were single and interested in someone that young, it wouldn't be worth the problems. He's doing the responsible and adult thing by not dating you.</p>
<p>Tell him the mixed signals bother you, and go from there.</p>
<p>He is not attracted to you, but he realizes that he could probably get somewhere with you sinec you are deeply attracted to him (and by get somewhere I do not mean a relationship).</p>
<p>Oh I think he' PHYSICALLY attracted to her just fine...</p>
<p>This guy sounds sketchy, and is probably trying to get into your pants. Agreed with BeKindRewind, he probably knows that he can take advantage of you. The 4 years difference is a lame excuse. Move on and tell him to stop touching you if he doesn't want a relationship with you.</p>
<p>I dated a guy almost 5 years older than me at the beginning of the year (I'm a freshman now). I don't think he's worried about the age, to be honest, because if he really liked, you, age wouldn't be an issue.</p>
<p>he doesn't want you like that, get over it</p>