<p>Let's just get one thing straight...I DO NOT disprove of people who have premarital sex. This is a thing of life. Premarital sex is something that 90% of socially funcitioning people will have before they die. I don't look down on anyone, and I'm definetely not judmental. I realize that there is a good chance (maybe 50/50) that I will meet some major hottie and fall for him and have sex (before I'm married <em>gasp</em>) </p>
<p>So please, </p>
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<li>don't assume anyone who goes to church is a prude
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<li>don't make assumptions based on a simple statement if those things are not blatantly written. I don't believe my theory had any sort of hidden innuendo or rudeness. It was purely neutral. I'm sorry that so many of you have had "crazy christian experiences or watched specials on doom-on-you preachers or have been in anyway offended by someone in the clergy (<em>cough</em> certain catholics <em>cough</em>) Just remember that for every "bad" christian there is a "good" one out there somewhere. Also, don't forget that to err is human, and christians are in no way less or more human than an agnostic or atheist or muslim or other person.</li>
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<p>And besides, Christianity isn't the only religion that preaches abstinance.</p>
<p>I'm a rather liberal Christian. The only social issue I will argue on the side of most Christians is abortion.</p>
<p>So in other words, I agree with tolerance. I just want everyone to be tolerated, not just the minority.</p>
<p>As for affairs, I guess if your husband/wife is okay with it, there's really nothing stopping you...except legality. So if there's ever a divorce, things could get messy. I'm not going to tell you that it's wrong, because it's really not my place to say.</p>
<p>premarital sex, affairs, w/e...they are all personal choices. Maybe they're not choices that i would make for myself, but that's not my concern. If you feel like doing that, I say go ahead.</p>
<p>I made a choice when i was younger to save myself for marriage. that may be old-fashioned, but call me crazy, i want to have security before getting that involved. besides, there is always a chance of pregnancy or contracting an STD, so im taking all precautions.
of course, it's a personal choice, im just voicing mine.</p>
<p>I'm wondering how opinions on this vary with geographical region. </p>
<p>I'm in the Southwest and don't seem to encounter a lot of people here who make the same choice as above (snoopyiscool), though plenty of people are precautious about it. </p>
<p>Is it the people I know, maybe the area my high school's in, or maybe the area of the US?? </p>
<p>I guarantee that nearly all of you will lose your virginity after the first year of college despite what you say now. Our generation is much different than ones in the past and is more prone to "hook-up" than have a steady relationship. Especially now guys/girls, we're all waiting longer to get married right?? Like my mom married when she was 22 but most girls now wait till like ages 26-28 and guys wait until they are 30+ years. That just means that all you abstinence folks will have to wait that much longer for a sexual experience. It's highly probable that <em>most</em> if not all will crack before then. Sex completely aside, I know for a fact that I would want to wait till I am financially secure before I commit to marriage and that seems to be the popular sentiment today among young people.</p>
<p>Why would you wait until marriage to have sex? I personally don't plan on getting married til my 30's. That is an extremely long time to wait and completely unnecessary. If you love and care about the person then i say premartial sex is okay.</p>
<p>Nobody here seems to have expanded on the whole emotional aspect of premarital sex. </p>
<p>Someone here posted that almost all of us will lose our virginity after our freshman yr of college. Personally, I don't see how it's possible to have sex with anyone without there being any emotion behind it. I'd think that if I did have sex, I'd feel very emotionally attached to my partner, which would not be good for the rest of my college experience. </p>
<p>Is it really possible to have sex without any strings attached?</p>
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<p>Why not? I loved having a steady relationship through college. It was my anchor.</p>
<p>I don't get attached easily. Sex isn't really a big deal in the world anymore. I don't see how it would make me more or less attached to someone.</p>
<p>But chances are I'm wrong on that.</p>
<p>I live in the Midwest. I have nothing against premarital sex or abstinance. Of course, I've only lived here 3 years, but still...</p>
<p>There's more to life than sex, which is why I think it can wait a few years. What difference would it make of you waited a few years? and I think that sex does get people attached.</p>
<p>me.duh, how can you say sex isn't really a big deal? of course it is. you are getting attached to them, whether you realize it or not. btw, whoever asked, i go to a high school in the southeast, along the bible belt. i dont know if my surroundings influenced my decision or not, but i feel great knowing im not the only one making this choice.</p>
<p>Well, nothing much is really a big deal to me. I had cancer a few years ago and I didn't really care about that. I also live along the Bible belt, so I tend to keep quiet about my views. =\ It's not just sex.</p>
<p>i dont think sex is that big of a deal as people make it out to be. it feels good. yes it can get you pregnant and give you diseases, which is why you should be in a monogomous relationship and use safe sex, but you don't need to be married.</p>
<p>Yes, you can still get diseases even if you're married, and even if your spouse is a "virgin," because that term has different levels of meaning. Being married isn't a guarantee of anything. Hopefully, you will trust your spouse enough to know that he or she doesn't carry diseases.</p>