<p>Ok college students. This is a serious inquiry. What I mean by that is please don't make smart remarks. I'm trying to get your take on something because I'm a mom and maybe I am out of touch. </p>
<p>A few days ago my soon-to-be college freshman daughter and her friend were sitting in the kitchen eating lunch while I was going about my business. They were talking about a friend of theirs who had been at a huge party the previous weekend and who had made out with three guys. Unfortunately, before I could stop myself, I made the comment that I was surprised that so and so had behaved in such a loose way. My daughter said I was very judgemental and didn't know anything about things today. Well, I was just wondering what you think of this kind of behavior. What constitutes being known as loose? Am I out of touch? </p>
<p>BTW, I realize I should have kept my mouth shut and not interjected my opinion.</p>
<p>I am not going to judge anyone, but this girl is never going to find a dude who truely respects her. That might be the important thing you tell you daughter. Yes, in todays world girls/guys act like this, but no one is going to think highly of them.</p>
<p>Personally, I think "(it's bad) only if she had SEX with all those same guys in one night. Making out, eh, big deal. Whatever. Sure 3 in one night making out is a little excessive, but I don't think it's necessarily "Loose". She was probably just trying to get attention, and was most likely drunk. From personal experience, one tends to grab and kiss anything that is human and moves, when really drunk. If her friends thought it would make her look bad, they should've taken her home or away from the main crowd for a while after Guy #2.</p>
<p>First off, it's "definitely" and "loose." Just a peeve of mine...</p>
<p>Secondly, I suspect that this comes from the perception that women should be more demure. While there is a rational evolutionary reason for this (women should be more careful with mate selection, since they have more limited resources to go around...so to speak), it does present an interesting mores issue, doesn't it?</p>
<p>Should we be more concerned about the friend or the three guys?</p>
<p>I don't think kissing 3 people in one night really makes someone loose, especially when alcohol is involved and there are a lot of kissing games and such... It's so common nowadays. Sleeping with 3 people in one night, yeah, that's loose.</p>
<p>StreetSmart, thanks for your advice but I'm not going to tell my daughter anything about her friend. (I pick and choose when I make comments!) I agree with you but didn't know if that was an old fashioned opinion. </p>
<p>AUlostchick, I'm sure you are right and there was excessive drinking involved. It seems kind of odd that most of the people who think the behavior is slutty are guys. I bet that's one thing that hasn't changed since the days when I was in school--the good old double standard!</p>
<p>I think that behavior is a bit "loose" and doesn't happen everyday, but I wouldn't judge her for it or think any less of her for it. She's young and these things happen. Also, I suppose there is a bit of a double standard. A girl who is loose is called "slutty" while a guy who is loose gets high fives, but really, I don't think he is very well respected by other guys.</p>
<p>Why not? They are also probably engaging in poor behavior as well. They are also now more likely to be susceptible to some diseases, thanks to the "swapping" behavior.</p>
<p>UCLAri, I now see what you're saying. You're holding the guys to the same standard as the girl in this situation. </p>
<p>vicissitudes, I'm guessing this behavior doesn't happen every day, but I can't say for sure. As I said before, I'm pretty sure alcohol was involved. I know it wasn't sex, but I'm wondering what will happen to this girl's reputation when it gets around that she made out with three guys that night. My daughter's reaction to me ("You are SO judgmental!) says that she probably thinks it's no big deal. Maybe she was just defending her friend. </p>
<p>I don't know. I guess that's why I came to the young people on here to get your opinions.</p>
<p>i just think she is ****ed that you were listening in on your conversation and made a comment...i sure would be...teenagers don't really want their parents to hear about that stuff</p>
<p>She sounds like a s**t to me. I'm sick of these girls who have no self-respect and don't treat their bodies like temples...I am NOT kidding. I'm sick of how American teenagers act. All they think about is sex and alcohol/drugs.</p>