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<p>I have plenty of privacy. Both my roommate and I aren't too comfortable with each other. So basically we get up at the same time--and one of us goes to the bathroom to get changed while the other gets changed in the room (or bathroom if the other comes back fairly quickly). It's just getting out of the shower that's the only awkward thing. As long as you bring in your clothes to the bathroom, it's not a problem. Otherwise, I've came into my room in just a towel while my roommate's guy friends were standing around my room in order to get my clothes. Awkward! </p>

<p>Oh, you learn to take shorter showers--or longer ones depending on the time and who you share a bathroom with. My suitemates all take showers at different times so it really doesn't matter for the most part. But, you don't want to be the girl with the really really loud shower radio. Seriously, so annoying! And fun fact: at least here, all the girls bathrooms have locks on them so there's plenty of privacy in the fact you have to know the code to get in.</p>

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I've came into my room in just a towel while my roommate's guy friends were standing around my room in order to get my clothes

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<p>Wait, what????</p>

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<p>i think that sentence was badly phrased. He probably meant to say he went into the room with a towel on to get his clothes and his roommate's guy friends were standing around when he entered. Not his roommate's guy friends were in the room in order to get his clothes when he walked in with a towel on.</p>

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<p>I assume asdfjkl is female...(?)</p>

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<p>in that case, I can see that as awkward. Although during both of my past two year at college, there's always been a guy whose gf basically lived in his room and used the guys bathroom (the guys and girls are separate floors/wings) so I guess I'm used to walking in on girls in the bathroom or those things....</p>

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<p>I live in a dorm (Warren, for you Terriers), and we have a communal bathroom, but we have enough privacy. Pretty much every guy on the floor has seen each other in boxers (or more--some people dry off with the shower curtain open, which is a little weird). If you're really prudish, you'll find it uncomfortable, but otherwise it's completely fine. And as for changing, everyone changes in their rooms. If you walk in in your boxers and your roommate has friends over, it's awkward for a second, and then you put your pants on and it's fine.</p>

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<p>My roommate is a prostitute</p>

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<p>A no-kidding, professional one??</p>

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<p>Yes, and she won't let me be a customer :(</p>

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<p>I just came across a post of yours in the HIGH SCHOOL life board...haha...you troll!! ;)</p>

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<p>Are you kidding? if i was a troll i'd be ripping this website to shreds, but the mods are strict so i have to act in moderation ;)</p>

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<p>hahaha...the beauty of euphamisms...</p>

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<p>eh standing in a towel isnt awkward at all. i mean youre less covered in the bathing suit so whats the problem. last i would have 10 min coversations with girls in my hall with just towels. or walk in the guys hall and see ppl just walking in their boxers. my guy friends have seen me just coime out of the shower in a towel and and <em>gasp</em> have walked in when i didnt have a shirt on. no biggie. as long as theres underwear/towel coverages its okay go for me.</p>

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<p>I am finally in the process of getting a new roommate :)</p>

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<p>Wow these stories are awful. Me and my roommate never had any issues, and I read this other thread about a "roommate contract" and honestly I had never heard of one before. I guess I lucked out because he had a girlfriend back home, and even when she came I really didn't care, I just found something else to do. Both of us were high strung when it came to grades, but found a strong medium between that and having fun. We definitely followed the "work hard party harder" mantra, and we hung out a lot with a similar group of friends.</p>

<p>The only thing that would get annoying is that our room was the "hang-out" room of the floor. As in either of us would come back to some random two or three people playing Xbox or watching TV without the other roommate in there. Nothing ever got stolen, but there was a lot of trash left in there (empty bottles, etc.) I still go over to his apartment a lot, so it seems I had a pretty different experience than most of you.</p>

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<p>So my situation is this and you suggestions would help alot!</p>

<p>I live with 3 other Guys, it's a 4 Bedroom Apartment (1300 sq feet), plenty of space for everyone and we all get along fairly well. However, my RANT is with Cleaning (Kitchen mostly), Garbage Removal and NOISE! I'm 21, and the other 3 are 19,19,20. *'ve been out on my own for 3 years since I moved away from home, I have "real world experiance" as I have also worked for thoes 3 years. My roommates are in their 2nd year of University and last year lived in rezz other wise thats the first time they had left home.</p>

<p>The KITCHEN... We all moved in around September 1st, all was ok cause the first 3 weeks past with minimal cleaning issues and so it was time to do the first major clean... I was the one who did it as I like my kitchen clean. I dont like comming into a dirty kitchen to where the sink is full of dishes and the counter has spills or stuck on food that was never wiped up after the orrignal spill. I dont mind if there are like Clean dishes in the drying rack or some spred over the counter (as long as they are clean). So after that major clean I told them to just be dilligent about wipeing thigs up after they are spilt and to keep the sink clear of dirty dishes and to put them into the DISHWASHER! Ohh right did I mention that we have a DISHWASHER in the apartment (it's included)! One of the Students MUST-HAVES! But non of em see to get the concept of unloading it when it's finnished then re-loading it with their dishes after they use them. They like to leave all the dirty stuff lying out and around the counter right where they were useing it and no wiping up the spilt stuff. So I think you get the gist of what I'm saying that they like to just leave everything where they were using it and not wanted to wipe up their own messes...about 48 hours later they actually decide to clean up their dishes, but never seem to be able to wipe off the counter.
I like to cook in a sanatary enviroment as I do cook most of my meals, I dont want to move all their **** around inorder to make my food... but I usually have to.
Today I came home from a 4 day weekend at my parients.... and see the kitchen a compleat mess, food in the sink from like the day I left and thoes little flys buzzing around it... I flipped, I dont think they know it but thats also really un-healthy. I keep saying to myself that I will not keep moving their stuff and cleaning off the counter... but what happends, I wanna cook and I do it. NEXT TOPIC.......!</p>

<p>Garbage: Well atleast they are putting their stuff in the garbage can, however I dont think any of them know howto change a garbage when it gets full. Enough said?? I'll just leave it to your immagination, however to help your mind... I have to clean the hole pail one time cause there was grren mold growing in the bottom of the can because the bag came loose from the sides and an egg yoke sliped into the side of the pail.</p>

<p>Noise: Not a really big factor as they usually lock their selves in their rooms most of the time as they all have major course loads and they don't watch much tv too. However when they watch TV in the livving room I sware they are DEFF... I can hear it plain as day in my room which is the farthest from it. Even when your in the main Hall to all the Apartments you can hear it.</p>

<p>I know it could be worse from things I have read on theese sites, however the thing that really is a constant ****-OFF is the clenliness of the Kitchen and how it's allways dirty. If it was kept tidy and spils were wiped up and they put their dishes into the dishwasher after they were finnished with them then all would be just fine. It does not have to be spick n' span or cleaned on a daily basis, however it must be kept in good condition. AND I DONT WANT TO BE THE ONLY ONE DOING IT, as I SEEM TO BE FOR THE LAST 2 MONTHS!</p>

<p>So any suggestions would be a great help, sutch as "hard hint" droping, or ways to say it with ouit getting into DEFEND MODE! THANK YOU!</p>

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<p>Next time the TV bugs you just say "hey, could you please turn it down so I can study."</p>

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<p>I need advice:
I feel like my roommate (an only child) acts like I'm her mom; although she's very nice. Every time she comes around its to ask for something, anything: pencil, nail clipper, plate (which she'll let sit w/ food and never wash for two weeks), spoon, fork (even when she's just come back from the store: why wouldn't you get a fork when you bought the food?), food, toilet paper, answers to hw questions. We share a class together, once she just passed me her paper and was like: can you check my answers. I don't have problems helping, but she doesn't even want explanations, she waits til I've done my work and expects me to pretty much give her the answers. I also feel like I couldn't ask my roommate for anything if I needed to (not that she ever has anything I would need). The other night we had plans to go to dinner together, but I assumed that my roommate had left me (as she's done so many times in the past), and I went w/ someone else. Turns out she was sleeping under the covers the whole time, although I tried to wake her up. Her response: "now I have to go to dinner myself, next time just make sure I wake up". I felt like telling her: "I'm not your alarm clock, mother, private tutor or grocery store! If you were more reliable, I wouldn't assume that you had ditched me for dinner again."
The problem is my roommates says and asks for things so sweetly; but the manipulation is still totally there. Am I unreasonable to be fed up w/ my roommate's attitude, I don't want tension after only a month of school? Is it bad to just say "no; enough"?
Today she asked to use my blowdryer for the 10th time (She obviously has no intention of ever getting her own). I said yes only because it would be weird to suddenly say no, but I am very annoyed because last night she practically stared me down while I was eating at the common room table (which she bought, very possessive). I don't stare her down when she spills things in my fridge and doesn't pick up. This was after I had to sit on the floor when she wouldn't make room on the couch (which wasn't bought by her). And to think she always asks me: Why don't you come out to the common room. I should answer b/c your so selfish, duh!
She will always ask the first time to borrow juice, soap, ect. but then I feel that she thinks after that first time she can help herself. If someone (I have 4 roommates) asks to have some juice, I'll let them; but I find it not okay that within a few days there is no juice left for me. I find such a thing common courtesy: if you didn't buy the food, you shouldn't eat it until its finished. I do not have this problem with my other roommates. How can I make it clear that a one-time O.K does not always apply? How do I tell my roommate to go to the supermarket herself (i've already tried accompanying her there, but she buys tiny amounts that finish quick) ? I don't want to have to hide my food, I bought a fridge and feel like I should be able to freely use it w/o food going missing.
How do I confront her without being accusatory or causing tension for the next 6 months of our school year? (Although at this point I don't really care about being nice, since her taking advantage is not very nice)
!! Sorry this was a long post, but I just don't know what to do :( Its really stressful on me.</p>

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<p>First of all, her being an only child isn't the reason why she is like that. I'm an only child and I hope/think I'm not like that, and I know plenty of rude people with brothers and sisters.</p>

<p>Now...if you don't want to cause tension, I wouldn't make a huge confrontation. Don't give her a long lecture about all the things that bother you about her. Just next time she asks for your HW, say "sorry but I don't understand it either," or say you're not done, or if she wants your food tell her you can't really spare any because you're getting low. Don't make a big deal or make her feel bad, just tell her no to specific things (in a nice way) and she will learn that she can't always depend on you and manipulate you.</p>

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<p>^ Very good advice. Like the poster above said, don't enable her. </p>

<p>Don't be nasty about it, but act natural and say no, even if you have to do it in a roundabout way. For example, if you discover that your juice is gone because she drank it, then act innocent and go "I could've sworn I bought this just X days ago, I wonder what happened there" and maybe that'll get her thinking. If not, then under the pretext of getting people's crap mixed up in the fridge, have a meeting with everyone in the apartment and divvy up the space in the fridge so that there's no confusion and everything is clear which will hopefully send a message to the person. </p>

<p>And for some other things, while I hate to say this (and I am also a very private person and an only child so I can understand both sides somewhat), sometimes you just have to share. For example, the hairdryer, it's sometimes impractical for everyone to have one if you all live together in the same apartment. As long as she's not hogging it, clamoring to use it when you need it, acting like she owns it, or getting it nasty and crap on it, then maybe you can let it go. On the other hand, if it's an inconvenience, then let her know or refuse and state a reason for so that she knows. </p>

<p>When I'm annoyed with my roommate (believe me, with the amount of TV he watches and the noise it makes it happens on a regular basis), I always think about what my parents told me. As cliched as it sound, no one is exactly like you, everyone has their own quirks and failings, myself included. So when you are annoyed, think of the times when others must have had to put up with you and just go with it. If you just can't stand it, then go off by yourself for a bit and do something to take your mind off it.</p>