<p>I guess the hard thing for me is confronting people/ I tried to let things go but I think the feeling of being uncomfortable in my own living room (i.e. feeling weird about using the table, having no space on the couch, cleaning up after others) was what really got to me. Thanks for the advice :)</p>
<p>The "ladies" next door to my apartment keep banging on the wall. Incessantly.
It's driving me crazy.
And they keep knocking on my door, I guess to "talk about our probelms."
I dislike being disturbed.</p>
<p>The next time they come a-knocking, I'm answering the door naked and holding a butcher knife.
I guarantee they won't ever return.</p>
<p>I have... its not the TV thing that bugs the **** outta me, its the damn cleaning of the kitchen!</p>
<p>Don't confront her. Once my friend and I were at a rock concert and I wanted to buy some cheap snack--a $1 thing--during a break, and I didn't have money so my friend literally INSISTED that I take her $10 and give her back the change. So I spent $3, getting one snack each for me, the friend and our other friend. A few days later she was all "I need to talk to you" and gave me this 10 minute lecture about how she's a student, poor, $3 could have bought her holiday cards for her family etc etc etc. True, I shuoldn't have got 2 extra snacks with her money without asking her, but her response was very rude and overexaggerated, and a simple "Can I have my $3 back? ;)" would have been sufficient.
If you "confront" your roomate, you'll make her feel the way my friend made me feel--picked on and offended. There's a difference between standing up for yourself through confrontation, which is necessary if the roomate is being verbally nasty to you, and just letting stuff go and saying no to specific things in a nice way (like the earlier discussion about copying homework). The stuff she's doing--using the hairdryer, taking up too much space--is probably stuff that she doesn't even realize bothers you, so why create tension?
As for cleaning up...don't clean up messes that she makes. You aren't her mom. If she makes a gross mess in your personal space, kindly ask her to clean up after herself but otherwise leave her messes alone for her to deal with. ;)
Good luck!! ;)</p>
<p>"she's doing about 10 minutes of homework for every 30 minutes of browsing the internet."</p>
<p>Hilarious</p>
<p>200 questions?
which school?
I'll be SUPER interested...lol
plz PM me</p>
<p>guys...I have a question...
when talking about guys coming to girls room and have "fun"...
will it be like.... open pron shows?
or it's just kissing and hugging stuff....
real question... no kidding</p>
<p>I live with 3 other Guys, it's a 4 Bedroom Apartment (1300 sq feet),</p>
<p>lol....is it Loyola?
just wondering...</p>
<p>It was Johns Hopkins. My friend said they asked about 200 questions. He could have been exaggerating, though. That's just what he told me.</p>
<p>PS: No double posting.</p>
<p>i heard of someone who's roomate had huge pet cockroaches in a jar or tank...</p>
<p>My roommate goes in the bathroom and talks rather loudly for hours on end. And I've never seen a bigger mountain of hair products in a guy's room in my life. Otherwise I'd say he's pretty normal.</p>
<p>my suitemate smelled..luckily he just moved out for some reason.</p>
<p>My roommate is a really nice guy, but he can be a little inconsiderate sometimes. I know it's not intentional and he is most likely not aware of it. But sometimes, the things he does are just so that if he just stopped to think about it for a bit, I'm sure he probably wouldn't have done them. </p>
<p>I don't know if it's just me, but do you guys find whistling annoying?</p>
<p>My roommate constantly whistles, especially when I'm not in the same room but still in the apartment. He also likes to hum and/or whistle under his breath when we are in the same room. The problem is that whistling is by nature high pitched and it carries. I have tried headphones, shutting doors, doing both, etc. But it's so high pitched that it goes through everything. When he whistles, I can't concentrate and it just invades my thoughts. It's gotten to the point where sometimes I imagine I hear him whistling when he's not or when he's not even at home. </p>
<p>I have taken to staying out from the moment I get up (usually around 9) to almost midnight for days at a time. I don't really want to make this a big deal because he's a nice guy but this quirk is driving me up the wall. </p>
<p>Also (this is a minor thing compared with the whistling), my roommate has a wacked study schedule. He plays video games, watches TV, etc until like 2 in the morning, then starts doing work. Whereas, I'm an engineer so I have work almost all the time. And since both of our desks are in our room (we share a one bedroom because of school policy) he often stays up late so that I can't get to sleep until late at night. I have early morning classes and he doesn't so this does impact my sleep. I'm hoping that since he has 8:30 classes 3 days a week next semester, he'll change his habits. However, he tries to be considerate about it so it's a minor problem at most. I just find it weird when he has that kind of a schedule then complains about being so tired or having to stay up late. </p>
<p>Phew...sorry about the rant, but I had to get some of that stuff off my chest. I like my roommate, we met freshmen year and we are good friends. He's also one of the nicest guys I've ever met. But I just find that some of his quirks drive me to distraction (literally). I guess this is a really good opportunity to improve my patience and interpersonal skills eh? ;)</p>
<p>^ lol some people just operate that way. my roommate is like that, she ends class at like 12PM whereas i go until 5PM, but when i come back to the room she just happily informs me that she has accomplished nothing in the past 5 hours but watch grey's anatomy, prison break, house, etc... and then start her homework after dinner at like 11PM. she says it's to get it "out of her system" so she can focus on schoolwork later. go figure... why don't you tell him to get a desk lamp and headphones so you can turn off the room lights and maybe invest in a good pair of noise cancelling earphones / ear plugs for when you sleep. and maybe sleeping pills. </p>
<p>last year i had THREE roommates, it was so bad i went to the library to take NAPS because my roommates would TALK LOUDLY when i was sleeping at 1AM, whereas they went to bed around 3. literally, i would be going to sleep and then i would hear "HEY ____! what's our homework again?? is she SLEEPING? HEY [insert my name here] ARE YOU ASLEEP? you aren't asleep i know it!... wake up we need to have our roomie talks!" </p>
<p>... yeah. but they are pretty fun haha, alot better when they aren't my roommate. my current roommate is so cute, she's tiny and helpful and is basically like my mom but not naggy. the only thing is she's soo quiet sometimes i feel like she isn't even there... and she's watching shows on her computer 24/7... and her studying schedule is inflicting itself on mine so now i don't study as much because she doesn't study...</p>
<p>lol those 3 am roomie talks sound fun...i'd probably be guilty of that.
but i'd hate being woken up early...</p>
<p>I have a single now. I had roommates for two years. They were overall good roommates, but it's never gonna happen again. I'd rather commute from home than have a roommate. There are few ways more effective to driving one completely insane.</p>
<p>My experience is so similar! I’ve been with my roommate for two years and may do so for my senior year (I’d much prefer a single but my job prohibits it). My roommate is generally quite good and I am very fortunate that we usually have a very good balance between our needs.</p>
<p>HOWEVER.
During the first year I never really noticed her quirks. I think part of it was I didn’t notice all of them, but a larger part was that she wasn’t comfortable enough to fully let her guard down. Now that we’re much closer and far more comfortable in each other’s presence, I’m convinced that I’m experiencing the full spectrum of her personality and behavior.</p>
<p>First: WHISPER-SINGING TO HER MUSIC. GAAAAAH. I am ****ing cursed! My freshman roommate did this too, and I HATED it. I don’t know how to describe what it sounds like, because before these two girls I had never heard anyone do it. It’s like they sing to the music but try very hard to not be loud so it ends up coming out in a raspy whisper. Which, ironically, is far more disruptive. It is much easier to politely ask someone not to sing out loud to their music. It’s incredibly difficult, however, to tell them not to whisper-sing, since I think they both do it to avoid distracting me. 
Oh, irony…</p>
<p>Second: Loud gum smacking Freakin a. Keep your gob shut. It’s not that hard. When I can hear it through my SOUND-BLOCKING earphones… that’s a sign that you are chewing too loud! Yes, it is indeed possible to chew too loudly!</p>
<p>Third: Watching ten shows every week. When she misses a show, she flips out and complains about it for days until if and when she can watch it online. It drives me nuts, especially because her shows come on when I typically study. But because she’s obsessed, there’s no getting around it. I’ve learned to live with it, but it drives me nuts.</p>
<p>Fourth: NEUROTIC TENDENCIES. Remember her obsession with multiple television shows? She has a whiteboard on her desk that she uses as a sort of ongoing to-do list. On that list includes a component called, verbatim, “TV I need to watch.” Need? NEED?! Geez, woman. </p>
<p>When we have semester breaks, she writes lists of things to do. Then she starts complaining about how stressful it is to have such a big list. When I ask her what’s on the list, she says “I have to watch these 5 movies, I have to catch up with these shows, I have to read these books,” etc. AAAARGH.</p>
<p>She reads several chapters in advance in every class. And we’re not talking like one chapter. We’re talking THREE OR FOUR. She complains constantly when a professor doesn’t post an assignment at least a week in advance, and frets and worries until she gets it done. Last semester, she had a take-home exam during finals. For about three days before she took it, she continually complaining about how stressed and worried she was about not completing it in time. She wasn’t stressed or worried about the actual material, but about the deadline! I asked her when it was due and it wasn’t due FOR AN ENTIRE WEEK. </p>
<p>Fifth: She times herself. She has a stopwatch on at all times.She was legitimately depressed when it broke. She will time herself when she is doing FUN THINGS. For study breaks, she’ll start reading a book or some comics, but will set her timer. The second it goes off, she stops immediately and gets back to work. </p>
<p>Here’s the worst thing about her neurotic behavior. Seems pretty clear that she’s got a mental issue with anxiety and compulsion, right? Well, it gets better. I’m also a very organized person and like to make lists and things. But she judges me for being that way! It’s so frustrating! She’ll make comments about my habits and sometimes it’s all I can do to not snap at her and inform her how much of a crazy she is. I can deal with her neurotic behavior, but for her to turn around and judge me is just infuriating!!</p>
<p>The only thing that has improved is her loudness. She is one of the mindbogglingly CLUELESS people who has no idea how loud she is. I swear to God that she habitually slams doors, drawers, and even her textbooks! At first I thought I was just being hypersensitive (I’m a very light sleeper), but I had a friend stay over and she only confirmed what I thought to be true. She told me that my roommate woke her up and asked me if my roommate was always this loud… imagine my relief to know that I wasn’t crazy!</p>
<p>But yes… overall I am lucky I have a roommate whose **** I can generlaly deal with. Right now I’m just particularly annoyed with her and really needed to get this off my chest. I really wish I could spend senior year in a single, but alas, you can’t always get what you want.</p>
<p>And yes, I realize I use a lots of Caps. :]</p>
<p>I have a suitemate (we share a bathroom) and he still gives me a crap load of trouble. He’s a frat guy and I tend to hear/see him being drunk often. Whenever he shaves, he leaves his hair all over the sink. He leaves the bathroom so unsanitary and I swear to God the bathroom smells of sex at times. He’s really uneducated so I can’t have many “good” conversations with him. He has his rap music on 90% of the time he’s in his room. This includes times like 2 AM at night. He talks to his girlfriend on the highest volume with speakerphone. I can hear their exact words through the wall. </p>
<p>Then last weekend he had a major fight with his girlfriend from 12-5 AM in the morning. He made her cry/breakdown, I’m almost certain they had harsh physical contact (punches/pushes), he kept banging the wall (he was probably drunk), I could hear things falling down. I couldn’t sleep. Our hall couldn’t sleep. He didn’t even answer the door when the RM knocked. Then next thing I know after he’s made his girlfriend breakdown in tears, I can hear them having sex… </p>
<p>I have a single room, and for good reason.</p>
<p>My wonderful freshman year roommate:</p>
<ol>
<li><p>Used my clothes without asking and usually took it while I was asleep or out of the room. It included my briefs and undershirts. He even used my towels while I was asleep or gone, and I would know this because I would take a shower at 8PM lets say and at 9AM it would be soaked. </p></li>
<li><p>He never wanted to do his laundry one month into the first semester. His corner of the room was piled up with dirty clothes(including mine that he didn’t tell me about) which made the room smell. </p></li>
<li><p>My friends didn’t want to come to my room anymore cause it stunk of his dirty laundry. </p></li>
<li><p>He would have an opposite sleeping schedule than me. When its morning/afternoon he would sleep and wake up at 6-7PM. Then when its night time and I’m sleeping he would be awake and bring his friends to my room and play games. The tv was right BELOW my bed and they would have pretty loud volume on and would laugh and yell like crazy. and yes it would be around 4-8AM. I would eventually wake up to a group of kids sleeping on the floor. </p></li>
<li><p>He one time used my electric shaver which is for my beard/facial hair. However, he used it to shave his HEAD. I woke up one morning and he asked me if his hair was okay. Lets just say he had four huge bald spots and his hair was really really $*@(ed up. Since my bed is lofted and I would have to step on my desk’s shelf, then my desk, then my chair to reach the floor, I looked at the floor and saw his hair all over. The A/C was on also so the hair he cut was blowing all over the f’en room. It was the MOST NASTIEST and frustrating time of my life. I asked if he used my shaver and he said no. My shaver had hair sticking out all over and it was wet as hell. The shelf it was one was also covered in his hair. Like come on, am I that stupid? Oh yeah, the shaver didn’t work after that day. </p></li>
<li><p>He would lie about everything. Things that I know for 100% sure, he would deny it. Even a one year old kid would know hes lying. </p></li>
<li><p>I would bring in all these bags of chips, cookies, juice, yogurts every Friday in the afternoon since I didn’t want to waste my meal swipes from the week. Since I was rushing/in a fraternity, I would be there the entire time from Friday night to Sunday afternoon/night. I would come back to seeing all the food gone. Like literally everything was eaten. He or his friends never asked about eating some also. </p></li>
<li><p>Whenever I ordered food, he would ask if he could have some. Whenever I ordered food and his friends were in the room, they’d ask if they could have some. Whenever they ordered food and they/he was in the room, he/they’d never offer me some. </p></li>
<li><p>After getting the food for the room on Fridays, I would also clean/vacuum the room so it would be clean just in case my friends would come. He would never offer to help, if he did he would clean the room the most filthiest way. Due to this, I would say I would clean the room since I did want a CLEAN room. However, coming back on Sunday I would see a trashed/dirty room with bags of chips(that were mine), bottles of water/gatorade(that were mine and I paid for), boxes of pizza/bags of chinese food/bags of Jimmy Johns, and pieces of paper on the floor. He would never want to clean it up or his friends. I even put my damn trash bin right next to the futon also, and I guess reaching out one-two feet is too much for them. </p></li>
<li><p>Whenever his friends would come to the room(almost every time), they would never greet me. All they do is just stare at me like as though I’m an alien and walk further into my room. At least have some respect and courtesy to greet yourself or say hello, especially if you come to my damn room almost everyday. </p></li>
<li><p>He would have his friends sleep over almost EVERY FREAKEN DAY. Literally my room could’ve been established as a motel. </p></li>
<li><p>He would use my slippers without asking when he went to take a shower. Oh yeah, he would also use shampoo and body wash without asking. This would also happen when I was sleeping or out of the room. </p></li>
<li><p>His “shower” would be around one-two minutes long. He would walk to the shower in his/my brief and come back in wearing the same brief, completely wet. So pretty much he showers in his briefs or yeah… He would dry up using one of his t-shirts he wore or a two month, unclean towel that was even sometimes mine…</p></li>
<li><p>Whenever I was sleeping or away from the room I would see/know he was using/used my computer without asking. Since I have a lot of private files and stuff, I’m pretty anal about people using my computer without asking. I would wake up and see him playing games on my computer, and he’d ask right then “It’s fine if I play Starcraft, right?”</p></li>
</ol>
<p>This is the best roommate, anyone can ever ask for.</p>
<p>^You should have talked to your RM about him doing this. Or gotten a REALLY big safe with a lock combination. Inconvenient yes, but if you’re gonna be stuck with someone like that for a year, then you might just need it. Or put a password on your computer. You need to be upfront with him, tell him that you’ll get him in trouble if he keeps up with it. If you don’t do anything about it then you deserve it, but otherwise that sucks for you. At least he didn’t have sex with girls in your room (I’m assuming b/c then you would have mentioned it), god only knows what the room would have smelled of and what he would have done with your items…</p>