<p>I'm a freshman and I started about 4 weeks ago and still haven't found friends to hang out with...</p>
<p>I'm not a socially awkward person.</p>
<p>I went to a new high school in a different district and after a week I found tons of friends and I knew tons of people and alot of people said I was a funny cool guy.</p>
<p>I moved in 4 days late to my dorm, so by the time I got here, everybody was already hanging out and knew each other.</p>
<p>My roommate already made friends with other people and doesn't really hang out with me. All we do is talk time to time and that's about it.</p>
<p>To make matters worse, I'm 8 hours away from home, and I can't transfer out of this school until I have 60 units and am a junior standing.</p>
<p>Not only that, but I only have 3 classes, 1 that's online lectures and I don't have anything to do.</p>
<p>I regret coming to this school, I should have just gone to CSUN where all my friends were and was closer to home.</p>
<p>I am so lost and I'm trying to find a solution but I am trapped here.</p>
<p>I can't even transfer out of here to a cc, because if I do i won't have a place to stay because my parents won't let me stay home.</p>
<p>Please help me I feel like I'm gonna go nuts.</p>
<p>Dude dont worry about it, it’s my 4th week as well and I don’t have many friends. Trust me you will make more friends, it just takes time. Usually you make friends when you least expect it, just try to talk to people and then add them on facebook- thats a way to make friends by networking to see who wants to hang out/study/go eat somewhere. trust me dude ur fine :)</p>
<p>Going to a school for friends is the worst decision you will ever make. Give it some time. Trust me, don’t think too much about it and go with the flow, you’ll make friends as you progress on.</p>
<p>You should not even be thinking about that right now. You’re four weeks into college and you’re already thinking about transferring because you haven’t made friends. Just go out and be social. You have to put in much more effort to make/maintain friendships in college than in high school.</p>
<p>One good thing about a light course load is that you have time to experiment with some extracurriculars. Check out various clubs and service groups for starters. Watch the bulletin boards for events where you might meet people. And, even if you aren’t super-outgoing, make an effort to meet people in the dorm, say hi when you encounter them on campus, etc.</p>
<p>Your late arrival no doubt put you at a disadvantage since you weren’t there when everyone else was lost and didn’t know anyone. But, a few weeks is nothing in the long run. Hang in there and you’ll do fine.</p>
<p>It may help to join clubs, get involved in a recreational sport, or a community service activity. I am sure you will be fine and make friends before you know it. So don’t give up!</p>
<p>lol seriously, look at your situation objectively. it’s been four weeks and you don’t have friends so you want to transfer colleges. it just sounds ridiculous and you’re worrying too much. things will get better</p>
<p>Get an on-campus job. It will help keep you busy and you’ll meet other students that way. Plus you’ll make some money and get work experience.</p>
<p>Though I am not yet in college, I can completely understand your situation because I have many friends far from home in the same situation, and I, myself, have been as far as Spain for 6 weeks without family. What you are experiencing, in my opinion, is seperation anxiety. I’m not saying you miss your parents or anything. I’m saying that you are uncomfortable in your situation, because it’s still out of your comfort zone and you haven’t made the connection yet. Believe me, several college students go through this. I know it is hard to be optistic when you feel so alone, but you have to understand that you have to be patient. You also have to put yourself out there. Join a club, go to a party, talk to the new faces you see, and add people on facebook. Get involved on campus. I’m not saying you aren’t, but you seem sure that you hate this place, but you haven’t even made it a semester. How can you determine how you truly feel about something when you haven’t had time to get the real taste of everything. It doesn’t happen over night. Of course there are situations where you just learn a school doesn’t fit you. You can’t decide that in one month, though. That’s not fair to yourself, or the school. I hope things get better for you</p>
<p>Join some clubs. Most of my friends at college were through clubs. I also lived in a residential college, so that was another way I made friends. But it was basically a giant club in itself. Clubs are awkward at first - everyone knows eachother… But you will be accepted in quickly and the more times you come weekly the easier you will integrate right in. Especially clubs with first years, or small clubs. Small clubs are looking to integrate new members quickly if they have recruited first years, and clubs with first years mean that lots of people are looking for friends. Good luck!</p>
<p>Part of your problem may be your attitude. Take another look at your replies to rofl and dejacree. I’m not trying to defend what they said. I am commenting only on your reaction to them. Given this type of reply, I wouldn’t be eager to meet you and I assume others would feel the same way.</p>
<p>“I never go places by myself.” Well, if you don’t have anyone to go with and you won’t go alone, you aren’t going anywhere. Take some chances here. Find a club or group that you have something in common with. Maybe it could be a band (not the school type). Maybe there is something that could interest you in town (assuming you are near a town or city). Start a club that focuses on something that interests you. Who knows, there may be other students looking for the same thing. Maybe you could speak with a professor and get an assistantship. Keep looking. Keep trying. The world is a big place and there are going to be plenty of people and things that will interest you. Just be a bit more patient.</p>
Give yourself a little time. Many kids don’t settle in with a group of friends until Thanksgiving or so. You have time, so actively seek out clubs and activities where you might find people with similar interests.
If you are truly miserable, contact CSUN. Tell them you made a mistake by not going there. If you got in as a freshman, they may find space for you to come as a mid-year transfer. There are always people who leave school for different reasons after a semester so space can open up.
Hope things work out for you.</p>
<p>With your attitude, it makes complete sense why you are not enjoying college. Being a downer gets you nowhere. I wasn’t suggesting going out alone, but I guess I somewhat am now. No one is going to come crawling to you begging to be your friend. Especially with the attitude of, “I’m not hanging out alone, so I’ll just stay home. GTFA, I don’t want your advice cause I don’t go to parties without friends, which I don’t have.” Well buddy, you’re alone because you refuse to try to meet people, which actually requires being social, which requires going out and getting involved. Also, you seem rude. People are not eager to make friends with the rude guy. Change the attitude, or stop complaining. You deserve everything you are experiencing if you react this way to people. I only gave you advice, but all you know how to be is defensive. So I pity you, but I see where your experience is coming from.</p>
<p>Another thing: You claim to be asking for help, but what do you want to hear? The truth is not satisfying you, and you refuse to look at all the possible reasons why you hate the school. And it makes you look ignorant to cuss and respond rudely to those trying to, for example, joke with you, and give you real life advice. You can disagree all you want. That’s your opinion, that’s your right. The truth is though, you don’t want help. You want to hear what you want to hear, and sometimes people aren’t going to give you that. Take a good look at yourself, and maybe consider changing some of your personal traits so you don’t run off people who could be potentially great friends.</p>
Good luck!</p>