<p>I don't mind drinking. Drink away.
Just don't do it in here. I said ok once thinking it would be like at most once a week thing.</p>
<p>NOOOo. I've been here for like a week? She already had people over like everyday of the week. I'm introverted, not confrontational, and I don't like having people in my space. I wish there was a wall of something but no. I'm in a studio. I want to tell her to stop bringing people (she brought people 2 in the morning when i was about to goto sleep) and then she complains about my typing 1 in the morning. </p>
<p>I wish she wouldn't have people here so often... what should I do? i'll probably eventually tell her but until then. (why am i so introverted)</p>
<p>You need to talk to roommate as soon as possible and set guidelines for your situation. Delaying doing this will hurt you because she's assuming that her actions are fine with you.</p>
<p>If you don't want people drinking in your room, don't allow it. </p>
<p>S, a freshman, doesn't drink and has 2 drinking roommates. S also is a bit shy, but still set the guidelines virtually immediately. Roommates have complied -- drinking elsewhere.</p>
<p>Also, underage drinking is illegal, so you always could tell your roommate that you don't want any drinking in your room because you fear that any resulting problems with the law could cause you to be kicked out of school and the U.S. I don't know if that's true, but I do think that their drinking in your room could place you at risk.</p>
<p>S found out that if anyone drank in his room, he could lose his merit scholarship, and that was the reason that he used in telling his roommates not to drink in his room.</p>
<p>If you have an RA, as your RA for advice on how to discuss the situation with your roommate.</p>
<p>You also need to set rules with your roommate about when guests are allowed. This needs to be something that the 2 of you decide in advance. Again, the sooner you discuss this the better. The longer you wait, the more she thinks her actions are fine with you.</p>
<p>Even though you previously told your roomie that it would be OK to drink in the room, you can revisit the discussion. Tell her that you're now more familiar with U.S. and the campus' laws, and now that you've been in the room a while, you realize that having drinkers around is uncomfortable for you, makes it difficult for you to study, and you also fear that the drinking in your room may place your immigration status and status at the university at risk.</p>
<p>You can say these things without blaming or attacking. You also can invite her to also bring up things that she'd like you to agree with so that your rooming situation runs smoothly.</p>